Advice on why sexual attraction might sometimes go in a relationship and how to deal with that. […]
How should I have sex if I’m a lesbian?
There are no magic tricks for how to have sex if you’re a lesbian, or whatever sexuality you are, as everyone is different every time they have sex … […]
I’ve hurt myself masturbating
A reader has injured herself masturbating with an electric toothbrush. Advice from Dr Ranj on the injury and from me on DIY sex toys. […]
An open letter about low risk sex and pregnancy worries
tl;dr – pregnancy is very very unlikely from dry humping, wanking and sex with condoms. […]
Is it wrong to get sexually aroused very often?
My advice for a reader struggling with their sexual desires, responses, and fantasies. Some people get more aroused than others. It’s chill. […]
‘I’m autistic, will I get in trouble for masturbating?’
Advice for a reader about masturbation. Warning: there’s a reference to sexual abuse. […]
Is He Using Me For Sex?
We have sex up to 3 times a day, is he just using me for sex? […]
‘Masturbation and Porn Are Against My Religion’
Advice to a religious reader on how to give up masturbation and porn. […]
Advice Hijack – My Boyfriend Is Addicted To Porn So I Left Him
An occasional column where I get so annoyed by other advice columnists that I try and give better answers (it’s not like I have enough to do) … […]
Being Pressured Into Giving Oral Sex
Warning. Contains references to sexual assault/rape. Ask Bish – Your Questions Answered. Advice for someone who’s friend’s boyfriend is forcing them both to give him oral sex. […]
‘I Can’t Orgasm At All’
Ask Bish – Your Questions Answered. Even if we know our stuff about sex, it doesn’t mean we always enjoy it. […]
‘Should I Tell Her I Love Her?’
Love’s seen as this big heavy do or die type thing. Think harder about your feelings and think of what you would like to change. […]
‘Full’ sex, anal sex and pregnancy
Ask Bish – Another reader is worried about being pregnant but there might be other things to worry about too :/ […]
‘I Don’t Understand Sex, Help?’
Some advice for a reader who doesn’t understand sex and doesn’t know who can help. I think a lot of people will also feel this way, so I hope this helps. […]
‘When do balls drop?’
Do you know when balls drop? A lot of people really don’t know the answer to this (but pretend that they do) […]
Why Does My Clitoris Hurt?
What might be the causes of a painful clitoris (and when it’s time to tell mum). […]
He Doesn’t Like To Go On Top and I Don’t Know How
If he doesn’t like to go on top then it’s chill. Have different kinds of sex so it’s easier to do it in a position that you both find comfortable. […]
‘I have a strong desire to have sex but no arousal’
An answer about no arousal and strong desire but also about being ready for sex, what sex means and what we expect from sex […]
‘Will watching porn prevent me being a teacher?’
I’ve watched porn. Is it going to stop me getting a job as a teacher? […]
‘My Vagina Smells and Is Itchy, Is That Normal?’
Advice for a young person about why their vagina smells and itches. […]
Ask Bish – Am I Too Young To Have Sex?
My advice for a 13 year old who wants to know whether she’s too young to have sex […]
Ask Bish – Am I a Slut For Giving a Blowjob?
Advice for someone who was told by their mum that you have to be in love with someone before you give them a blowjob. […]
Ask Bish – Where Can I Go For an STI Check Up?
Where to go for a check up for STIs? […]
Ask Bish – If I’m 16 and she’s 15 is it against the law?
Whether under age sex against the law is different to what actually happens. I explain more here. […]
Ask Bish – I Hate My Vagina
Advice for someone who hates the way their vagina looks (after ex said it looked bad – that bit made me ANGRY SEX EDUCATOR) […]
Ask Bish – Who can I talk to about anxiety about STIs and pregnancy?
Sexual health services in the UK aren’t just places for you to get condoms, contraception, STI check ups, pregnancy tests and stuff. You can also go to chat about any worries or concerns you have about sex or your sexual health. […]
Ask Bish – Your Site Sucks (and can you answer our questions)
Not everyone is a fan of bishUK.com but I answer their questions anyway. […]
Ask Bish – Is There a Safe Way to Make My Penis a Bit Bigger?
Safe and unsafe ways to make penises a bit bigger. Surgery, jelqing, pills, devices all explained as well as tips on being happier with penis size. […]
Ask Bish – I Just Can’t Enjoy Vaginal Sex But I Really Want To
Advice for someone who enjoys sex but finds vaginal sex painful. […]
Ask Bish – How can I have sex without it hurting?
Advice about why penis in vagina sex shouldn’t be painful, even for the first time. […]
Ask Bish – Masturbation With A Marker Pen
Advice on why masturbation with an orange marker pen is perhaps not a great idea […]
Ask Bish – Should I Tell Her I’m Bisexual
Advice for a guy on whether to tell a girl they are bisexual. […]
Ask Bish – Does Circumcision Affect Sensitivity?
I’m often asked by young men whether circumcision makes their penis less sensitive. […]
Ask Bish – Worried I’m Not Measuring Up To Her Ex’s Penis Size
There are a lot of myths about how the vagina works, just like there are loads of myths about dick size and orgasms. I explain it here to a worried reader. […]
Ask Bish – I Can’t Get Hard
Sometimes it can be hard to get hard. Usually this is because we are putting a lot of pressure on penises. Poor penises. […]
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