Just as we can have sex without romance, we can have romance without sex – but what is romance?

So it’s that time of year again when we’re supposed to wash, put on our best pants, light a fancy candle, drink cans of fanta out of plastic champagne glasses (just me then?) and say ‘I love you’ to someone. Great, but how? Here’s how to say I love you.

One of the big reasons for problems in relationships is when people haven’t had the ‘define the relationship’ chat. Even when people do have the DTR they don’t really do very much defining. So this article is to give you some ideas about how to do this more effectively so that you can avoid unnecessary heartache oh, and STIs.

Gaslighting in relationships is when someone manipulates someone so that they doubt their own mental health. It’s one of the many possible signs of an abusive relationship. 

One of the most basic bits of relationships advice that literally everyone will give you is that communication is vital.

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Here’s some advice for anyone who is struggling with feeling attractive, which includes any incel readers I may have. Don’t worry, I’m not going to yell at you or give you a bollocking. Here’s my best advice instead.

(Sidenote — this stuff is not easy. I know that many of you have tried some of these things. I can’t guarantee that this advice will get you laid, but I can guarantee that it will make your life a bit easier.)

Play the Being Friends Board Game on your phones with your pals and learn how to be a good and nice friend along the way (whilst also showing that you are better than them).

For hundreds of years people have been looking for advice on how to seduce someone. Here’s the best advice.

The university long distance relationship can be a hard one to maintain — but it’s totally possible. Ask each other these super real questions to help you.

You might be familiar with the idea of mates before dates but you probs call it something else (yeah I’m not using those terms). But basically it’s a reminder to a friend (mate) that they are spending too much time with a romantic person (date) and not enough with them. I think this is actually really great advice.

People aren’t really used to the idea of relationship negotiation (apart from maybe in politics) but I think it’s super important in romantic relationships too.

One election fallout is that we can end up falling out with friends and family over the result. This can be super hard to deal with.

You can and will get over them but it takes time and tears. You need to feel the feelings, think about how you can do you and see your mates more.

Here I answer the big question, in 8 minutes, with lots of really terrible graphics, wonky animation and monotone voice: what is love?

This piece explains why there is often a difference of power in relationships, why it might affect you and what you can do about it.

Long distance relationships are just like any other relationship. The key is communication.

In this brief guide to relationships: we’ll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. 

When you’re all loved up or have big time feels for someone, it can be hard to see whether your relationship is a good one or not. Don’t worry, it’s good to ask ‘how is my relationship’ from time to time. Hopefully this relationships graph will help.

It’s really hard to chat up someone without being a creep. The trick is to notice whether they actually want to talk to you (and whether they want to keep talking to you). #ConsentInnit

Love is not just about romantic love. In fact people get so obsessed by romance that they forget about their mates, family, teams, God, humankind and pets. Don’t do that.

Yes you can be romantic on a budget. Here are some ideas for affordable romantic things and cheap dates that are thoughtful and creative.

Abusive relationships happen when one person has more power and treats the other person badly. They can feel trapped, unsafe and are made to feel crap about themselves.

Tips on how to have a good first date. Look fresh. Be you and forget games and rules. Try to enjoy it rather than think ‘am I going to get laid/snog/second date’. Pay attention.

Homework for you to think about why people have romantic relationships and whether we need to have them.

‘Chemistry’ between people is actually biology. Here’s what happens when we feel the spark or a click with someone.

Some people believe in love at first sight and that it just strikes like a thunder bolt. It might feel like that when it happens, but it’s not love (maybe).

It’s ‘nice’ to believe in ‘the one.’ But there’s more than one ‘one.’ This is about why this whole idea is a problem.

Some relationships involve one person, others involve more than one relationship. This includes monogamy, friends with benefits, open relationships, polyamory and also friendships.

Love is so complicated that it’s tempting to believe other people’s love stories – but in the end we just have to write our own and work out what love is for ourselves.

Just like sex in porn is not very realistic, the same can be said for love in films or TV. Rom coms are just entertainment not education.

Some advice on how to break up with someone and on how to deal with the aftermath.

An awesome personal piece about how to handle the challenges of a long distance relationship from Tom, member of Team Bish.

Relationships with an age gap can be good, but they can also be bad. Here is advice to make sure you’re in one of the good ones.

How much do you want to share your life with someone? Use the power of Venn Diagrams to find out