Men have to look a particular way in porn so they probably don’t look like you (so don’t compare yourself)
Often the only naked bodies that we see are those that we see in porn, films, telly, newspapers, ‘men’s health’, women’s mags, lad’s mags, fashion mags, music mags, gadget mags, in sport, music videos. Most of the naked bodies we see in those places are muscly, not very hairy and don’t have spots. If we compared our normal bodies with the bodies we see in these places we might think that we aren’t very attractive: this is why it’s not a great idea to compare.
Read more about porn at the Educational Guide to Porn
The video and the piece below focusses on the men that we most often see in porn. There is often a lot more diversity in porn than people sometimes give it credit for. There are indie porn producers who are making porn which doesn’t follow the ‘rules’ about what men and women have to look like: including making porn which features trans* performers. There is also amateur porn which is more likely to show more ‘real’ looking bodies.
But most people who make porn seem to have a pretty narrow idea about what guys should look like: this is what I’m talking about below.
Erections
Erections are funny things. Sometimes when we really don’t want an erection they appear (for instance sitting on a bus) and sometimes when we really do want them (at sexy times) they go away. This is fine, erections are mainly psychological and if you are patient, relax, breathe and try to get into your sexy zone this will the pressure off the penis then it will get hard again. Although can people have really enjoyable sex without erections.
This happens to people in porn too. Imagine how the stress of having all the lights on, having people around watching, having a director telling you what to do, having a co-star(s) who you might not know very well: stress can make erections go away quicker than you can say ‘Mr Floppy is paying a visit’.
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People in porn aren’t sexy robots: this happens to them too, but if it happens to them on a porn shoot they might not get work again. There are loads of men who want to star in porn: guys who get wood get work. Remember also that some people might take viagra to stay hard. Also remember that porn is edited, so you don’t see the parts when people are struggling to get hard again, or taking a break for a cup of tea or to eat a sausage roll.
Penis size
Penises in porn have to be bigger than average size. Average size is between 5.1 and 5.7 inches when hard. Most porn producers ask for penises that are more like 7 – 9 inches. I have no idea why this is. This means that it’s only a small percentage of the penis owning population that qualifies to be a porn actor.
Other tricks are used to make penises look bigger. Such as using camera tricks. Camera shots are often focussed up close on the penis, showing its full length in wide screen and HD (often not showing the face that comes with the penis). Guys in porn are rarely overweight: having a slim and toned or muscly torso can make the penis look bigger. Also they often trim their pubes right back so that you can see the full length of the penis.
There are some porn scenes which feature very large penises which ejaculate enormous amounts. If you don’t see a penis directly attached to someone then it may well a fake plastic one.
How to feel better about having a small dick
Ejaculation
As well as staying hard, looking like they have a massive schlong, remembering their lines and wearing very tight t-shirts: men in porn usually have to be able to cum. Porn featuring penises puts a LOT of attention on the moment of ejaculation: they make a big deal out of this, it happens visibly (often on or over someone) and it usually happens at the end of the scene.
People don’t always ejaculate or orgasm when they have sex – contrary to what a lot of people believe, people can have really great sex without having their own climax. However in porn this is a big no no. Ejaculation is important and (like with erections), performers who can’t do it won’t get paid.
Some actors are also well known for being able to cum loads. Again this is a qualification for porn actors. Most guys come 1 or 2 teaspoons of semen. Sometimes the ejaculation is actually faked (sometimes this is obvious, sometimes it’s not).
Bodies
Apart from Ron Jeremy, it’s really important for male porn actors to be in shape. In porn ‘in shape’ means muscly, hairless, tanned, spot and rash free. Unlike female porn stars there doesn’t seem to be much diversity in body shape at all for males: they need to be hung, young and buff.
So remember that although there are loads of images of men looking hung, young and hench everywhere try not to compare yourself to them. They fart, belch, eat crisps, go to the toilet, have spots, have ‘I feel ugly’ days, wear comfortable rather than sexy pants, don’t always wash their hair, have unwanted hair, chew their nails, eat chips, eat with their mouths open, spill food down themselves too: just like everyone else.
Interested in reading more about porn? Try my A – Z of Porn
© Justin Hancock, 2019
Are there different sizes of Vaginas that it can explain why some prefer smaller or medium penises?
There are! Vaginas vary in size (width and length) just like penises. They also get change shape and size when they get aroused. There’s loads about this here Clitoris and Vagina
Interesting vid, i have an 8 inch girth is this normal ??
8 inch circumference or diameter?
NICE
Help I’m 18 and I’m a girl, my BF wants to hump me and I do to but I don’t know how to have sex can you help?
I’ve got more advice about how to have sex here How To Have Sex
I know numerous amounts of women who have cheated because their husbands or boyfriend’s have small penises. They are more curious and once they have experienced a bigger penis they are more prone to cheat
That might be true in your experience, but it’s not something I’ve heard much of in my 20+ years of being a sex educator. There’s a huge variation in penis size The Penis and vagina size Clitoris and Vagina , so some people may have a preference there. However, people are much much much more likely to cheat because of what is attached to the penis rather than the penis itself. Men are way more bothered about penis size than women.
My dick is only 6.5 long and 5.5 inch girth 🙁 size only matters if ur partner is not happy with ur size. We guys need to learn to satisfy our women rather than obsess over our penises it’s such a selfish mentality. Alot of the guys who are insecure about their size have no partner hence the insecurity. Anyway unless she has a cave instead of a vagina even a 4 inch penis should satisfy her xD. Its just to sell all these sexual products that dont even work.women want what all people want companionship not just sex. Make the woman fall in love with ur personality then why wont she love u from head to toe? Time to see the reality people. XD
that is a lot of girth. your not small
Dear medical point view size doesn’t matter.
In the time of sex is penis size importent?