BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. Here’s what people say about it!
“I know when I link to information on BISH that it will be straightforward, reassuring, and give useful ideas…” […]
“It’s perfect for young people without being too cringe“ […]
BISH is created by me, Justin Hancock. I’ve been a sex educator and worked in sexual health services and online since 1999. I do training courses for professionals, and I’m a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. Read more about me and the website.
If you need help in person click here to find out about sexual health services. You are welcome to ask me questions but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There’s a search bar and a menu of different categories up at the top ☝️.
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I’ve also written a book about consent, called Can We Talk About Consent? It’s great and it’s available worldwide and in several translations. Find out more about it here.
Latest BISH posts
Compromise and Sex
- I think a lot of people think that they have to compromise about sex. For example, if one person is really into a thing then we should do it to please them. We might think that it’s good to compromise, that life is about compromises, but I’m not sure I agree. Certainly when it comes [...]
BISH News June 2025
- A small update of a few announcements and ways that you can help me out at BISH. [...]
How Many Genders Are There?
- When I’m running Sex Ed workshops people often ask me ‘how many genders are there?’ I usually say something like, ‘well on one level there’s like three genders, but on another there’s more like a thousand’. Here I’ll explain why that’s my answer. I think it’s a really useful way for us all to think [...]
It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It’s for all genders (trans inclusive) and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot. Like most sexual health projects / organisations around the world, we’re pro sex worker rights (full decriminalisation of sex work) and pro trans rights.
Important posts
Sexual Health Services
- Learn more about sexual health services for all ages in the UK. What they are, where they are, what they do and what going to a clinic is like. [...]
How To Have Sex – how to make it pleasurable
- How to have sex and how to make it good, especially for the first time. It should feel nice, not painful or uncomfortable. [...]
A Guide to Relationships – expert relationship education
- In this guide to relationships: we'll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. [...]
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“Better to point teenagers to more realistic sources, such as BISH, a British website that answers all sorts of niche questions that trouble young people as they begin stumbling their way through sexual relationships.” The Economist. Find out more about the (positive) things that the media say about me and also some of the work I’ve done for the BBC, the Financial Times, Mashable, The Telegraph, Novara Media, Sky One and others!
If you’re a teacher please remember this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. It’s for young people who are thinking about sex and relationships to get some advice and education for themselves. For RSE resources head to Bish Training, my website for practitioners. Feel free to signpost students, you can print posters from the support page.
Support BISH
This is one of the most respected online sexuality and relationships education resources with thousands of young people visiting every day. There are no ads and it’s entirely crowdfunded. Please consider supporting BISH with £1 a month to keep the show on the road.
Other support for over 18s
If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at megjohnandjustin.com. We wrote a sex advice book called A Practical Guide to Sex and we also have some zines. I also run a podcast called Culture Sex Relationships.
If you a) are over 18 and b) have money, you might be interested in my Solution Focused coaching service. So if you are struggling with sex, relationships, and you generally, you might find it really useful. We would work to find what resources you already have to help you to realise your best hopes. It’s really effective and you may well only need one or two sessions. Find out more at my coaching page here.
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