Thousands of young people visit here everyday to get answers about sex and relationships. Be a part of BISH and help keep this vital resource free and available for everyone.
Over the years I’ve had a lot of fans of this website say “I wish this was around when I was younger.” Well, this is your opportunity to be a crucial part of great quality, inclusive, and critical sexuality education. Join the BISH Patreon and fund the kind of relationships and sex education you want to see in the world. I will send you a quarterly report with updates on how we’re doing, like I would if I was being funded by anyone else. If you’re a practitioner (therapist, educator, outreach worker, health advisor) I will also post the occasional free resource for you too.
If I haven’t convinced you yet, here’s a bit of background.
Background
BISH is a very popular website, with thousands of visits per week and over a million users a year. I’ve been running it since around 2009 alongside all my other work in RSE. I’ve been mostly self-funding it in that time. I was also sponsored by Durex for a while, £15000 a year, but they withdrew that around 4 years ago. Now I’m solely reliant on crowdfunding. Good, lovely, kind, sexy, people like you.
Honestly, to keep a website as big and as comprehensive as BISH going, I have to spend a couple of days a week working on it. Sadly, I am only funded to work for a small fraction of that amount. I can’t run ads, even if I wanted to, because of FOSTA/SESTA and the deplatforming of sex. My only hope are people like you who want to see this in the world and would have loved for it to be around for them.
I have a survey for young people to give me their thoughts about the website and they are very positive, 69% of young people rated it ‘very helpful’, with 15% saying it was ‘helpful’. I recently wrote a lengthy report about what the readers at BISH do with the website, and there’s a much longer version for my funders. In short they like: 1. The Vibe (the tone and how they are affected by the website). 2. Depth and breadth of content. 3. That it has inclusive (feminist, LGBTQIA and straight cis lads too) content. 4. That it has helpful and actionable advice.
You can also see what academics, researchers, sexual health professionals, and agony aunts and uncles say about BISH here. This website was included in the UNESCO Switched On Symposium looking at sexuality websites for young people. BISH was praised for having ‘an intelligent response’ to providing resources which focus on both safety and pleasure.
Funding
So as you can see, this is one of the best online sexuality education resources for young people (and many non-young people too). This is your chance to be a part of it and to keep it running for years to come. Come and join my extremely generous and wonderful Patrons who donate a monthly via Patreon. Patreon is my only source of funding for the website. There are no ads, no subscriptions and no sponsorship.
I need 2000 people to join the Patreon at £1 a month. That would pay me to work on BISH for two days a week. Answering questions, doing research, doing all the illustrations (yes I do those), writing new resources, updating the old resources, promoting it all on social media. At the moment I only have 119 supporters (who are all wonderful, and all my past supporters have been wonderful too) which earns me just £414 a month (before all the deductions). In short, I can’t keep doing it without more funding.
If you support on Patreon you are directly paying me to work on creating resources for this website, answering questions from young people, and promoting it. No CEO, no administrators, no building, it goes to me and I create the resources. Think of Bish as a project that I work on.
All Patrons receive
- A detailed quarterly report
- Behind the scenes content about what’s been happening
- Occasional printable resources
Or if Patreon is not your thing, you can make a one off or regular donation via Donorbox
Are You A Company
I will (with a heavy heart) consider having a commercial sponsor for the website (again). Durex sponsored BISH for many years but I think they got fed up with all of the hassle of supporting a trans inclusive / sex worker rights website. So if you don’t profit from intimate data, are a commercial company (rather than a ravenously capitalist one), and want to put your ads in front of thousands of young people every day, then please get in touch.
Can You Promote?
Many of you are passionate about inclusive sexuality education and also work with young people. You can join and and help promote this project to school, college, youth clubs, clinics, universities. I’ve made some A4 posters that you could print out. Click on the image for full size.
Promote online
I already get a lot of visitors per year and the vast majority of those are via google search, which means that for a few search terms BISH is at the top or near the top of the search results.
You can find out more about this if you become a Patron of the website, because I write regular reports for Patrons about how we are doing.
Mostly search engines like well written and relevant blog posts, but they also like to triangulate the quality of the website by looking at who links to it. This is where you can help!
If you can link to BISH from your website that would be awesome. It seems that the best links for would be from government or academic institution websites, so if you can link for one of those that would be especially good. You might find it easier to link to the non-sexy sections, like love, or about you.
From what I’ve learnt reading about Search Engine Optimisation, I may not benefit from being linked to from porn sites so if you work in porn maybe could you link from your social media instead?
Social media
I need all the help I can get when it comes to spreading the word about good sex ed online. If you have a platform of any kind, if you can promote what I do here that would be awesome.
BISH is on Instagram, TikTok and YouTube so if you could spread the word about those that would also be great. These platforms gatekeep what I can post and I’ve been deplatformed on all of them in some way. So if you can follow and find posts and videos and share them that would be great.
Feedback
So my readers think that this website material is valuable. You can help me, kindly supporter person, by giving me feedback too. As you can see here academics, researchers, pracitioners, and one extremely famous celebrity doctor love it. Please add your kind words too and maybe give the Patreon a shout out too.
- why you might recommend young people visit BISH?
- what does BISH do that other sources of information can’t do/don’t offer?
- what might make you trust the advice here?
If you can do this could send me a few lines via the contact page that would be extremely awesome.
Research
If you are a researcher who is really keen to research the impacts, and outcomes of this kind of awesome website please get in touch. I know other research has been done about sexual health websites by UCL, and there is the work by Natsal 3 and this project commissioned by UNESCO (in which BISH is mentioned) but it’s all pretty limited. So if you are out there doing a Masters or a PhD and want a sex and relationships advice website to research — contact me via the contact page. I am also now doing a PhD about BISH with Nottingham Trent University.
Pay For Your Sex Education
Lastly I’m a freelance sex and relationships educator and trainer. So I still rely on people paying for sex education in real life to help me to keep doing this. I know that a lot of sex educators use the ideas here to help them plan their sessions, or even just use bits of the website in their lessons. I don’t mind you doing that, but remember that what I’m offering here is advice and I don’t think that advice = good sex education. So would you consider buying one or all of the many RSE resource packs I have available at my website for practitioners. If you sign up to the Patreon I might be able to offer some additional printed materials too.
© Justin Hancock, 2025 Find out more about me and BISH here.
BISH is run by me, Justin Hancock. I’ve been a trained sex and relationships educator since 1999. I’m a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. As well as BISH I also have resources, a podcast, and a coaching service for over 18s, as well as some of the best RSE teaching resources around. Find out out about my other work at justinhancock.co.uk. My work has featured (positively) in the media, like the BBC, Financial Times, The Economist, The Guardian, Sky One, and Novara Media.
What Else Can I Help You With?
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What do you think about BISH?
I’ve now closed the survey I’ve been running for the PhD I am working on for Nottingham Trent University. If you would like to leave me some feedback please do so in the comments below (which I may use in my reporting for my funders and in any future research I do on BISH).
Here’s How To Stay Updated With BISH
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I’m not using social media much now to be honest. I put all my time into this website and also I think people trust sites like this more than social media. I still post on Instagram and also BlueSky when I’ve done a new thing, so you can follow me there. My YouTube has some of my old videos. You could also follow me on Reddit if you like (just starting out, so tell me which sub-reddits you’d like to see me post in).
Funding and Support
This website is only funded by people like you who find it useful. As you can see, there are no ads, it’s all free. There is no premium service, just expert advice for free if you need it. If you’re an adult and want to be a part of this project please support BISH.
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