This guide to ‘what is sex’ aims to answer the most frequently asked questions about sex in a simple and short way (although yeah, the whole article is like an essay). I’ve tried to define what each thing is and then give some pointers for how to do them more consensually and safely.

Here’s a consent and sex guide that I’ve made for social medias. Can you help me share it?

So this is some homework for you. Think about all of the different reasons that people might have sex with someone (though solo sex totally counts as sex too). I’ve listed a few things below but just spend a few minutes thinking about all the reasons.

Read this fascinating article on the history of penis in vagina sex and why it is seen as the only kind of ‘proper sex’ – an awesome guest post by Dr Eleanor Janega. 

A lot of men who have sex with women ask me about lasting longer, but should they? There are better things that men can be doing to help women enjoy sex more.

People often worry that they find masturbation better than sex. So here’s some advice if this is something that you think about.

I often get questions from people who worry about fantasies they are having. Here’s some advice about how to cope with your worries about fantasies and how to explore what they may mean.

Some people like to top and bottom when they have sex, but what is this, who does what and do you have to do it?

One question I get asked a lot is about what happens if two people were both drunk when they have sex – would it be consensual?

To be good at sex it’s really important to pay attention to the other person. Their noises, eye contact, what they say, how they breathe and how they move. If you pay attention to what’s going on in your body then it’s also more likely that you will enjoy it too.

There are lots of reasons for having solo sex – but how often do we do it because we might enjoy it? Here’s why and also how.

Dry humping is extremely popular with my readers here at Bish. Here I explain what it is, why it’s so popular, how to make it (even) safer and how to enjoy it.

Think you know your stuff about sex? Try this deceptively difficult quiz about first time sex (ever or with someone else). Don’t worry your results aren’t recorded or anything – it’s just for fun innit.

‘Should I have sex’ is a question for you to answer, not me, but here’s some stuff to think about.

People always tell you about the sex you *should* be having. This helps you work out what kind of sex you like and might *want* to have.

Sex talk is not always easy. But here are some tips for to help you communicate what you do and don’t want from sex.

How to have sex and how to make it good, especially for the first time. It should feel nice, not painful or uncomfortable.

Guide to under age sex (age of consent), consent, rape, sexual assault, outside sex, porn, abortions, confidentiality, marriage…. Boring but very important.

What it feels like to have really good sex with consent and how you can practice with handshakes.

There is no best sex position, it’s about finding the best one for you. This is about the basics, why people like particular positions but why it is different from person to person.

Good sex is all about consent. It’s easy to understand but hard to do

People talk about ‘erogenous zones’ but not everyone likes to be touched in the same places in the same way all the time.

Sometimes drunk sex can be good, but it can also be rubbish, unsafe, unwanted and can lead to mistakes. Learn how to handle it better here.

‘Sex’ is not just about entry sex. Here’s how you can have amazing sex that doesn’t involve putting anything in anyone.

How to masturbate (or wank for UK readers). Not everyone does it (which is chill AF) but having sex by yourself can feel really nice.

They make kissing look well easy on telly, but to start with it can be awkward. Here are some ideas on how to do it.

Although the cumshot might be big in porn, not everyone likes it in real life. If you want to do it or want someone to do it, please ask first!

How to deal with premature ejaculation and how to make sex last longer.