A guide to sex, love and you.

For everyone over 14.

Sponsored by Durex

BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex and/or relationships. Hopefully it’s for all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot. If you need help IRL click here to find out about sexual health services.

You can Ask Bish if you have a question but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There is a LOT here so do have a click around and see if I’ve answered your question. There are videos here or you can see them all at YouTube.

I also have an activity book to accompany this website. It has activities to help you to work out how to do you, sex, and relationships. It’s just £3 or free if you don’t have cash and it’s the perfect thing to have on your phone or even to print out. Check it out here, it even has join the dots genitals!

Do leave comments (I pre-moderate them all), or you can follow me via twitter or instagram. See what people like you say about this website and you can also have your say. If you would like to help make the website better you can get involved here. To find out more about BISH (formerly Best In Sexual Health), Durex, and me (hi) go here.

If you’re an adult trying to teach young people about sex and relationships, thanks for dropping by but this isn’t a teaching resource. Head over to my website for practitioners for resources or check out DO… RSE for Schools.

Latest From BISH

Dams

Dams

Dams are a thin sheet of latex or plastic which are used when people have oral sex. Although a lot of people would like to use them they are getting very difficult to find. So here is a quick blog about why people use them, and how you can make your own.

STI Quiz!

STI Quiz!

You are always telling me how much you love a quiz so here, have an STI quiz. You are very welcome.

What is Sex Quiz

What is Sex Quiz

You all haven’t been reading my ‘What is Sex’ post enough, so I’m testing you on it to make you feel bad.

Gaslighting in Relationships

Gaslighting in Relationships

Gaslighting in relationships is when someone manipulates someone so that they doubt their own mental health. It’s one of the many possible signs of an abusive relationship. 

Consent and the Law

Consent and the Law

I get asked about this a lot so here is a guide to consent and the law (in the UK, although it will be similar elsewhere too). Take care reading this if you are a survivor of a sexual assault because I talk about the technical aspects of sexual offences in a little bit of detail. 

Painful sex – how to have penis in vagina sex without pain

Painful sex – how to have penis in vagina sex without pain

Painful sex is something that a lot of readers contact me about – usually from young women with vaginas experiencing pain after trying penis in vagina sex (also known as intercourse or, to some people, as ‘sex’). So that’s what this is about. I’ll tell you the causes of why sex can be painful which should give you some advice about having sex without pain. A lot of this may also be true for painful anal sex.