I’ve had nearly 25 years experience of making it easier to chat about sex and relationships, here are some of my top tips. […]
Crushes and Unrequited Love
Crushes and unrequited love aren’t always bad, in fact sometimes they can be good. Here’s some expert advice from me, a sex and relationships educator since 1999 (who might also have experienced the odd crush or two in my time). […]
How to Make Friends
We all feel lonely from time to time, yes even me. A bit of loneliness is fine and it’s actually a useful feeling because it reminds us that we need to make new friends, (re)connect with people, and the world around us. […]
How to impress someone you like
Someone asked me an interesting question the other day. How to impress someone you like? Or should you even try to impress someone you like? Should you try to impose yourself on them, or should you let them try to impose themselves on you? Do you only present the best sides of you, or is […]
How to Get a Girlfriend, Boyfriend, or Themfriend
Readers love my advice on how to get a girlfriend, or a boyfriend, or a themfriend. It explains why some of that advice you get from the internet and your friends isn’t good. […]
Sexual Bullying
Find out what sexual bullying is, why it’s in all of our interests to stop it, and we can deal with it if it happens to us. […]
Consensual Festivities
Christmas, gatherings or holidays, are often really stressful for a lot of people. This Christmas in particular is going to be even more stressful given what’s happening in the world. If we tried to have more consensual festivities, it would be a lot more fun. […]
How Bullying Happens
If we understand how bullying happens then we might be able to deal with it better. As it’s about power and freedoms it’s something we can all help tackle. […]
Trust in Relationships
Trust in relationships is really complicated but also a very important topic. This article is a bit philosophical, and political, but also has great advice. […]
How to Netflix and Choose
Life is too short to watch TV you don’t want to, so here’s how you can ‘Netflix and choose’ with someone else so you’re both watching something you enjoy. […]
Sliding Into Someone’s DMs
We should treat sliding into someone’s DMs in the same way that we might speak to someone we don’t know in public. […]
Freedoms and COVID
If you’re a fan of BISH then you’ll know that we are all about consent. And consent is about freedom and choices and agreement. But because of COVID we are all being asked (or forced) to do things that we haven’t agreed to, which restrict our freedom to choose. […]
Don’t Share Your Phone Password With Your Partner
You know how in these articles I say things like, ‘on the one hand this’, ‘perhaps consider this’, and ‘it’s more complicated than that’. Well not today dear BISH fan, today I’m going to tell you what to do, or more accurately what not to do. Don’t share your phone password with your partner. […]
What is Romance?
Just as we can have sex without romance, we can have romance without sex – but what is romance? […]
How to Say ‘I Love You’
So it’s that time of year again when we’re supposed to wash, put on our best pants, light a fancy candle, drink cans of fanta out of plastic champagne glasses (just me then?) and say ‘I love you’ to someone. Great, but how? […]
Define The Relationship
One of the big reasons for problems in relationships is when people haven’t had the define the relationship chat. Here are some ideas about how to do it. […]
Gaslighting in Relationships
Gaslighting in relationships is when someone manipulates someone so that they doubt their own mental health. It’s one of the many possible signs of an abusive relationship. […]
Talking About Talking
One of the most basic bits of relationships advice that literally everyone will give you is that communication is vital. :slow handclaps emoji: […]
How To Be Attractive
Here’s some advice for anyone who is struggling with feeling attractive. This is particularly for you if you are worried about being an incel. Don’t worry, I’m not going to yell at you or give you a bollocking. Here’s my best advice instead. (Sidenote — this stuff is not easy. I know that many of […]
Being Friends Board Game
Play the Being Friends Board Game on your phones with your pals and learn how to be a good and nice friend along the way (whilst also showing that you are better than them). […]
How To Seduce Someone
For hundreds of years people have been looking for advice on how to seduce someone. There are hundreds of people who make money teaching people how to do it. Here’s my expert and free advice […]
Make That University Long Distance Relationship Work
The university long distance relationship can be a hard one to maintain — but it’s totally possible. Ask each other these super real questions to help you. […]
Mates Before Dates
When a mate tells you you are spending too much time with a romantic partner (or trying to get one) and not enough with them. Time for mates before dates. […]
Relationship Negotiation
People aren’t really used to the idea of negotiation for romantic relationships but I think it’s super important. […]
Election Fallout With Friends and Family
One election fallout is that we can end up falling out with friends and family over the result. This can be super hard to deal with. […]
How Do I Get Over Them?
You can and will get over them but it takes time and tears. You need to feel the feelings, think about how you can do you and see your mates more. […]
What Is Love? – a video guide
Here I answer the big question, what is love? […]
Power In Relationships
This piece explains why there is often a difference of power in relationships, why it might affect you and what you can do about it. […]
Long Distance Relationships
Long distance relationships are just like any other relationship. The key is communication. […]
A Comprehensive Guide to Relationships
In this guide to relationships: we’ll look at what we mean by relationships, limits, how you should be treated, romance, trust and break ups. […]
The ‘how is your relationship’ graph
Worried about the state of your relationship? Try the relationships graph to see what’s good and what you can work on. […]
How To Chat Up Someone Without Being a Creep
Why chatting to people that you fancy (but you don’t know) is hard. Are there chat up (pick up) lines that work? […]
More Than One Love
There’s more than just one kind of love – if we only focus on one we might miss out on all of the others. […]
How to be romantic on a budget
Want to do something romantic for someone on Valentine’s Day but don’t have much cash? Here are a few ideas for affordable romantic things and cheap dates that are thoughtful and creative. […]
Signs of an Abusive Relationship
Abusive relationships, what they might look like and how to help get out of them. May contain triggers or upsetting content, especially if you’ve experienced abuse. […]
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