Ask Bish

I’m afraid I don’t have very much time to answer questions at the moment. So please read this carefully first.

This is not for emergencies
If you need answers in a hurry Ask Bish is not for you. If you are in the UK please click here to find a sexual health service near you. Or you can try The Mix or  Childline. If you are worried about online abuse or a video/image of you has leaked you can report it via CEOP.

If you have a question
I will answer questions via email now, for free if you are a young person. I can’t promise to give you a very long answer in an email and I can’t and won’t answer all questions. Remember to leave an email address if you want an answer. I may also answer your question on here, like I have with other people (anonymously, so I won’t be sharing any identifiable information about you)

Please, before you ask me a question, search the site to see if I’ve already answered your question (or something like it). Also look to see my other answers to other people on ‘Your Questions’ in the menu.

It’s confidential
I won’t tell anyone who you are if you’ve sent me your name. When your message comes through, your IP address shows up*. If I think you’re at really serious risk of harm I will need to try and get more information about you and refer you to a local service that will try to keep you safe.

(*bear that in mind if you are sending me hate mail)

Tell me a bit about you
I’m not going to make any assumptions about who you are, so if it’s relevant you may need to tell me a bit more about you so I can give you a good answer.

I’m not a medic and I’m not always right
I’m not giving any medical advice (I’m not a medic) but I can give general advice and information. I can’t accept any responsibility for anything that goes wrong as a result of my advice. Soz

Please please search the site for your answer first!
Again, please read through the website to find an answer to your question before asking me. I use the search function at the top of the page. 

I can’t tell you if you’re pregnant or not, please stop asking.

Here are the risks of pregnancy from having sex once.

I had sex I'm worried I'm pregnant
Am I Pregnant?

As you can see, the average risk of pregnancy for one sex (with the penis ejaculating inside the vagina) is 3.1%. It is even more unlikely that you (or someone else) are pregnant from masturbation, pre-cum and dry humping. But I can’t tell you whether you are pregnant or not and I won’t answer. For more about this please click here or click the image above.

Read this on how to deal with stress and what to do if your partner is putting you at risk

Where are the answers?

I post the answers here.

How can I get updates from BISH?

You can follow BISH on social media. I post more on twitter because they don’t take my posts down. I post a bit on instagram and hardly ever on tiktok because I’m not a 12 year old. Or you can get an email every time I write an article by subscribing here. You literally just get an email saying that a new article is up, nothing else.

I’d have more time to answer your questions more quickly if I had more funding. This website relies on my monthly Patreon supporters, who give me £1 or £2 a month (or more) because they think this work is valuable. If you know someone who can do that too, can you ask them to subscribe below?

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If you’re over 18 and would like an advanced version of BISH check out my podcast Culture Sex Relationships. Also I’ve written a sex advice book for adults with Meg-John Barker called A Practical Guide to Sex available wherever you get books. We also did some zines to help you to figure out what you want from sex and relationships. They are at our website.

If you are an educator please don’t just show this website in class, they aren’t designed to be used as teaching resources. Instead, facilitate your own really great RSE with my resources at

Justin Hancock has been a trained sex and relationships educator since 1999. In that time he’s taught and given advice about sex and relationships with thousands of young people in person and millions online. He’s a member of the World Association for Sexual Health.