BISH is for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. So this website is aimed at everyone over 14. Thousands of teens and adults come here every day (usually via web search). I try to make BISH as inclusive as possible: cis straight lads like it as much as LTBTQIA people. I’m based in the UK, so I say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot.
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BISH is created by me, Justin Hancock. I’ve been a sex and relationships educator since 1999, working in classrooms, clinics, and online. I do training courses and create resources to help people do Sex Ed. I’m also a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. Read more about me and BISH.
If you need help in person click here to find out more about sexual health services in the UK (they are free and confidential). You are welcome to ask me questions. But before you do, please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site.
Key articles
Sexual Health Services
- Learn more about sexual health services for all ages in the UK. What they are, where they are, what they do and what going to a clinic is like. [...]
How To Have Sex – how to make it pleasurable
- How to have sex and how to make it good, especially for the first time. It should feel nice, not painful or uncomfortable. [...]
A Guide to Relationships – expert relationship education
- In this guide to relationships: we'll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. [...]
Here are some quotes from people who like BISH (including one famous person).
“A place where young people can explore real questions and concepts, about themselves, their bodies and how they relate to others” […]
“Just wanted to say thank you so much for your legendary website which has changed – improved – mine and I’m sure many others’ lives” […]
I’ve also written a book about consent, called ‘Can We Talk About Consent?’ There’s free audio and video and the book is available worldwide and in several translations. Find out more about it here.
Latest articles
He Talks About ‘Putting a Baby Inside Me’ …
- My advice for someone who is worried when he says that ‘he wants to put a baby inside her’. He says it’s a fetish and he doesn’t want to get her pregnant. Should she be worried? Is this a thing? [...]
Rude Word Quiz!
- You’ve told me you love a quiz, so here’s a rude word quiz! [...]
My Girlfriend Doesn’t Want Me to Look At Porn
- I was asked this lately in person and I said I’d answer it here. What to do if your girlfriend (or partner generally) doesn’t want you to look at porn? Does it count as cheating? Is it okay to just carry on looking at porn and not say anything? Should you just give it up? [...]
Who funds BISH?
It used to be sponsored by a major condom manufacturer (yes that one) but now it’s funded by me and by people like you. This means that I can keep producing materials and answering your questions without having to worry about a big backer pulling out. If you want to get involved and chip in £1 a month, or support BISH without money, head to the support page.
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BISH in the Media
“Better to point teenagers to more realistic sources, such as BISH, a British website that answers all sorts of niche questions that trouble young people as they begin stumbling their way through sexual relationships.”
The Economist
My work has been featured in lots of news outlets (mostly positively), such as BBC Ideas, BBC Radio 4 (I was in this documentary with Jameela Jalil), the Financial Times, Mashable, The Guardian, Novara Media, Sky One and others!
My other work
If you’re a teacher please remember this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. For RSE resources head to Bish Training, my website for practitioners. Feel free to signpost students so they can find answers to their questions you can’t answer. You can also print posters from the support page.
Find out about all the other work I do (zines, podcasts, training, one-to-ones) at the website about me, Justin Hancock.
Support BISH on Patreon