BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. I’m trying to make it well inclusive. For all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot.
If you need help in person click here to find out about sexual health services. You are welcome to ask me questions if you like (I like questions, particularly about relationship stuff) but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. I also have an activity book to accompany BISH here.
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Here are the latest articles, but click on the menu to find what you’re looking for.
Orgasm and Ejaculation are Different
Tl;dr, orgasm and ejaculation are different. Sometimes they happen at the same time, but that doesn’t mean they are the same thing. People can ejaculate without orgasms, and people can orgasm without ejaculating. This is true for people with vulvas and clitorises, and also for people with penises.
Humping a Pillow, Is It Normal?
“How I masturbate is by humping a pillow, is it normal though?” Read more for top advice and statistics on pillow humping.
My Lad Friends are Calling Me a Slut
My advice to a reader who is having a nice time pulling in clubs but getting ‘bants’ from her lad friends who are calling her a slut. Booooo.
My Friend is in an Abusive Relationship
My advice to someone who is worried that her friend is in an abusive relationship and needs support.
Why is her G Spot more pleasurable than her Clitoris?
Here’s a long explanation of why some people get more pleasure out of different parts of their body being touched than others. Maybe listen to some K pop while you read.
What is Romance?
Just as we can have sex without romance, we can have romance without sex – but what is romance?
If you’re teaching about this please promote BISH to your (14+) students (here are some posters for you to print), but this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. Head over to my website for practitioners for resources or check out DO… RSE for Schools.
If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at megjohnandjustin.com we have a podcast, a book, zines, and blogs. It’s for over 18s.
