Dry humping. What it is and how to enjoy it more

Dry Humping

Dry humping is extremely popular with my readers here at Bish. Here I explain what it is, why it’s so popular, how to make it (even) safer and how to enjoy it.

What is dry humping?

Dry humping with clothes on. Great for people who don't have much privacy

There are lots of different variations of dry humping. Some of them are less ‘dry’ than others. Here are some examples (that I’ve just made up – warning sexy talk coming up):

We had like 10 minutes before the bus arrived so we spent that time kissing. I was pulling them towards me so our bits were pressing against each other while we were lipsing.

We’re really not into anal (although everyone assumes this is what we do all the time). We use massage oil and just rub ourselves over each other. Sometimes I orgasm from just doing this. It’s really hot.

We might just be snogging and I might wrap my thighs around her thigh and just grind really hard against that. Does it for me everytime.

I swear after she was pressing her bum into me when we were dancing. Oh my gosh. I had to sit down after to get myself together again.

It’s like we’re doing it in the missionary position I guess. It feels just like we’re f*****g, like they do in the movies. It’s hot and sweaty but she keeps her pants on.

I don’t have a dick but sometimes we like to pretend I do and we do it from behind. I get a lot of stimulation from that but also I really get off on doing this. We both are really into how it makes me feel in charge. Does that make sense?

So you can see that it can involve rubbing genitals together, or grinding against thighs, or pressing against someone’s bum cheeks, or massaging bodies together, or thrusting pelvises. Everybody’s body is different which means everybody likes different things.

Why are people into dry humping?

Dry humping with pants on. Rubbing genitals or thighs together

Often people think that entry sex👉👌 is the only thing that should be considered ‘sex’ (they are wrong of course). Not everyone can have that kind of sex or even enjoys that kind of sex. For example: penis in vagina sex, despite being very popular, is usually more stimulating for the penis than the vagina. This can also be true for penis in anus sex too.

With dry humping people can rub their most sensitive bits together (or against each other’s thighs) so they are giving each other similar levels of stimulation at the same time. It can be really sexy when people feel they are enjoying something as much as each other. Also people with penises then don’t feel they have to be hard, or feel under pressure to last longer. This kind of sex can include everyone (who wants to have sex). It’s a great form of safer sex. It’s good for people who don’t have much private space. So yay dry humping!

But it’s not for everyone (obv)

Everybody’s body is different, so just because I’m saying that lots of people enjoy it doesn’t mean everyone will or should. Important point that. Of course many people are asexual and probably won’t really enjoy something that is so sexual. Some people just prefer internal stimulation rather than this external stimulation. Some people like really gentle touch. Some people also prefer to keep their thighs close together to help them experience orgasms by clenching or rubbing themselves. All of this is fine (obvs), I’m not the sex police.

It’s also possible to cause damage to your bits doing this. Lots of rubbing can cause friction and can damage skin (which can sometimes lead to infections like thrush). Also small cuts can occur to the labia or the frenulum doing this, which can be a bit scary at the time (but usually they heal themselves after a couple of weeks).

People also worry a lot about a naked penis getting near a naked vagina and starting a pregnancy (although this is very very very unlikely). It’s also possible to transmit some less serious STIs like herpes and HPV this way.

Make dry humping safer

Use lubricant or massage oil to make dry humping wet and safer

  • Be careful with zips and buttons (for yourself and the other person)
  • Maybe use condoms or dams to cover the genitals that are touching each other to cut down the risks for STIs (though this doesn’t entirely reduce the risks)
  • If you’re doing a lot of grinding and body to body massage, maybe use something slippery like lube (silicone lube might be good for this) or massage oil (not with condoms). [I should probably say that my sponsors sell lubricant that can be used for massaging and is safe to use with condoms too #ad #keepDurexhappy]
  • If anything hurts or feels uncomfortable do stop (and if it looks like it is for your partner too)

How to enjoy dry humping more

Like with all kinds of sex (and all kinds of everything) it’s more enjoyable when we are in the moment and just experiencing a thing. Thing is, it can be really hard to do this. We get told by so many people about what kind of sex we should be having, how we should be doing it properly or that we shouldn’t be doing it at all.

When it comes to dry humping thoughts might pop into your head like “um does this really count as sex” “does this mean we’ve done it now” “will they think I’m weird” “I hope they don’t tell anyone” “does this mean I’m bi/gay/lesbian/straight?”

This can all be well distracting and so not hot. If you find your brain getting in the way of you enjoying sex like this, just try to go back to what is happening right now. Notice what’s happening to your body, their body, your noises, their noises, how things feel, how your breathing changes, their facial expressions. You know, all this stuff.

More about having enjoyable sex

How to have amazing sex without having ‘sex

Why we need to take the pressure off hard ons

How to have sex (including how to have entry sex)

© Justin Hancock, 2016


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    Emi

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    hello everyone, i wanna say something & its really important so i need you to focus on it please.
    lets start, i’ve dry humped my boyfriend few time, and my period was late for 9 days. i kept freaking out and i’ve been stressed out for real. i got tired from stressing myself so i was like screw it ! whatever happens happens..
    i got my period after 9 days late, lemme say the truth its actually happened after i stopped stressing myself about it..
    girls, stress can delay your periods for real, you can’t get pregnant from dry humping, relax & chill, try to stop thinking please & you’ll get your period, trust me i’ve been in the same situation.
    good luck girls <3 !

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      Justin Hancock

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      Thank you so much for saying this!

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