When I’m running Sex Ed workshops people often ask me ‘how many genders are there?’ I usually say something like, ‘well on one level there’s like three genders, but on another there’s more like a thousand’. Here I’ll explain why that’s my answer. I think it’s a really useful way for us all to think […]
Here it is again, the BISH Calendar! A nice calendar to guide you throughout the year. Use it to track your menstrual cycle, or your mood, or to help you remember important dates (ie just like you would use a calendar). […]
Joy is both the absence of feelings that prevent us from feeling happy, but also the ‘increased capacity to be’ emotion. Here’s how to feel joy. […]
Shame is the ‘I’ve done something wrong emotion’. Or at least it should be. As with all emotions, shame can be incredibly useful. However, it’s an incredibly difficult emotion to feel, so people might just turn away from it and refuse to learn from it. We might call this ‘being shameless’. […]
We all struggle a bit sometimes with our relationships, our relationship with ourselves, and sex. Here’s a, research proven, way to feel a bit better. […]
Learning how to worry can be really valuable for us and the people / world around us. This guide is about why this is and how we might do it. […]
For a lot of reasons, sadness is hard to do. It’s sad to be sad, and who wants to be sad? Well actually it’s really important for you to learn how to be sad. It can really help you, everyone around you, and the world around you too. […]
Anger has a very bad reputation. However, if you can learn how to be angry better it can really help you, everyone around you, and the world around you too. […]
Although it’s important to understand where we do and don’t have power and privilege, it’s also important to learn about solidarity. […]
As the uprising in America, and solidarity protests around the world continue I thought I’d put together a few podcasts, books, TV shows, and documentaries about racism. As you know this website is aimed at everyone over 14s so I’ll try to make these appropriate for the same age group. There are so many and […]
Stress isn’t just something we should deal with by ourselves. This is about stress and the people around us and how we can help them be less stressed. […]
The other day I wrote about how we can deal with our stress. However we can’t just rely on making ourselves less stressed. Now doing self-care is important, but it won’t change the stuff that affects our mental health the most. […]
I’m writing this during the coronavirus, which is stressful for all of us. This is on top of all the other stresses that happen to us in our daily lives, so this article is a ‘how to deal with stress’ for all times as well as these times. […]
The best way to learn how to ask is to think about consent and the other person. Do they want to be asked? What is it you’re asking and who are you asking for? […]
Learning how to love yourself is a difficult but important thing to do. In this article we’ll look at different ways of doing it that might make it easier, together with some practical advice about how you can do it a bit more. […]
How we can learn how to do ‘self-consent’ from learning how to choose a chocolate bar. (Note – this is all about choosing food, so be careful with this resource if you are struggling with food at the moment.) […]
Here is the video guide to being a man. I also have a blog post about this but a lot of people prefer my boring voice for some weird reason. […]
This ones for the menz, the blokes, the lads, the fellas, the mandems, the guys, the chaps etc. […]
If you’ve had some basic sex education you might have been taught that there are only two sexes and two genders and that men have to behave one way and women another. Wrong. It’s a lot more complicated than that. […]
There are lots of different kinds of sexualities out there but what’s your sexuality and how do you work it out? Well, like most things, it’s complicated. […]
A guide on how to be a man for International Men’s Day on November 19th (introducing the masculinity doughnut). […]
It can be really hard seeing someone having a hard time. We want to help, but how do we do the right thing when we try to support someone? […]
Self care is about learning to look after ourselves in the same way we look after others. It’s important that you do it, for you and for others around you. […]
Bits and bobs of advice for students dealing with the pressure to get laid during Freshers’ Week […]
Thinking we are a failure isn’t great but it’s also not great to think we are a success either. […]
The Bish Guide to Self-Esteem. How what we think and do can affect how we feel about ourselves. […]
Think about your best bits and the bits you’d like to have. Allow it. It’s not arrogant to be positive – so big up you yeah? […]
Why people should only have to say ‘no’ to you once. Why it’s not just about words. Tips on how to say it. […]
What we can learn from Tom Daley about how to tell people big news about us. […]
Queer, Straight, Gay, Asexual, Lesbian, Bisexual and Questioning: all explained simply. Also why some people love labels and others not and how people understand their own identity. […]
It’s not just male/female or man/woman. A beginners guide to sex and gender diversity. […]
Dealing with the feelings from getting a nasty message and then working out what to do. […]
How to make yourself look and sound great online. Also how to write a great first message that works. […]
Sometimes it’s hard to know who to talk to about sex, relationships and us. More about this here and where you can get help and advice. […]
You really don’t have to make New Year’s Resolutions, but here’s some advice about how to make them work if you do. […]
BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It's for all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot.
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