I think a lot of people think that they have to compromise about sex. For example, if one person is really into a thing then we should do it to please them. We might think that it’s good to compromise, that life is about compromises, but I’m not sure I agree. Certainly when it comes […]
Here’s an explainer of what gooning is, why people do it, what some of the problems might be, and some sensible advice about it […]
What is queer sex is a simple sounding question but there isn’t one easy answer for it. Anyway, I get asked it so here’s how I respond. […]
Sex is is not always hard, fast, intense, rough, or kinky. Sometimes sex is slow, soft, gentle and deeply relaxing. This kind of sex is called vanilla sex, and a lot of people really love it. […]
Sex isn’t always a gentle, kissy-kissy, hand-holdy, flowers in meadows, magical soft focus, lovey dovey thing. Sometimes sex is hard and intense. A lot of people have, what is called, rough sex. Some some studies are showing that it’s pretty common with young people. So this article is about what rough sex is and why […]
Here I explain what kink is, why people might like it, why people might not like it, and how it can be done safely and consensually. Quite a few people have been asking me to write about this. […]
Learn more about No Nut November, how you can do it without being a dick, and some tips on how to get through a long long month! Also, advice on why you might not want to Destroy your Dick this December! […]
Apparently, sex can be awkward. Like, well awkward. Also, it can be massive cringe! Right? Who knew? So here we’ll find out why, why it’s not actually a bad thing, and what to do when sex is awkward. […]
Before we can think about enjoying sex or having the kind of sex we want we should think about how we can meet our needs from sex first. It’s important. […]
There are a lot of crap articles online about how to enjoy sex more, so thanks for clicking on this one. A lot of sex education and sex advice actually makes it harder to enjoy sex, so here’s some advice that I think will actually help you. […]
Here’s a fun quiz about sex! […]
I get asked about this a lot so here is a guide to consent and the law (in the UK, although it will be similar elsewhere too). Take care reading this if you are a survivor of a sexual assault because I talk about the technical aspects of sexual offences in a little bit of […]
Here’s a simple step by step guide to help you have the best first time sex possible. Because your first time can always be amazing. […]
This guide to ‘what is sex’ aims to answer the most frequently asked questions about sex in a simple and short way. Although yeah, the whole article is like an essay. I’ve tried to define each thing and then give some pointers for how to do them more consensually and safely. […]
Here’s a consent and sex guide that I’ve made for social medias. Can you help me share it? […]
So this is some homework for you. Think about all of the different reasons that people might have sex with someone (though solo sex totally counts as sex too). I’ve listed a few things below but just spend a few minutes thinking about all the reasons. […]
Read this fascinating article on the history of penis in vagina sex and why it is seen as the only kind of ‘proper sex’ – an awesome guest post by Dr Eleanor Janega. […]
A lot of men who have sex with women ask me about lasting longer, but should they? There are better things that men can be doing to help women enjoy sex more. […]
People often worry that they find masturbation better than sex. So here’s some advice if this is something that you think about. […]
I often get questions from people who worry about fantasies they are having. Here’s some advice about how to cope with your worries about fantasies and how to explore what they may mean. […]
Some people like to top and bottom when they have sex, but what is this, who does what and do you have to do it? […]
One question I get asked a lot is about what happens if two people were both drunk when they have sex – would it be consensual? […]
There’s just one thing you need to learn to be good at sex. Just one thing. Pay attention … […]
There are lots of reasons for having solo sex – but how often do we do it because we might enjoy it? Here’s why and also how. […]
Dry humping is extremely popular with my readers here at Bish. Here I explain what it is, why it’s so popular, how to make it (even) safer and how to enjoy it. […]
Think you know your stuff about sex? Try this deceptively difficult quiz about first time sex (ever or with someone else). […]
‘Should I have sex’ is for you to answer. Here’s some stuff to think about so that you are less likely to regret it if you do do it. (Remember, the law says you should be over 16.) […]
People always tell you about the sex you *should* be having. This helps you work out what kind of sex you like and might *want* to have. […]
How to talk about sex to make sure that it’s enjoyable and consensual without killing the mood. […]
How to have sex and how to make it good, especially for the first time. It should feel nice, not painful or uncomfortable. […]
Sex and the law. Under age sex, consent, rape, sexual assault, outside sex, porn, abortions, confidentiality, marriage… Boring but very important. […]
If you haven’t had sex before you can practice consent by thinking about handshakes! Find out how this works […]
There is no best sex position, it’s about finding the best one for you. This is about the basics, why people like particular positions but why it is different from person to person. […]
Good sex is all about consent. It’s easy to understand but hard to do […]
People talk about ‘erogenous zones’ but not everyone likes to be touched in the same places in the same way all the time. […]
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