A guide to sex, love and you.

For everyone over 14.

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BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. I’m trying to make it well inclusive. For all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot.

If you need help in person click here to find out about sexual health services. You are welcome to ask me questions if you like (I like questions, particularly about relationship stuff) but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. I also have an activity book to accompany BISH here.

If you want to chat you can leave comments (I pre-moderate them all), or contact me on twitter or instagram or YouTube, or my new facebook group.

Young people and professionals love this website. Find out what BISH (used to be Best In Sexual Health) and more about Justin here.

If you have the means, please consider supporting BISH on Patreon.

Here are the latest articles, but click on the menu to find what you’re looking for.

What Can I Do When They Lose Their Hard On?

What Can I Do When They Lose Their Hard On?

“So, when boys i have gotten with have been drunk, I’ve noticed it’s been tougher for them to get/stay hard. Is there anything I can do in that situation to make it less awkward or to help them maintain their erection because a lot of the time they get embarrassed by it.”

How Do I Learn To Deepthroat So He Won’t Leave Me

How Do I Learn To Deepthroat So He Won’t Leave Me

I would like to know how do I learn about deepthroat. My boyfriend loves it but I am scared to vomit. Please help me with guidance, I am now scared that he would end up looking for another girl

Orgasm and Ejaculation are Different

Orgasm and Ejaculation are Different

Tl;dr, orgasm and ejaculation are different. Sometimes they happen at the same time, but that doesn’t mean they are the same thing. People can ejaculate without orgasms, and people can orgasm without ejaculating. This is true for people with vulvas and clitorises, and also for people with penises.

Humping a Pillow, Is It Normal?

Humping a Pillow, Is It Normal?

“How I masturbate is by humping a pillow, is it normal though?” Read more for top advice and statistics on pillow humping.

My Lad Friends are Calling Me a Slut

My Lad Friends are Calling Me a Slut

My advice to a reader who is having a nice time pulling in clubs but getting ‘bants’ from her lad friends who are calling her a slut. Booooo. 

My Friend is in an Abusive Relationship

My Friend is in an Abusive Relationship

My advice to someone who is worried that her friend is in an abusive relationship and needs support.

If you’re teaching about this please promote BISH to your (14+) students (here are some posters for you to print), but this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. Head over to my website for practitioners for resources or check out DO… RSE for Schools.

If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at megjohnandjustin.com we have a podcast, a book, zines, and blogs. It’s for over 18s.