My advice for a reader who is struggling with what they say is a severe addiction to masturbation. How can we deal with compulsive sexual behaviours? Here’s a solution focused approach. Hello, I would like to ask for help about a personal issue. I am a 21-year-old female, and since the age of 17 I […]
Sometimes sex feel a bit too good and we can get overwhelmed. If we are too excited then we can stop enjoying it. Here’s some advice for a reader about this and how to deal with it. […]
My advice for someone who is worried when he says that ‘he wants to put a baby inside her’. He says it’s a fetish and he doesn’t want to get her pregnant. Should she be worried? Is this a thing? […]
I was asked this lately in person and I said I’d answer it here. What to do if your girlfriend (or partner generally) doesn’t want you to look at porn? Does it count as cheating? Is it okay to just carry on looking at porn and not say anything? Should you just give it up? […]
I got asked what the difference is between a kink and a fetish IRL. So I thought I’d answer it in full here. […]
How we can communicate after sex so that we don’t get embarrassed. Sometimes we need to find different ways of asking questions and checking in with each other so that we can both find it easier. This article references kink (sub / dom dynamics) in case you don’t wish to read about that. […]
Years ago, in a school RSE session, I was asked ‘am I in love, or is it just great sex?’ I answered it then in person, and I thought I answered it here too, but I haven’t. So here it is. […]
“Justin. Am I asexual or is it just that I’m 15?” Someone asked me this question in person the other day and I didn’t have time to give a very long answer, so I’m going to do that here. […]
What if you accidentally train yourself to take a long time to orgasm since you’re doing it alone. And then when you want to have sex with someone else, you stress out or feel embarrassed because it’s not happening fast enough? It could also annoy your partner if you take too long. […]
Here’s some advice for you if, for whatever reason, your parents don’t approve of your sexuality and you are worried you will never find love or relationships. […]
My advice to a reader who can have orgasms but can’t cum (ejaculate). What’s going on here and is it even a problem? Read on for some expert advice. […]
A reader asks ‘did I consent’? It’s a complex story with a complex answer. There aren’t any graphic descriptions of any particular sexual activities here. […]
“I’m a 19 year old woman and I’m having trouble feeling arousal. This has been an issue for as long as I can remember.” Here’s my advice […]
So i’m almost 100% certain i’m a lesbian but my guy best friend has been making me question it a bit i think he likes me but i’m not sure if i just feel romantic things or if it’s just platonic i cant see myself with a guy only with girls/nonbinary folk idk what to […]
My advice for someone whose girlfriend wants to transition. Why ‘what they should do’ might not be the best question to ask and how they might handle what happens next. […]
Content note for this one. The reader asked about whether it is normal to feel sick after the first time, but you might find the question a bit upsetting. […]
Advice for someone who wants to masturbate the conventional way, but also why they should be careful about where they get their sex advice from. […]
Advice for a someone who has a sudden urge to get away from oral sex. Is it just too much stimulation, or is it related to trauma? […]
We might feel more pleasure the more we have sex, but only if we can pay attention to our body and what it might do. […]
My advice about feeling guilty for not sending nudes. It’s about how we ask and also about the FOMO should story. […]
A tricky question about under age sex and the law. My advice on the law but also about what is ethical and how we can learn from our mistakes. […]
‘Why won’t he top me?’ My advice on why men might not want to top their girlfriends and what this actually means. […]
In a recent Q&A session I did for a school (teachers, book yours here) I was asked this very good question: how do I get over the shame of sharing a nude? […]
Read this super interesting question from someone asking about when people begin masturbating. Also why it’s hard to know and why people don’t talk about it. […]
What does it mean if sex dreams feel better than sex in real life? Does it reveal ‘truths’ about your sexuality and relationships? […]
A reader asked ‘is prone masturbation bad?’. No it isn’t and also you should be wary of other sex education articles online. […]
This week’s Ask BISH is from someone asking about their boyfriend watching porn. Do all men watch porn? […]
Content note: I talk about sexual violence but try to avoid going into lots of detail. […]
Is it okay to only want to give and not receive during sex? Read my advice about dynamics during sex, consent, power, and non-simultaneous sex. […]
This week’s Ask Bish is for someone who’s worried in case their balls move up into their body. […]
My advice for a reader who is trying to make his girlfriend come. What are the best tips for how to make someone have an orgasm? […]
My advice to a young person who has a question about kink and asexuality as a survivor of rape. We don’t talk about any details of rape or sexual assault but it is mentioned. […]
“Whenever I masturbate (about once a day), I usually orgasm within 5-10 minutes with no problem. However when a partner is giving me a ‘handjob’ or ‘blowjob’ or even having sex with me, I won’t orgasm.” […]
A reader asks ‘how can I become friends with a girl’. Read this expert advice on how you can make new friends whatever gender they are. […]
My advice to a reader who has a partner but is super anxious about getting her pregnant. Yes condoms, but there are lots of other things he could do too. […]
BISH is a guide to sex, love and you for everyone over 14. It’s for people who are (or are thinking about) having sex / relationships. It's for all genders and sexualities, people with disabilities, backgrounds, beliefs and values. It’s got a UK vibe so we say ‘snog’, ‘fancy’ and ‘shag’ a lot.
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