Can You Help BISH?

Thousands of young people visit here everyday to get answers about sex and relationships. To keep helping those young people I need your help with funding and promotion.


This is one of the best sex and relationships advice and information websites for young people online. To help me promote the website and to spend more time working on it I have a Patreon fundraiser. Can you join my extremely generous and wonderful Patrons and support BISH with a monthly subscription via my Patreon. I feel like if we can get 2000 £1 subscribers a month then that will be pretty good.

If you can’t do that could you chip in a few quid directly to my PayPal.

If you can help me get other funding please get in touch. I’m reluctant to do site sponsorship or adverts (I’d rather go the crowdfunding route), but do let me know if you have any thoughts.


BISH is a pretty popular website, with thousands of visits per week and over a million unique visitors in the last 12 months. I have a survey for young people to give me their thoughts about the website and they are very positive, 69% of young people rated it ‘very helpful’, with 15% saying it was ‘helpful’. You can read more about what young folk say about BISH.

You can also see what academics, researchers, sexual health professionals, and agony aunts and uncles say about BISH here. This website was included in the UNESCO Switched On Symosium looking at sexuality websites for young people. BISH was praised for having ‘an intelligent response’ to providing resources which focus on both safely and pleasure.

However, despite it being so popular I think that it’s still a bit of a well kept secret. A lot of the young people contacting me say that I should promote more. This is really hard to do because:

  • People don’t like sharing stuff about sex education online
  • Facebook and Instagram don’t like sex education materials (I’ve had a number of posts taken down without even being told)

Can You Promote IRL?

If you work with young people in real life IRL (school, college, youth clubs, clinics, university) I’ve made some A4 posters that you could print out. Hopefully you will like them and if you can print them out that would be awesome. Click on the image for full size.

My wonderful Patrons have actually funded a print run of posters and I can send some of these to you for free. More details on that here, but if you could chuck in some cash towards your postage that would be even more awesome.

Promote online

I already get a lot of visitors per year and the vast majority of those are via google search, which means that for a few search terms BISH is at the top or near the top of the search results. Mostly search engines like well written and relevant blog posts, but they also like to triangulate the quality of the website by looking at who links to it. This is where you can help!

If you can link to BISH from your website that would be awesome. It seems that the best links for would be from government or academic institution websites, so if you can link for one of those that would be especially good. In particular if you could link to your favourite posts in the love, or about you section that would be awesome because I think those sections could do with a boost (and there is a lot of crap advice online about these I would like to counter).

From what I’ve learnt reading about Search Engine Optimisation, I may not benefit from being linked to from porn sites so if you work in porn maybe could you link from your social media instead?

Speaking of which, BISH is on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube so if you could spread the word about those that would also be great.


So my readers think that this website material is valuable and from speaking to academics, researchers, and practitioners in the field they seem to really like the BISH approach, but I’d love to get that in writing! For those of you I know I’ll be emailing you directly about this but for those I don’t, if you like it here, could you send me a quote?  Perhaps think about:

  • why you might recommend young people visit BISH?
  • what does BISH do that other sources of information can’t do/don’t offer?
  • what might make you trust the advice here?

It would be really useful for me to be able to convey to my funders (and potential future funders) that what I produce here is of generally good quality, so it would be great if I could include your quote and name in reports. If you can do this could send me a few lines via the contact page that would be extremely awesome. NB this is just about this website, not my teaching resources at Bish Training.


As you might have gathered, it’s just me here at BISH and so evaluating what I’m doing is all down to me (which isn’t great). I have a on-going qualitative survey, google analytics (which I don’t really understand), reader comments, and what stakeholders say to me in person or in their talks about the website. I have quite a lot of information to do a process evaluation but I don’t have a great deal of evidence about the impacts or outcomes of the website. I know other research has been done about sexual health websites by UCL, and there is the work by Natsal 3 but it’s all pretty limited. So if you are out there doing a Masters or a PhD and want a sex and relationships advice website to research — HELLO hit me up via the contact page.

Pay For Your Sex Education

I’m a freelance sex and relationships educator and trainer. So I still rely on people paying for sex education in real life to help me to keep doing this. I know that a lot of sex educators use the ideas here to help them plan their sessions, or even just use bits of the website in their lessons. I don’t mind doing that, but remember that what I’m offering here is advice and I don’t think that advice = good sex education. So would you consider buying one or all of the many RSE resource packs I have available at my website for practitioners.

As well as teaching resources I also have an activity book which you can use in lessons or in one-to-one work. It’s a bargain at £20 for sex educators because you can download it and print it as many times as you like. If you want to have a look at this for free you can here, because I’ve made this available, in a lower resolution version, for free/donations on this website for my readers. If you’re a parent, you can have that for just £3.

If you’re a teacher needing free RSE resources, why not head over to DO… RSE for Schools where you can download some cracking lesson plans written by me and Alice Hoyle. You can also join our facebook group, RSE for Schools, if you want.

Thanks So Much

If you can do any of these things for me that would be really great. This has been really hard for me to do because I don’t like asking for help (fragile masculinity), but one of my main difficulties is advocating for my own stuff and what I really need is some help doing that. So even if you could just pick a post on here that you think is great and just share it with someone you like that would be awesome.

© Justin Hancock, 2021.

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If you like could you please share it with your peoples. BISH is also on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube. No I’m not on TikTok.

Do leave a comment below if you have anything you’d like to add or if you have questions. I moderate all comments before they go live. Click here to ask me a question

Click here to give me feedback about the website

If you’re an adult with cash, please consider supporting my Patreon, just £1 a month would be really helpful. If I get enough Patrons I’ll make some resources for educators too. You could also chip in directly via my PayPal. So if you could help with that I’d be very grateful. You are my only source of funding at the moment.

If you’re over 18 and really into sex ed I have a podcast you might like called Culture Sex Relationships.

If you want to teach about this stuff, don’t just show people a website – that’s kinda boring! Check out my very popular RSE resources at

Justin Hancock has been a trained sex and relationships educator since 1999. In that time he’s taught and given advice about sex and relationships with thousands of young people in person and millions online. Find out more about Justin here

4 thoughts on “Can You Help BISH?

  1. I love, love, love this site and recommend to all the young people (14 & up) that I work with in schools, it answers all the weird and wonderful questions that young people have and its a good balance to getting all your sex ed from Porn …… keep up the good work!!!

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