Did I Consent?
A reader asks ‘did I consent’? It’s a complex story with a complex answer. There aren’t any graphic descriptions of any particular sexual activities here. […]
A reader asks ‘did I consent’? It’s a complex story with a complex answer. There aren’t any graphic descriptions of any particular sexual activities here. […]
The Teach Yourself Sex Ed course continues and this week we are going to think about Consent. It will involve you choosing a chocolate bar and watching TV with someone. So pretty hard work. Remember, as with everything here at Bish, this is for everyone over 14. […]
My latest book is Can We Talk About Consent? It’s a book about freedom, choices, and agreement. Where you can learn about how to actually do consent, rather than just being lectured about how important it is. The illustrations, by Fuchsia Macaree, are amazing. Like with everything at this website, it’s for over 14s. […]
I get asked about this a lot so here is a guide to consent and the law (in the UK, although it will be similar elsewhere too). Take care reading this if you are a survivor of a sexual assault because I talk about the technical aspects of sexual offences in a little bit of […]
Are you sick of being lectured in your Sex Ed? Bish is here to help with these cards for you to share and have that consent real talk with your mates […]
Here’s a consent and sex guide that I’ve made for social medias. Can you help me share it? […]
Why people sext, how to practise safer sexting and why sexting can be a problem […]
If you haven’t had sex before you can practice consent by thinking about handshakes! Find out how this works […]
Good sex is all about consent. It’s easy to understand but hard to do […]
Here’s an explainer of what gooning is, why people do it, what some of the problems might be, and some sensible advice about it […]
Joy is both the absence of feelings that prevent us from feeling happy, but also the ‘increased capacity to be’ emotion. Here’s how to feel joy. […]
Shame is the ‘I’ve done something wrong emotion’. Or at least it should be. As with all emotions, shame can be incredibly useful. However, it’s an incredibly difficult emotion to feel, so people might just turn away from it and refuse to learn from it. We might call this ‘being shameless’. […]
Find out what sexual bullying is, why it’s in all of our interests to stop it, and we can deal with it if it happens to us. […]
Content note for this one. The reader asked about whether it is normal to feel sick after the first time, but you might find the question a bit upsetting. […]
Here’s a ranty article about sex and politics and what the right think about sex, relationships, and you. There are absolutely no jokes or funny bits in this at all. […]
Learn about how the porn industry operates as part of capitalism and why the system should probably change. […]
Sex is is not always hard, fast, intense, rough, or kinky. Sometimes sex is slow, soft, gentle and deeply relaxing. This kind of sex is called vanilla sex, and a lot of people really love it. […]
My advice about feeling guilty for not sending nudes. It’s about how we ask and also about the FOMO should story. […]
A tricky question about under age sex and the law. My advice on the law but also about what is ethical and how we can learn from our mistakes. […]
Sex isn’t always a gentle, kissy-kissy, hand-holdy, flowers in meadows, magical soft focus, lovey dovey thing. Sometimes sex is hard and intense. A lot of people have, what is called, rough sex. Some some studies are showing that it’s pretty common with young people. So this article is about what rough sex is and why […]
Here I explain what kink is, why people might like it, why people might not like it, and how it can be done safely and consensually. Quite a few people have been asking me to write about this. […]
We’re back again at Teach Yourself Sex Ed classes. This week we’re going to explore bodies – not like that, obviously. […]
In a recent Q&A session I did for a school (teachers, book yours here) I was asked this very good question: how do I get over the shame of sharing a nude? […]
Are you over 14? Having some sex and relationships education at school this year? Play along with this Bad Sex Ed Bingo card and see how good or bad it was. […]
Welcome back, this is lesson number 8. This one is about the sex we see: so yeah, this is the porn one I guess. The point is though, porn isn’t the only kind of sexual image that people see or look at. […]
Finally, we get to the sex bit. In this lesson we’re going to be critical of what ‘sex’ is and why it’s important for us to do that. We’re going to learn about how we might enjoy sex and why agency and consent are important in this. Lastly we’re going to cover safer sex. […]
This week of teach yourself sex ed is all about relationships. Again, this is sex and relationships education, not advice, the difference being that it’s more about getting you to think critically about relationships. […]
The Teach Yourself Sex Ed course continues and this week we are going to think about gender, you, and culture. Start thinking about chocolate bars, mmmmm. Remember, as with everything here, this is for over 14s. […]
Spoilers ahoy! Here’s my sex and relationships education guide to It’s A Sin. Advice, thoughts, and useful information and links to accompany the show.
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The Teach Yourself Sex Ed course continues and this week we are going to think about you and ‘the self.’ That’s right, you. We’re going to be giving ‘you’ a big up and also think critically about ‘the self’. We shall also learn about agency and self-care. […]
The first of the ‘teach yourself sex ed’ course is all about the relationships and sex education that you’ve had so far. What did you learn? Who taught you? […]
Christmas, gatherings or holidays, are often really stressful for a lot of people. This Christmas in particular is going to be even more stressful given what’s happening in the world. If we tried to have more consensual festivities, it would be a lot more fun. […]
If we understand how bullying happens then we might be able to deal with it better. As it’s about power and freedoms it’s something we can all help tackle. […]
Trust in relationships is really complicated but also a very important topic. This article is a bit philosophical, and political, but also has great advice. […]
Life is too short to watch TV you don’t want to, so here’s how you can ‘Netflix and choose’ with someone else so you’re both watching something you enjoy. […]