BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. Here’s what people say about it!

“It’s perfect for young people without being too cringe“ […]

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A Young Person

“I send people to Bish because it’s trustworthy, nuanced, and covers all the important areas for sexuality and relationships education.” […]

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Professor of Public Health

If you need help in person click here to find out about sexual health services. You are welcome to ask me questions but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There’s a search bar and a menu of different categories up at the top ☝️. Also I’ve created a Coronavirus tag so you can find the posts that might be relevant for you right now.

Important posts

What is sex - expert answers to frequently asked questions

What Is Sex?

- This guide to ‘what is sex’ aims to answer the most frequently asked questions about sex in a simple and short way. Although yeah, the whole article is like an essay. I’ve tried to define each thing and then give some pointers for how to do them more consensually and safely. [...]

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Sexual Health Services Bish

Sexual Health Services

- Learn more about sexual health services for all ages in the UK. What they are, where they are, what they do and what going to a clinic is like. [...]

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Guide to relationships. Drawings of diverse range of young people in front of a heart

Guide to Relationships

- In this guide to relationships: we'll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. [...]

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It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It’s for all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot. Read more about BISH.

Latest BISH posts

how big porn companies treat their viewers

How the Big Porn Companies Treat Their Viewers

- The big porn companies are not offering a great public service and they treat their viewers really badly. They treat their viewers as workers. Tell them what their desires are. Deliberately leave them unsatisfied and then neg them into buying things. They also don’t treat the people who appear in many of the clips well [...]

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capitalism and porn

Capitalism and Porn

- Learn about how the porn industry operates as part of capitalism and why the system should probably change. [...]

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what is vanilla sex?

Vanilla Sex

- Sex is is not always hard, fast, intense, rough, or kinky. Sometimes sex is slow, soft, gentle and deeply relaxing. This kind of sex is called vanilla sex, and a lot of people really love it. [...]

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If you’re teaching about this please promote BISH to your (14+) students (here are some posters for you to print), but this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. Head over to my website for practitioners for resources.

If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at We wrote a sex advice book called A Practical Guide to Sex and we also have some zines. I also run a podcast called Culture Sex Relationships.

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