BISH a guide to sex, love, and you (14+)

BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. Here’s what people say about it!

“A place where young people can explore real questions and concepts, about themselves, their bodies and how they relate to others” […]

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“Good guides to relationships, sexual health & wellbeing are hard to come by, but when one comes along we MUST support!” […]

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Dr Ranj Singh

BISH is created by me, Justin Hancock. I’ve been a sex educator and worked in sexual health services and online since 1999. I do training courses for professionals, and I’m a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. Read more about me and the website.

If you need help in person click here to find out about sexual health services. You are welcome to ask me questions but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There’s a search bar and a menu of different categories up at the top ☝️.

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I’ve also written a book about consent, called Can We Talk About Consent? It’s great and it’s available worldwide and in several translations. Find out more about it here.

Latest BISH posts

how to make sex and relationships chats easier BISH

How to make sex and relationships chats easier

- I’ve had nearly 25 years experience of making it easier to chat about sex and relationships, here are some of my top tips. [...]

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my parents don't approve of my sexuality will I find love

My Parents Don’t Approve Of My Sexuality, Will I Ever Find Love?

- Here’s some advice for you if, for whatever reason, your parents don’t approve of your sexuality and you are worried you will never find love or relationships. [...]

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I can orgasm but I can't cum, help! Expert advice from BISH

I Can Orgasm But I Can’t Cum, Help!

- My advice to a reader who can have orgasms but can’t cum (ejaculate). What’s going on here and is it even a problem? Read on for some expert advice. [...]

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It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It’s for all genders (trans inclusive) and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot. Like most sexual health projects / organisations around the world, we’re pro sex worker rights (full decriminalisation of sex work) and pro trans rights.

Important posts

What is sex - expert answers to frequently asked questions

What Is Sex?

- This guide to ‘what is sex’ aims to answer the most frequently asked questions about sex in a simple and short way. Although yeah, the whole article is like an essay. I’ve tried to define each thing and then give some pointers for how to do them more consensually and safely. [...]

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Sexual Health Services Bish

Sexual Health Services

- Learn more about sexual health services for all ages in the UK. What they are, where they are, what they do and what going to a clinic is like. [...]

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Guide to relationships. Drawings of diverse range of young people in front of a heart

A Comprehensive Guide to Relationships

- In this guide to relationships: we'll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. [...]

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If you’re a teacher please remember this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. It’s for young people who are thinking about sex and relationships to get some advice and education for themselves. For RSE resources head to Bish Training, my website for practitioners. Feel free to signpost students, you can print posters from the support page.

Support BISH

This is one of the most respected online sexuality and relationships education resources with thousands of young people visiting every day. There are no ads and it’s entirely crowdfunded. Please consider supporting BISH with £1 a month to keep the show on the road.

If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at We wrote a sex advice book called A Practical Guide to Sex and we also have some zines. I also run a podcast called Culture Sex Relationships.

If you a) are over 18 and b) have money, you might be interested in my Solution Focused coaching service. So if you are struggling with sex, relationships, and you generally, you might find it really useful. We would work to find what resources you already have to help you to realise your best hopes. It’s really effective and you may well only need one or two sessions. Find out more at my coaching page here.