A guide to sex, love and you.

For everyone over 14.

Sponsored by Durex

BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. I’m trying to make it well inclusive. For all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot.

If you need help IRL click here to find out about sexual health services.

You can Ask Bish if you have a question but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There is a LOT here so do have a click around and see if I’ve answered your question.

I also have an activity book to accompany this website check it out here.

Do leave comments (I pre-moderate them all), or you can follow me via twitter or instagram. There are videos on here and at YouTube, please subscribe and tell your friends. If you want to discuss Bish with me, you could join my new facebook group.

This is one of the best relationships and sex advice websites around: here’s what the pros and the youngs say about it.To find out more about BISH (formerly Best In Sexual Health), Durex, and me (hi) go here.

If you’re teaching about sex and relationships, thanks for dropping by but this isn’t a teaching resource, it’s advice and info and not designed for classroom RSE teaching. Head over to my website for practitioners for resources or check out DO… RSE for Schools.

If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at megjohnandjustin.com we have a podcast, a book, zines, and blogs. It’s for over 18s.

Latest From BISH

Am I Still a Virgin?

Am I Still a Virgin?

My advice for someone who is worried that they might not be a virgin because they put something in their vagina.

How to Enjoy Sex More

How to Enjoy Sex More

There are a million crap articles online about how to enjoy sex more, so thanks for clicking on this one. A lot of sex education and sex advice actually makes it harder to enjoy sex, so here’s some advice that I think will actually help you.

Your Feedback on BISH

Your Feedback on BISH

I thought I’d share some feedback with you about what young people said about BISH in their recent responses to my survey. I’ve also got some nice quotes from other people who work sex and relationships advice, education and research.

Define The Relationship

Define The Relationship

One of the big reasons for problems in relationships is when people haven’t had the ‘define the relationship’ chat. Even when people do have the DTR they don’t really do very much defining. So this article is to give you some ideas about how to do this more effectively so that you can avoid unnecessary heartache oh, and STIs.

Dams

Dams

Dams are a thin sheet of latex or plastic which are used when people have oral sex. Although a lot of people would like to use them they are getting very difficult to find. So here is a quick blog about why people use them, and how you can make your own.

STI Quiz!

STI Quiz!

You are always telling me how much you love a quiz so here, have an STI quiz. You are very welcome.