support bish

Thousands of young people visit here everyday to get answers about sex and relationships. Be a part of BISH and help keep this vital resource free and available for everyone.

Over the years I’ve had a lot of fans of this website say “I wish this was around when I was younger.” Well, this is your opportunity to be a crucual part of great quality, inclusive, and critical sexuality education.

First of all, a bit of background.


BISH is a pretty popular website, with thousands of visits per week and over a million unique visitors in the last 12 months. I have a survey for young people to give me their thoughts about the website and they are very positive, 69% of young people rated it ‘very helpful’, with 15% saying it was ‘helpful’. You can read more about what young folk say about BISH.

You can also see what academics, researchers, sexual health professionals, and agony aunts and uncles say about BISH here. This website was included in the UNESCO Switched On Symposium looking at sexuality websites for young people. BISH was praised for having ‘an intelligent response’ to providing resources which focus on both safety and pleasure.


So as you can see, this is one of the best online sexuality education resources for young people (and many non-young people too). This is your chance to be a part of it and to keep it running for years to come. Come and join my extremely generous and wonderful Patrons who donate a monthly via Patreon. Just £1 a month would be amazing. I have had amazing sponsorship in the past, but my wonderful Patrons are my only source of funding from now on.

This website is run by me, Justin Hancock, so it’s not a charity. I’m a freelance sex and relationships educator. I simply don’t have the time or resources to become a charity and even if I did, there are other charities competing for extremely scarce resources. If you support on Patreon you are directly paying me to work on creating resources for this website, answering questions from young people, and promoting it. No CEO, no administrators, no building, it goes to me and I create the resources. Think of Bish as a project that I work on.

All Patrons receive

  • A detailed quarterly report
  • Behind the scenes content about what’s been happening
  • Occasional printable resources

If you join at the £10 a month tier you will also be able to access some extra resources for delivering RSE in groups or one to one settings. Ideal if you are new to relationships and sex education, whether you’re a teacher, clinician, health adviser, outreach worker, counsellor.

Become a Patron!

Or if Patreon is not your thing, you can make a one off or regular donation via Donorbox

I will (with a heavy heart) consider having a commercial sponsor for the website (again). So if you don’t profit from intimate data, are a commercial company (rather than a ravenously capitalist one), and want to put your ads in front of thousands of young people every day, then please get in touch.

This is one of the leading sex and relationships education websites and I need your support to keep it free and ad free. Find out how you can support what I’m doing here.

Can You Promote?

Many of you are passionate about inclusive sexuality education and also work with young people. You can join and and help promote this project to school, college, youth clubs, clinics, universities. I’ve made some A4 posters that you could print out. Click on the image for full size.

My wonderful Patrons have actually funded a print run of posters and I can send some of these to you for free. More details on that here and of course, if you can join the Patreon then I can afford to send more materials out to people.

Promote online

I already get a lot of visitors per year and the vast majority of those are via google search, which means that for a few search terms BISH is at the top or near the top of the search results.

You can find out more about this if you become a Patron of the website, because I write regular reports for Patrons about how we are doing.

Mostly search engines like well written and relevant blog posts, but they also like to triangulate the quality of the website by looking at who links to it. This is where you can help!

If you can link to BISH from your website that would be awesome. It seems that the best links for would be from government or academic institution websites, so if you can link for one of those that would be especially good. You might find it easier to link to the non-sexy sections, like love, or about you.

From what I’ve learnt reading about Search Engine Optimisation, I may not benefit from being linked to from porn sites so if you work in porn maybe could you link from your social media instead?

Social media

I need all the help I can get when it comes to spreading the word about good sex ed online. As you can see, the wonderful Hannah Witton made a nice video featuring BISH here, oh and she also promotes the Patreon, which she is part of btw, here. If you have a platform of any kind, if you can promote what I do here that would be awesome.

BISH is on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and YouTube so if you could spread the word about those that would also be great. These platforms gatekeep what I can post, so if you can follow and find posts and videos and share them that would be great.


So my readers think that this website material is valuable. You can help me, kindly supporter person, by giving me feedback too. As you can see here academics, researchers, pracitioners, and one extremely famous celebrity doctor love it. Please add your kind words too and maybe give the Patreon a shout out too.

  • why you might recommend young people visit BISH?
  • what does BISH do that other sources of information can’t do/don’t offer?
  • what might make you trust the advice here?

If you can do this could send me a few lines via the contact page that would be extremely awesome.


If you are a researcher who is really keen to research the impacts, and outcomes of this kind of awesome website please get in touch. I know other research has been done about sexual health websites by UCL, and there is the work by Natsal 3 and this project commissioned by UNESCO (in which BISH is mentioned) but it’s all pretty limited. So if you are out there doing a Masters or a PhD and want a sex and relationships advice website to research — contact me via the contact page.

Pay For Your Sex Education

Lastly I’m a freelance sex and relationships educator and trainer. So I still rely on people paying for sex education in real life to help me to keep doing this. I know that a lot of sex educators use the ideas here to help them plan their sessions, or even just use bits of the website in their lessons. I don’t mind you doing that, but remember that what I’m offering here is advice and I don’t think that advice = good sex education. So would you consider buying one or all of the many RSE resource packs I have available at my website for practitioners. If you sign up to the Patreon I might be able to offer some additional printed materials too.

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© Justin Hancock, 2024 Find out more about me and BISH here.

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I’ve been a sex and relationships educator since 1999 (with a background in youth and community work). In that time I’ve taught and given advice about sex and relationships with thousands of young people in person and millions online. I’ve worked with many charities, local governments, schools and youth organisations facilitating training and workshops. My two books, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and If You Want To) and Can We Talk About Consent? are widely available around the world. I’ve been on the telly and the radio and have written articles for newspapers and magazines. I’m also a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. Read more about me and BISH here. Find out about my other work here Justin Hancock

If you have a question that I’ve not already answered you can contact me here

I’ve kind of given up on social media as they keep deplatforming sex education! Most of my readers like to stay updated via email. So sign up here and get an automatic email every time I post a new resource on here.

You can buy my book wherever you buy books. If you buy it via my Bookshop then I earn more money and that helps me keep this website running.

This website is free and free of adverts. To keep it that way it relies on your support. Here are all of the ways you can support BISH and keep us going.

If you’re over 18 and would like an advanced version of BISH check out my podcast Culture Sex Relationships. Also I’ve written a sex advice book for adults with Meg-John Barker called A Practical Guide to Sex available wherever you get books. We also did some zines to help you to figure out what you want from sex and relationships. They are at our website.

If you are an educator please don’t just show this website in class, they aren’t designed to be used as teaching resources. Instead, facilitate your own really great RSE with my resources at