BISH a guide to sex, love, and you (14+)

BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. Here’s what people say about it!

“I’ve ended up flicking through the articles for more than an hour answering nearly every single question i have ever had about sex.” […]

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A Young Person

“It’s perfect for young people without being too cringe“ […]

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A Young Person

BISH is created by me, Justin Hancock. I’ve been a sex educator and worked in sexual health services and online since 1999. I do training courses for professionals, and I’m a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. Read more about me and the website.

If you need help in person click here to find out about sexual health services. You are welcome to ask me questions but please do have a look at questions I’ve already answered and the rest of the site. There’s a search bar and a menu of different categories up at the top ☝️.

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I’ve also written a book about consent, called Can We Talk About Consent? It’s great and it’s available worldwide and in several translations. Find out more about it here.

Latest BISH posts

what do people do with bish?

What do people do with BISH

- A lot of you visit BISH every day, which is nice, but what do you think about it and how do you use it? [...]

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am I asexual or am I 15? BISH

Am I Asexual Or Just 15?

- “Justin. Am I asexual or is it just that I’m 15?” Someone asked me this question in person the other day and I didn’t have time to give a very long answer, so I’m going to do that here. [...]

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I've trained myself to orgasm and now it's taking too long

I’ve Trained Myself To Orgasm, Now It’s Taking Too Long

- What if you accidentally train yourself to take a long time to orgasm since you’re doing it alone. And then when you want to have sex with someone else, you stress out or feel embarrassed because it’s not happening fast enough? It could also annoy your partner if you take too long. [...]

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It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It’s for all genders (trans inclusive) and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot. Like most sexual health projects / organisations around the world, we’re pro sex worker rights (full decriminalisation of sex work) and pro trans rights.

Important posts

BISH Calendar a guide to sex, love, and you for 2025

BISH Calendar 2025

- Here it is again, the BISH Calendar! A nice calendar to guide you throughout the year. Use it to track your menstrual cycle, or your mood, or to help you remember important dates (ie just like you would use a calendar). [...]

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Sexual Health Services Bish

Sexual Health Services

- Learn more about sexual health services for all ages in the UK. What they are, where they are, what they do and what going to a clinic is like. [...]

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Guide to relationships. Drawings of diverse range of young people in front of a heart

A Comprehensive Guide to Relationships

- In this guide to relationships: we'll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. [...]

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If you’re a teacher please remember this website is not designed for classroom RSE teaching. It’s for young people who are thinking about sex and relationships to get some advice and education for themselves. For RSE resources head to Bish Training, my website for practitioners. Feel free to signpost students, you can print posters from the support page.

Support BISH

This is one of the most respected online sexuality and relationships education resources with thousands of young people visiting every day. There are no ads and it’s entirely crowdfunded. Please consider supporting BISH with £1 a month to keep the show on the road.

If you want some more advanced advice for adults check out the work I do with Meg-John Barker at megjohnandjustin.com. We wrote a sex advice book called A Practical Guide to Sex and we also have some zines. I also run a podcast called Culture Sex Relationships.

If you a) are over 18 and b) have money, you might be interested in my Solution Focused coaching service. So if you are struggling with sex, relationships, and you generally, you might find it really useful. We would work to find what resources you already have to help you to realise your best hopes. It’s really effective and you may well only need one or two sessions. Find out more at my coaching page here.