BISH a guide to sex, love, and you (14+)

BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. Here’s what people say about it!

“Just wanted to say thank you so much for your legendary website which has changed – improved – mine and I’m sure many others’ lives” […]

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A Young Person

“I know when I link to information on BISH that it will be straightforward, reassuring, and give useful ideas…” […]

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An Agony Aunt

BISH is created by me, Justin Hancock. I’ve been a sex educator and worked in sexual health services and online since 1999. I do training courses for professionals, and I’m a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. Read more about me and the website.

If you need help in person click here to find out about sexual health services. You are welcome to ask me questions but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There’s a search bar and a menu of different categories up at the top ☝️.

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I’ve also written a book about consent, called Can We Talk About Consent? It’s great and it’s available worldwide and in several translations. Find out more about it here.

Latest BISH posts

crushes and unrequited love bish

Crushes and Unrequited Love

- Crushes and unrequited love aren’t always bad, in fact sometimes they can be good. Here’s some expert advice from me, a sex and relationships educator since 1999 (who might also have experienced the odd crush or two in my time). [...]

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How to make friends

How to Make Friends

- We all feel lonely from time to time, yes even me. A bit of loneliness is fine and it’s actually a useful feeling because it reminds us that we need to make new friends, (re)connect with people, and the world around us. [...]

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how to impress someone you like (and should you even try)

How to impress someone you like

- Someone asked me an interesting question the other day. How to impress someone you like? Or should you even try to impress someone you like? Should you try to impose yourself on them, or should you let them try to impose themselves on you? Do you only present the best sides of you, or is [...]

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It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It’s for all genders (trans inclusive) and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot. Like most sexual health projects / organisations around the world, we’re pro sex worker rights (full decriminalisation of sex work) and pro trans rights.

Important posts

What is sex - expert answers to frequently asked questions

What Is Sex?

- This guide to ‘what is sex’ aims to answer the most frequently asked questions about sex in a simple and short way. Although yeah, the whole article is like an essay. I’ve tried to define each thing and then give some pointers for how to do them more consensually and safely. [...]

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Sexual Health Services Bish

Sexual Health Services

- Learn more about sexual health services for all ages in the UK. What they are, where they are, what they do and what going to a clinic is like. [...]

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Guide to relationships. Drawings of diverse range of young people in front of a heart

A Comprehensive Guide to Relationships

- In this guide to relationships: we'll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. [...]

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If you’re a teacher please remember this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. It’s for young people who are thinking about sex and relationships to get some advice and education for themselves. For RSE resources head to Bish Training, my website for practitioners. Feel free to signpost students, you can print posters from the support page.

Support BISH

This is one of the most respected online sexuality and relationships education resources with thousands of young people visiting every day. There are no ads and it’s entirely crowdfunded. Please consider supporting BISH with £1 a month to keep the show on the road.

If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at We wrote a sex advice book called A Practical Guide to Sex and we also have some zines. I also run a podcast called Culture Sex Relationships.

If you a) are over 18 and b) have money, you might be interested in my Solution Focused coaching service. So if you are struggling with sex, relationships, and you generally, you might find it really useful. We would work to find what resources you already have to help you to realise your best hopes. It’s really effective and you may well only need one or two sessions. Find out more at my coaching page here.