Christmas, gatherings or holidays, are often really stressful for a lot of people. This Christmas in particular is going to be even more stressful given what’s happening in the world. If we tried to have more consensual festivities, it would be a lot more fun. […]
If we understand how bullying happens then we might be able to deal with it better. As it’s about power and freedoms it’s something we can all help tackle. […]
Okay so here’s a huge article about trust in relationships. It’s a bit philosophical, and political, but also has great advice. […]
Life is too short to watch TV you don’t want to, so here’s how you can ‘Netflix and choose’ with someone else so you’re both watching something you enjoy. […]
We should treat sliding into someone’s DMs in the same way that we might speak to someone we don’t know in public. […]
If you’re a fan of BISH then you’ll know that we are all about consent. And consent is about freedom and choices and agreement. But because of COVID we are all being asked (or forced) to do things that we haven’t agreed to, which restrict our freedom to choose. […]
You know how in these articles I say things like, ‘on the one hand this’, ‘perhaps consider this’, and ‘it’s more complicated than that’. Well not today dear BISH fan, today I’m going to tell you what to do, or more accurately what not to do. Don’t share your phone password with your partner. […]
Just as we can have sex without romance, we can have romance without sex – but what is romance? […]
So it’s that time of year again when we’re supposed to wash, put on our best pants, light a fancy candle, drink cans of fanta out of plastic champagne glasses (just me then?) and say ‘I love you’ to someone. Great, but how? […]
One of the big reasons for problems in relationships is when people haven’t had the define the relationship chat. Here are some ideas about how to do it. […]
Gaslighting in relationships is when someone manipulates someone so that they doubt their own mental health. It’s one of the many possible signs of an abusive relationship. […]
One of the most basic bits of relationships advice that literally everyone will give you is that communication is vital. :slow handclaps emoji: […]
Here’s some advice for anyone who is struggling with feeling attractive, which includes any incel readers I may have. Don’t worry, I’m not going to yell at you or give you a bollocking. Here’s my best advice instead. (Sidenote — this stuff is not easy. I know that many of you have tried some of […]
Play the Being Friends Board Game on your phones with your pals and learn how to be a good and nice friend along the way (whilst also showing that you are better than them). […]
For hundreds of years people have been looking for advice on how to seduce someone. There are hundreds of people who make money teaching people how to do it. Here’s my expert and free advice […]
The university long distance relationship can be a hard one to maintain — but it’s totally possible. Ask each other these super real questions to help you. […]
You might be familiar with the idea of mates before dates but you probs call it something else (yeah I’m not using those terms). But basically it’s a reminder to a friend (mate) that they are spending too much time with a romantic person (date) and not enough with them. I think this is actually really […]
People aren’t really used to the idea of negotiation for romantic relationships but I think it’s super important. […]
One election fallout is that we can end up falling out with friends and family over the result. This can be super hard to deal with. […]
You can and will get over them but it takes time and tears. You need to feel the feelings, think about how you can do you and see your mates more. […]
Here I answer the big question, in 8 minutes, with lots of really terrible graphics, wonky animation and monotone voice: what is love? […]
This piece explains why there is often a difference of power in relationships, why it might affect you and what you can do about it. […]
Long distance relationships are just like any other relationship. The key is communication. […]
In this guide to relationships: we’ll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. […]
Worried about the state of your relationship? Try the relationships graph to see what’s good and what you can work on. […]
Why chatting to people that you fancy (but you don’t know) is hard. Are there chat up (pick up) lines that work? […]
There’s more than just one kind of love – if we only focus on one we might miss out on all of the others. […]
Want to do something romantic for someone on Valentine’s Day but don’t have much cash? Here are a few ideas for affordable romantic things and cheap dates that are thoughtful and creative. […]
Abusive relationships, what they might look like and how to help get out of them. May contain triggers or upsetting content, especially if you’ve experienced abuse. […]
Tips on how to have a good first date. Look fresh. Be you and forget games and rules. Try to enjoy it rather than think ‘am I going to get laid/snog/second date’. Pay attention. […]
Homework for you to think about why people have romantic relationships and whether we need to have them. […]
‘Chemistry’ between people is actually biology. Here’s what happens when we feel the spark or a click with someone. […]
Some people think that love is like an energy. It might feel like that when it happens, but I don’t think it’s the best way to think about love […]
Do you believe in ‘The One’? Here’s a video and an article about ‘The One’ and why I think it’s not good to believe this fairy story. […]
Some relationships involve one person, others involve more than one relationship. This includes monogamy, friends with benefits, open relationships, polyamory and also friendships. […]
BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It's for all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot.
I've written "Can We Talk About Consent - A Book About freedom, choices, and agreement." It's about how to choose your perfect pizza, what to watch on TV, who plays in goal, politics, rights, and yeah also a bit about sex. The illustrations are beautiful and hilarious.
Out in January but please.....
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