How To Worry
Learning how to worry can be really valuable for us and the people / world around us. This guide is about why this is and how we might do it. […]
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How the Big Porn Companies Treat Their Viewers
The big porn companies are not offering a great public service and they treat their viewers really badly. They treat their viewers as workers. Tell them what their desires are. Deliberately leave them unsatisfied and then neg them into buying things. They also don’t treat the people who appear in many of the clips well […]
Capitalism and Porn
Learn about how the porn industry operates as part of capitalism and why the system should probably change. […]
Vanilla Sex
Sex is is not always hard, fast, intense, rough, or kinky. Sometimes sex is slow, soft, gentle and deeply relaxing. This kind of sex is called vanilla sex, and a lot of people really love it. […]
I Feel Guilty for Not Sending Nudes
My advice about feeling guilty for not sending nudes. It’s about how we ask and also about the FOMO should story. […]
Under age sex and the law
A tricky question about under age sex and the law. My advice on the law but also about what is ethical and how we can learn from our mistakes. […]
What is Rough Sex
Sex isn’t always a gentle, kissy-kissy, hand-holdy, flowers in meadows, magical soft focus, lovey dovey thing. Sometimes sex is hard and intense. A lot of people have, what is called, rough sex. Some some studies are showing that it’s pretty common with young people. So this article is about what rough sex is and why […]
What is Kink?
Here I explain what kink is, why people might like it, why people might not like it, and how it can be done safely and consensually. Quite a few people have been asking me to write about this. […]
How to Convince People to Get Their Vaccine
As we’re now vaccinating younger people (hello!) I thought I’d give you some advice about how to convince people to get their vaccine. The vast majority of people are getting their vaccines (where available) but we can always encourage more. […]
Why Won’t He Top Me?
‘Why won’t he top me?’ My advice on why men might not want to top their girlfriends and what this actually means. […]
Teach Yourself Sex Ed – Bodies
We’re back again at Teach Yourself Sex Ed classes. This week we’re going to explore bodies – not like that, obviously. […]
How Do I Get Over The Shame of Sharing A Nude?
In a recent Q&A session I did for a school (teachers, book yours here) I was asked this very good question: how do I get over the shame of sharing a nude? […]
Bad Sex Ed Bingo
Are you over 14? Having some sex and relationships education at school this year? Play along with this Bad Sex Ed Bingo card and see how good or bad it was. […]
Teach Yourself Sex Ed – Sex
Finally, we get to the sex bit. In this lesson we’re going to be critical of what ‘sex’ is and why it’s important for us to do that. We’re going to learn about how we might enjoy sex and why agency and consent are important in this. Lastly we’re going to cover safer sex. […]
Teach Yourself Sex Ed – Consent
The Teach Yourself Sex Ed course continues and this week we are going to think about Consent. It will involve you choosing a chocolate bar and watching TV with someone. So pretty hard work. Remember, as with everything here at Bish, this is for everyone over 14. […]
Teach Yourself Sex Ed – Sexualities
This week’s teach yourself sex ed is on sexualities. What they are, why this applies to all of us, and how to make it easier for people to ‘be’ a sexuality. […]
Teach Yourself Sex Ed – Gender, You, and Culture
The Teach Yourself Sex Ed course continues and this week we are going to think about gender, you, and culture. Start thinking about chocolate bars, mmmmm. Remember, as with everything here, this is for over 14s. […]
Teach Yourself Sex Ed – You and The Self
The Teach Yourself Sex Ed course continues and this week we are going to think about you and ‘the self.’ That’s right, you. We’re going to be giving ‘you’ a big up and also think critically about ‘the self’. We shall also learn about agency and self-care. […]
Teach Yourself Sex Ed – What You’ve Learnt So far
The first of the ‘teach yourself sex ed’ course is all about the relationships and sex education that you’ve had so far. What did you learn? Who taught you? […]
Consensual Festivities
Christmas, gatherings or holidays, are often really stressful for a lot of people. This Christmas in particular is going to be even more stressful given what’s happening in the world. If we tried to have more consensual festivities, it would be a lot more fun. […]
How Bullying Happens
If we understand how bullying happens then we might be able to deal with it better. As it’s about power and freedoms it’s something we can all help tackle. […]
My Sex Dreams Feel Better Than Sex in Real Life
What does it mean if sex dreams feel better than sex in real life? Does it reveal ‘truths’ about your sexuality and relationships? […]
Tips for No Nut November
Learn more about No Nut November, how you can do it without being a dick, and some tips on how to get through a long long month! Also, advice on why you might not want to Destroy your Dick this December! […]
Can We Talk About Consent?
My latest book is Can We Talk About Consent? It’s a book about freedom, choices, and agreement. Where you can learn about how to actually do consent, rather than just being lectured about how important it is. The illustrations, by Fuchsia Macaree, are amazing. Like with everything at this website, it’s for over 14s. […]
Boyfriend Watching Porn
This week’s Ask BISH is from someone asking about their boyfriend watching porn. Do all men watch porn? […]
How to Netflix and Choose
Life is too short to watch TV you don’t want to, so here’s how you can ‘Netflix and choose’ with someone else so you’re both watching something you enjoy. […]
Sliding Into Someone’s DMs
We should treat sliding into someone’s DMs in the same way that we might speak to someone we don’t know in public. […]
My Friend Was Forced into Sex and I’m Worried
Content note: I talk about sexual violence but try to avoid going into lots of detail. […]
Freedoms and COVID
If you’re a fan of BISH then you’ll know that we are all about consent. And consent is about freedom and choices and agreement. But because of COVID we are all being asked (or forced) to do things that we haven’t agreed to, which restrict our freedom to choose. […]
How to Talk About Safer Sex
It’s super important to talk about safer sex, just as it’s important to talk about what we want and need from sex. Safer sex is something we should all be bringing up more often. We should be paying attention to reducing risks before, during, and after every sexual encounter. […]
Is it normal that I only want to give and not receive during sex?
Is it okay to only want to give and not receive during sex? Read my advice about dynamics during sex, consent, power, and non-simultaneous sex. […]
How To Be Sad
For a lot of reasons, sadness is hard to do. It’s sad to be sad, and who wants to be sad? Well actually it’s really important for you to learn how to be sad. It can really help you, everyone around you, and the world around you too. […]
How to be Angry
Anger has a very bad reputation. However, if you can learn how to be angry better it can really help you, everyone around you, and the world around you too. […]
Solidarity
Although it’s important to understand where we do and don’t have power and privilege, it’s also important to learn about solidarity. […]
Learning About Racism Resources
As the uprising in America, and solidarity protests around the world continue I thought I’d put together a few podcasts, books, TV shows, and documentaries about racism. As you know this website is aimed at everyone over 14s so I’ll try to make these appropriate for the same age group. There are so many and […]
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