I Had Sex With This Other Girl When I Was Drunk

I Had Sex With This Other Girl When I Was Drunk

Audio advice for someone who has sex with someone else when drunk. 

I’m 20, He’s 15 – Am I in Trouble?

I’m 20, He’s 15 – Am I in Trouble?

Audio Bish! Advice for a guy who had sex with someone under age. 

Masturbation Isn’t Working For Me

Masturbation Isn’t Working For Me

Some advice for when masturbation isn’t working (it’s okay not to masturbate)

Am I Ready for a Relationship?

Am I Ready for a Relationship?

Audio advice to a reader who is wondering whether, they are ready for a relationship, now they are in high school.

I’m Getting Pressured Into Sex

I’m Getting Pressured Into Sex

Audio advice, from Justin, for someone getting pressured into sex from everyone at school.

We Need Help Saying No

We Need Help Saying No

We sometimes all need help saying no. It’s not just for teens. Listen to Justin give some advice about it.

Cumming on Faces – how can I persuade her?

Cumming on Faces – how can I persuade her?

Advice about how to talk about what it is that you are both into, not just cumming on faces (and about why we shouldn’t try to persuade anyone to do anything).

I Can’t Get Hard, Is It Because of Porn?

I Can’t Get Hard, Is It Because of Porn?

Reassuring and useful audio advice for a reader who can’t get hard (it’s not because of porn).

How do the guys in porn last so long?

How do the guys in porn last so long?

How *do* the guys in porn last so long? I asked one. Here’s what he said.

What is safe to put up your bum

What is safe to put up your bum

A reader has a question about putting a marker pen up his bum. I say, ‘please don’t, it’s not safe.’

‘I feel guilty masturbating while thinking about celebrities’

‘I feel guilty masturbating while thinking about celebrities’

I masturbate to porn. I also masturbate over sexy pics of famous celebrities. They haven’t necessarily consented so is what I do wrong?

“My Parents Say No Sex Before Marriage”

“My Parents Say No Sex Before Marriage”

How would you suggest dealing with the issue of parents saying, “no sex before marriage?”

Ask Bish – Our friend has been harassing a friend

Ask Bish – Our friend has been harassing a friend

Advice for a reader whose friend has been sexually harassing a friend via text (and is pissed off about it).

Ask Bish – He Won’t Sext Me, I’m Really Frustrated

Ask Bish – He Won’t Sext Me, I’m Really Frustrated

Advice on how to keep having sex in a long distance relationship. My first audio response! Exciting!

Ask Bish – Fingering Problems

Ask Bish – Fingering Problems

Advice to someone worried that they can’t cum but also that they bleed when they do fingering. 

Ask Bish – Should I Get Paid to Have Sex?

Ask Bish – Should I Get Paid to Have Sex?

Advice for a reader who is unsure about whether she should keep getting paid to have sex. Advice on the risks of sex work and how to make it safer.

Ask Bish – An open letter about low risk sex and pregnancy worries

Ask Bish – An open letter about low risk sex and pregnancy worries

tl;dr – pregnancy is very very unlikely from dry humping, wanking and sex with condoms.

Ask Bish – I’m not enjoying sex

Ask Bish – I’m not enjoying sex

Advice for some who’s not enjoying sex. What do we really mean by enjoying sex and how do we learn to have it?

Ask Bish – Can we be friends after a break up?

Ask Bish – Can we be friends after a break up?

Is it possible or a good idea to be friends after a break up?

Am I Pregnant?

Am I Pregnant?

Frequently asked questions, answered with a pretty picture: “I am freaking out, am I pregnant?”

Ask Bish – Should I have sex with someone I met online

Ask Bish – Should I have sex with someone I met online

My advice for a girl in an age gap relationship and whether she should have sex with her boyfriend who she met online.

How Can I Make Her Squirt?

How Can I Make Her Squirt?

The first in a series of frequently asked questions, answered with a pretty picture. First up “how can I make her squirt?”

Ask Bish – I’m ashamed of erections

Ask Bish – I’m ashamed of erections

A question about feeling ashamed of erections, sexual desire and being male (which I’ve split into 3 sections).

Ask Bish – Pressured into oral?

Ask Bish – Pressured into oral?

Advice about how to deal with being forced and pressured into oral sex. Warning: talks about sexual assault.

Ask Bish “I’m so scared I might poo my pants”

Ask Bish “I’m so scared I might poo my pants”

Advice for someone about feeling anxious about pregnancy, dealing with friends with benefits fall out and life stuff.

Ask Bish – “I’m Getting Tired of Being Used.”

Ask Bish – “I’m Getting Tired of Being Used.”

Some advice on how to deal with being in a relationship with someone in a relationship and being tired of being used.

Ask Bish – I’m so confused after an abusive relationship

Ask Bish – I’m so confused after an abusive relationship

Some advice for someone who is feeling confused about sex and relationships after an abusive relationship. Warning contains reference to abuse.

Ask Bish – Can you still have kids if you’ve been sexually abused?

Ask Bish – Can you still have kids if you’ve been sexually abused?

*Contains references to child sexual abuse*

Advice to a reader about how to get support for her friend.

Ask BISH – my relationship is great, but I’m not sure I fancy them

Ask BISH – my relationship is great, but I’m not sure I fancy them

Advice on why sexual attraction might sometimes go in a relationship and how to deal with that.

Ask Bish – How should I have sex if I’m a lesbian?

Ask Bish – How should I have sex if I’m a lesbian?

There are no magic tricks for how to have sex, no matter what your sexuality, as everyone is different every time they have sex …

Ask Bish – I’ve hurt myself masturbating

Ask Bish – I’ve hurt myself masturbating

A reader has injured herself masturbating with an electric toothbrush. Advice from Dr Ranj on the injury and from me on DIY sex toys.

Ask Bish – “Is it wrong to get sexually aroused very often?”

Ask Bish – “Is it wrong to get sexually aroused very often?”

Latest #AskBish is about sexual urges, whether they are ‘normal’ and do women have them?

Ask Bish – ‘I’m autistic, will I get in trouble for masturbating?’

Ask Bish – ‘I’m autistic, will I get in trouble for masturbating?’

Advice for a reader about masturbation. Warning: there’s a reference to sexual abuse.

Ask Bish – Is He Just Using Me For Sex?

Ask Bish – Is He Just Using Me For Sex?

We have sex up to 3 times a day, is he just using me for sex?

Ask Bish – Masturbation and Porn Are Against My Religion

Ask Bish – Masturbation and Porn Are Against My Religion

Advice to a religious reader on how to give up masturbation and porn.

Advice Hijack – My Boyfriend Is Addicted To Porn So I Left Him

Advice Hijack – My Boyfriend Is Addicted To Porn So I Left Him

An occasional column where I get so annoyed by other advice columnists that I try and give better answers (it’s not like I have enough to do) …

Ask Bish – Being Pressured Into Giving Oral Sex

Ask Bish – Being Pressured Into Giving Oral Sex

Warning. Contains references to sexual assault/rape.

Ask Bish – Your Questions Answered. Advice for someone who’s friend’s boyfriend is forcing them both to give him oral sex.

Ask Bish – I Can’t Orgasm At All

Ask Bish – I Can’t Orgasm At All

Ask Bish – Your Questions Answered. Even if we know our stuff about sex, it doesn’t mean we always enjoy it.

Ask Bish – Should I Tell Her I Love Her?

Ask Bish – Should I Tell Her I Love Her?

Love’s seen as this big heavy do or die type thing. Think harder about your feelings and think of what you would like to change.

Ask Bish – ‘Full’ sex, anal sex and pregnancy

Ask Bish – ‘Full’ sex, anal sex and pregnancy

Ask Bish – Another reader is worried about being pregnant but there might be other things to worry about too :/

Ask Bish – I Don’t Understand Sex, Help?

Ask Bish – I Don’t Understand Sex, Help?

Sex isn’t as easy as some make it out to be …

Ask Bish – When do balls ‘drop’?

Ask Bish – When do balls ‘drop’?

Ask Bish about how and when balls drop (and why one is lower than the other)

Ask Bish – Why Does My Clitoris Hurt?

Ask Bish – Why Does My Clitoris Hurt?

Ask Bish – Your Questions Answered. What might be the causes of a painful clitoris (and when it’s time to tell mum).

Ask Bish – He Doesn’t Like To Go On Top and I Don’t Know How

Ask Bish – He Doesn’t Like To Go On Top and I Don’t Know How

If you have different kinds of sex then it’s easier to do it in a position that you both find comfortable.

Ask Bish – I have a strong desire to have sex but no arousal

Ask Bish – I have a strong desire to have sex but no arousal

An ‘Ask Bish’ about arousal and desire but also about being ready for sex, what sex means and what we expect from sex

Ask Bish – Will watching porn prevent me being a teacher?

Ask Bish – Will watching porn prevent me being a teacher?

I’ve watched porn. Is it going to stop me getting a job as a teacher?

Ask Bish My Vagina Smells and Is Itchy, Is That Normal?

Ask Bish My Vagina Smells and Is Itchy, Is That Normal?

My vagina smells and is itchy: is that normal?

Ask Bish – Am I Too Young To Have Sex?

Ask Bish – Am I Too Young To Have Sex?

My advice for a 13 year old who wants to know whether she’s too young to have sex

Ask Bish – Am I a Slut For Giving a Blowjob?

Ask Bish – Am I a Slut For Giving a Blowjob?

Advice for someone who was told by their mum that you have to be in love with someone before you give them a blowjob.

Ask Bish – Where Can I Go For an STI Check Up?

Ask Bish – Where Can I Go For an STI Check Up?

Where to go for a check up for STIs?

Ask Bish – If I’m 16 and she’s 15 is it against the law?

Ask Bish – If I’m 16 and she’s 15 is it against the law?

Whether under age sex against the law is different to what actually happens. I explain more here.

Ask Bish – I Hate My Vagina

Ask Bish – I Hate My Vagina

Advice for someone who hates the way their vagina looks (after ex said it looked bad – that bit made me ANGRY SEX EDUCATOR)

Ask Bish – Who can I talk to about anxiety about STIs and pregnancy?

Ask Bish – Who can I talk to about anxiety about STIs and pregnancy?

Sexual health services in the UK aren’t just places for you to get condoms, contraception, STI check ups, pregnancy tests and stuff. You can also go to chat about any worries or concerns you have about sex or your sexual health.

Ask Bish – Your Site Sucks (and can you answer our questions)

Ask Bish – Your Site Sucks (and can you answer our questions)

Not everyone is a fan of bishUK.com but I answer their questions anyway.

Ask Bish – Is There a Safe Way to Make My Penis a Bit Bigger?

Ask Bish – Is There a Safe Way to Make My Penis a Bit Bigger?

You might have read about penis enlargement techniques. Surgery, jelqing, pills, devices are all explained here as well as tips on being happier with penis size.

Ask Bish – I Just Can’t Enjoy Vaginal Sex But I Really Want To

Ask Bish – I Just Can’t Enjoy Vaginal Sex But I Really Want To

Advice for someone who enjoys sex but finds vaginal sex painful.

Ask Bish – How can I have sex without it hurting?

Ask Bish – How can I have sex without it hurting?

Advice about why penis in vagina sex shouldn’t be painful, even for the first time.

Ask Bish – Masturbation With A Marker Pen

Ask Bish – Masturbation With A Marker Pen

Advice on why masturbation with an orange marker pen is perhaps not a great idea

Ask Bish – Should I Tell Her I’m Bisexual

Ask Bish – Should I Tell Her I’m Bisexual

Advice for a guy on whether to tell a girl they are bisexual.

Ask Bish – Does Circumcision Affect Sensitivity?

Ask Bish – Does Circumcision Affect Sensitivity?

I’m often asked by young men whether circumcision makes their penis less sensitive.

Ask Bish – Worried I’m Not Measuring Up To Her Ex’s Penis Size

Ask Bish – Worried I’m Not Measuring Up To Her Ex’s Penis Size

There are a lot of myths about how the vagina works, just like there are loads of myths about dick size and orgasms. I explain it here to a worried reader.

Ask Bish – I Can’t Get Hard

Ask Bish – I Can’t Get Hard

Sometimes it can be hard to get hard. Usually this is because we are putting a lot of pressure on penises. Poor penises.

Ask Bish – We Didn’t ‘Fully’ Do It, Am I Pregnant?

Ask Bish – We Didn’t ‘Fully’ Do It, Am I Pregnant?

Pregnancy worries from a couple who had penis in vagina sex without a condom but didn’t ejaculate

Ask Bish: Vagina Bleeding After Masturbation

Ask Bish: Vagina Bleeding After Masturbation

A young woman worried about why she is bleeding after masturbation, Some background on what this might be but also one of those times when it’s best to get checked out.

Ask Bish: I’m Insecure About My Body

Ask Bish: I’m Insecure About My Body

Some advice on how to deal with low body confidence and how to overcome this in order to be sexual with someone (whatever ‘sexual’ means)
Ask Bish Really Stressed About Dry Humping and Pregnancy

Ask Bish Really Stressed About Dry Humping and Pregnancy

It’s not easy getting pregnant, and it’s much much much harder getting pregnant if you don’t have penis in vagina sex. Here I try to help de-stress someone who thinks she might be.
Ask Bish – Lying To Get Laid

Ask Bish – Lying To Get Laid

Is it ok to lie about your age to someone? Eg to pretend to be older than you actually are.

Ask Bish – I feel guilty about saying no

Ask Bish – I feel guilty about saying no

Some advice about how to deal with feeling guilty about saying no. Remember guilt is just a feeling and we don’t have to act on feelings. Keep saying no, regardless.
Ask Bish – I Am Unable To Orgasm When I Masturbate

Ask Bish – I Am Unable To Orgasm When I Masturbate

Having an orgasm is something we can learn – like juggling

Ask Bish How to overcome my fears about having sex

Ask Bish How to overcome my fears about having sex

How to deal with the first time fears but also how to deal with the pressure to do it.

Ask Bish Foreskin

Ask Bish Foreskin

Advice on how to make sure that foreskin slides over the penis properly.

Ask Bish Taking Ages To Cum

Ask Bish Taking Ages To Cum

Advice on how to deal with delayed ejaculation or orgasm.

Ask Bish I’m 16 But Haven’t Kissed

Ask Bish I’m 16 But Haven’t Kissed

We can often feel under pressure to do something by a certain age. This is advice about how to take the pressure off.

Ask Bish Ok To Shut My Eyes?

Ask Bish Ok To Shut My Eyes?

Of course it’s OK to have sex with your eyes closed but it can make negotiating what you want harder.

Ask Bish Jealous of Partner’s Friends

Ask Bish Jealous of Partner’s Friends

my boyfriend met some female friends a few months ago at work and they hang out weekly. it makes me jealous.
Ask Bish Masturbating Too Much?

Ask Bish Masturbating Too Much?

Hello I’m 15 almost 16 and I masturbate at least 3 times a day… How can u help it make it towards where I don’t masturbate so much??
Ask Bish Stats on Teen Relationships

Ask Bish Stats on Teen Relationships

The average age of first time sex is …

Ask Bish Lasting Longer

Ask Bish Lasting Longer

Lots of people want to last longer. There tips on that here but also advice on why it doesn’t matter.

Ask Bish I Love Her But She Says She’s Straight

Ask Bish I Love Her But She Says She’s Straight

How to deal with big time feelings and someone who wants you but doesn’t

Ask Bish Bit scared…

Ask Bish Bit scared…

Advice for someone who looked at Bish and found it all a bit scary (that’s cool).

Ask Bish Female Ejaculation

Ask Bish Female Ejaculation

Advice (and links) about what we do and don’t know about ‘female’ ejaculation (ie from the vulva)

Ask Bish Should I trust her?

Ask Bish Should I trust her?

A question about trust in relationship but an answer about classism and prejudice.

Ask Bish – Under Age Kissing?

Ask Bish – Under Age Kissing?

Is it okay to snog someone under 16?

Advice Hijack Delayed Ejaculation

Advice Hijack Delayed Ejaculation

(an occasional series where I have a go at answering questions sent into other advice columns where, if they had more space, I think they could have given a better answer). I enjoy sex with my girlfriend but can’t ejaculate during sex. We have had sex six times and no matter how much I try I still can’t. Does my masturbation habit cause this? (from here)

Ask Bish How To Tell People I Like Them?

Advice about how avoiding rejection is just another way of experiencing rejection.

Ask Bish Oral Sex Risks in an Open Relationship

Ask Bish Oral Sex Risks in an Open Relationship

I’m in an open relationship, and am a little confused about STI testing and how careful to be.

Ask Bish, Body Image

Ask Bish, Body Image

“I’m really scared that my boobs may not be as perfect as others …” Advice on feeling better about your body

Ask Bish – What if you fancy a friend?

Ask Bish – What if you fancy a friend?

Is it okay to fancy a friend: would it ruin the friendship?

Ask Bish. I fancy my friend’s ex.

Ask Bish. I fancy my friend’s ex.

If one fancies someone’s ex girlfriend, who was unpleasantly dumped by her ex boyfriend, but the boy in question is a friend of yours, is it wrong to ask her out after a shortish period..?

Ask Bish: Oral Sex Risks

Ask Bish: Oral Sex Risks

Just how risky is a blowjob without a condom?

Don’t Ask Danny, Ask Bish!

Don’t Ask Danny, Ask Bish!

 

You may have heard about the controversy of Danny Dyer’s advice to a young man in Zoo Magazine (read about it here if you like). But I don’t think that the letter was answered properly, so I’m going to have a go! Be aware though I’m not in the least bit hard, I’ve never knowingly said the word geezer and I actively avoid getting into fights.