“My boyfriend always wants sex and I feel like I have to have sex to make him happy, it’s not like he makes me do it I choose to but I feel like I’m letting him down if I don’t. I’m 14 he’s 15”
Are you sick of being lectured in your Sex Ed? Bish is here to help with these cards for you to share and have that consent real talk with your mates
We might think that everyone else is enjoying sex more than us, but they’re not. Many people have a lack of pleasure from sex, even if they like solo sex.
To go on top without hurting their penis it’s a good idea to make sure that the penis is pretty hard. Then guide it in with your hand. Move slowly at first rather than bouncing up and down like you’re on a trampoline. Then keep checking in with them during sex that it’s comfortable, noticing their body language, facial expressions and how they might guide you with their hands and words. More detail below (obvs).
Here is the video guide to being a man. I also have a blog post about this but a lot of people prefer my boring voice for some weird reason.
Here’s advice to a guy who wants to show someone he cares for her even though he forced her to have sex. CN – talks about rape but there are no descriptions of anything.
So obviously this post talks about rape but also about painful sex and potentially abusive relationships. Do take care if you want to read this.
Read this fascinating article on the history of penis in vagina sex and why it is seen as the only kind of ‘proper sex’ – an awesome guest post by Dr Eleanor Janega.
Why does using a condom kill the mood and why I think that this is actually a good thing?
Eagle-eyed readers will know that I have a short survey that people can fill in to tell me about what they think about the website. I’ve had a few responses since I relaunched the website (mostly from the youngs). Here is representative sample of the kinds of things people have been saying.
Although there is no bone in the human penis (I’m only doing Sex Ed for humans here I’m afraid) you can break your penis.
Here’s the Bish guide to what is stealthing, why it’s bad, and advice for you if you are a would be stealther.
It can hard working out what we want, particularly from sex. Read this about how to choose a chocolate bar. I it might help you have better sex.
Note – this is all about choosing food, so if you are struggling with how you feel about food at the minute give this a miss. Also this might not be great for you if choosing things is something you struggle with a lot.
14 – 18 year olds! Have your say about relationships and sex education in the UK in this really quick survey. You have until Sunday 18th February to get your answers to me, so be fast!
Why do I always have vaginal discharge all the time. I’m only 15.and whenever I go to the toilet my knickers are always soaking wet, please help me, because I’m worried about it. It has a bit of an odour too.
I’m 14 and I got stretch marks from my growth spurt on my back and I don’t know how people will react. None of the other guys have stretch marks is there a way of reducing their visibility?
Your genitals are unique, as you can see in these drawings (by the most excellent Stuart F. Taylor). Warning, genital drawings ahead!
The university long distance relationship can be a hard one to maintain — but it’s totally possible. Ask each other these super real questions to help you.
You might be familiar with the idea of mates before dates but you probs call it something else (yeah I’m not using those terms). But basically it’s a reminder to a friend (mate) that they are spending too much time with a romantic person (date) and not enough with them. I think this is actually really great advice.
If you’ve had some basic AF sex education you might have been taught that there are only two sexes and two genders. Wrong. Sex and Gender is a lot more complicated than that.
A lot of men who have sex with women ask me about lasting longer, but should they? There are better things that men can be doing to help women enjoy sex more.
People aren’t really used to the idea of relationship negotiation (apart from maybe in politics) but I think it’s super important in romantic relationships too.
People often worry that they find masturbation better than sex. So here’s some advice if this is something that you think about.
I often get questions from people who worry about fantasies they are having. Here’s some advice about how to cope with your worries about fantasies and how to explore what they may mean.
Read this carefully if you are struggling with your body at the minute, hopefully you might find it helpful but it might also be difficult. The whole thing is about how we feel about our bodies but I don’t go into any detail about weight, diets or anything like that.
Play the Being Friends Board Game on your phones with your pals and learn how to be a good and nice friend along the way (whilst also showing that you are better than them).
For hundreds of years people have been looking for advice on how to seduce someone. Here’s the best advice.
Here’s a consent and sex guide that I’ve made for social medias. Can you help me share it?
This ones for the menz, the blokes, the lads, the fellas, the mandems, the guys, the chaps etc.
Advice for someone who is being slut shamed at school. A must read if you like to gossip about people or judge people for their sex lives. (Another long one, sorry about that)
***this post mentions some non-consensual sex***
So this is some homework for you. Think about all of the different reasons that people might have sex with someone (though solo sex totally counts as sex too). I’ve listed a few things below but just spend a few minutes thinking about all the reasons.
There are lots of different kinds of sexualities out there but how do you work out your sexuality? Well, like most things, it’s complicated.
Hear my advice for reader who has asked me that age old question ‘does he still like me?’
How to be good at sexting, how to deal with the risks and how to make sure it’s consensual. You have to be over 18 to take and send sexy pics (though you may not be prosecuted for this).
Advice for a reader on whether having sex with his girlfriend is the right thing to do.