A guide to sex, love and you.

For everyone over 14.

Sponsored by Durex

BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex and/or relationships. Hopefully it’s for all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot. If you need help IRL click here to find out about sexual health services.

You can Ask Bish if you have a question but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There is a LOT here so do have a click around and see if I’ve answered your question. There are videos here or you can see them all at YouTube.

I also have an activity book to accompany this website. It has activities to help you to work out how to do you, sex, and relationships. It’s just £3 or free if you don’t have cash and it’s the perfect thing to have on your phone or even to print out. Check it out here, it even has join the dots genitals!

Do leave comments (I pre-moderate them all), or you can follow me via twitter or instagram. See what people like you say about this website and you can also have your say. If you would like to help make the website better you can get involved here. To find out more about BISH (formerly Best In Sexual Health), Durex, and me (hi) go here.

If you’re an adult trying to teach young people about sex and relationships, thanks for dropping by but this isn’t a teaching resource. Head over to my website for practitioners for resources or check out DO… RSE for Schools.

Latest From BISH

Can You Help BISH?

Can You Help BISH?

This website is mostly read by young folk (it’s most popular with teens and twenty somethings) who are looking for some top notch advice and information for themselves. However, I also know that there are a few fans of BISH who are here because they are teachers, or academics, or activists, peer sex educators, or parents. So this one is for them. Thanks for coming and I hope you find BISH helpful, but can you also help me?

Who do you follow on social media

Who do you follow on social media

So you know how there are people who are famous on social media, like: Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, MySpace, Bebo, etc? Well, a lot of these people are famous in talking about sex, relationships, sexuality, gender, which is obviously what we’re all about here at BISH.

Make First Time Sex Better

Make First Time Sex Better

People often say that first time sex with someone (ever, or someone new), is always a bit rubbish, uncomfortable or even painful. None of this is true (especially the bit about sex being painful for the first time).

What Is Sex?

What Is Sex?

This guide to ‘what is sex’ aims to answer the most frequently asked questions about sex in a simple and short way (although yeah, the whole article is like an essay). I’ve tried to define what each thing is and then give some pointers for how to do them more consensually and safely.

Talking About Talking

Talking About Talking

One of the most basic bits of relationships advice that literally everyone will give you is that communication is vital.

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How To Be Attractive

How To Be Attractive

Here’s some advice for anyone who is struggling with feeling attractive, which includes any incel readers I may have. Don’t worry, I’m not going to yell at you or give you a bollocking. Here’s my best advice instead.

(Sidenote — this stuff is not easy. I know that many of you have tried some of these things. I can’t guarantee that this advice will get you laid, but I can guarantee that it will make your life a bit easier.)