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Is Prone Masturbation Bad?

A reader asked ‘is prone masturbation bad?’. No it isn’t and also you should be wary of other sex education articles online.

“I’ve been masturbating pretty much since I started puberty. However, I have done it in the prone position (lying face down on the bed) nearly all of this time. I only learnt earlier this year that this is not a very safe way to masturbate. I first saw information about it online here. There’s also this as well which seems to say the same thing.

I have been trying to train myself out of it by masturbating the conventional way and also by using a fleshlight. I have recently using both these techniques been able to achieve orgasm and ejaculate. However, I still get the temptation to masturbate prone. I’m also a virgin and I worry a bit about whether I’ll be able to have enjoyable sex in the future when I’ve been masturbating in an unconventional way for a long time.

Do you have any advice on other techniques I can use to resist the temptation to masturbate prone and do you know anything about the risks of prone masturbation?”

Thanks for your excellent question. The links you sent to me suggest that prone masturbation (or ‘atypical masturbatory styles’) can affect the nerve endings in the penis and so will affect your sex life. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with prone masturbation and you should do it however you want to. Here’s why. If you want to skip to the advice bit you can.

The prone masturbation articles you sent

I’ve done a bit of reading about this and I’m extremely sceptical about the so called risks of prone masturbation. The healthline article that you sent me has a link to a paper about sexual function in ageing, which mostly talks about many of the known difficulties for men to experience erections as they get older. Stress, cardio-vascular problems, diabetes, other health conditions, and also that they just aren’t as horny as they used to be. They mention ‘atypical masturbatory styles’ and link to a couple of articles that don’t even mention them, so that’s pretty sketchy. 

The articles you sent me refer to ‘traumatic masturbatory syndrome’ which I think is a very problematic term that doesn’t seem to be used by anyone other than this Laurence Sank guy. I can’t find a copy of the paper anywhere (which is strange) but I would suggest that it’s not something which has been widely taken up. This response from Go Ask Alice (a website I trust) is really good on this.

Even if the research Sank came up with was good quality (ie a large sample of people who report sexual dysfunction, open questions about masturbatory styles, frequency, force etc) I would still be really really dubious (and so would many sexologists I know). Orgasm and ejaculation are very complicated and they are actually two different things. It has a lot less to do with nerve endings in the base of your penis and much more to do with what mood you are in when you have sex. 

Edit: having done a bit more research on this for this article, there’s another academic called Michael A Perelman, who has looked into ‘atypical masturbatory styles’ which includes prone masturbation (as well as other kinds of masturbation). You can read more about this here. He’s saying that how we masturbate might be one thing to consider in overcoming sexual problems. But then in a more extensive paper he and another academic find that this is just one of the very many things we should consider. Because our sexual bodies are not just biological, they are biopsychosocial. Our bodies are in relation to: what we know about our biological bodies, our thoughts and feelings, and what society and culture tells us about our bodies. If you want to understand this some more, try my Teach Yourself Sex Ed module on Bodies.

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What actually affects your sexual functioning

The factors that determine what mood you’re in during sex are to do with: how stressed you are generally; how you feel about sex; worries about your penis being hard; what your partner might think about your body; worries about your ‘performance’; worrying about whether your partner will enjoy it; what it means for your relationship; safer sex concerns; privacy concerns.

For erections to happen and for arousal to happen you need your sympathetic nervous system to not be activated. Which means that you need to be relaxed.

signs of stress bish
signs of stress

As soon as it does (when you get stressed) then it stops you getting aroused. It literally prevents blood from going into your penis and sends it where it’s more needed. So ironically, the more you stress about your erection and your masturbation styles, the more likely it is that you won’t be able to get aroused when you have sex with someone else. 

Read more about stress affects the body and also ‘She Can’t Come, What Am I Doing Wrong?

And ‘sexual functioning’ is BS anyway

The idea of ‘sexual functioning’ or ‘healthy sex’ is all based on the assumption that the only kind of sex that ‘counts’ is penis in vagina sex or some other kind of entry sex with a penis. That’s not what sex is. It’s just one form of sex that only a minority of people actually enjoy. So this idea of masturbation as being some kind of ‘training programme’ for real sex is really bad because masturbation counts just as much as penis in vagina sex. 

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Advice

So you can chill. If prone masturbation is actually causing physical damage to your penis (damaging the skin, or even penis fracture) then stop. Give it a rest for a bit and try a different way (like you are doing). You can also just give your penis a rest too and touch different parts of your body to see how that feels. Side note – people can have orgasms without any touch whatsoever. You could see if you could try that. But mostly I would say everything is fine and don’t worry. Just try to enjoy what you enjoy.

Meanwhile have a good look at all the articles on my website about orgasms, masturbation, and pleasure.  Some of the places online where people talk about prone masturbation also talk about sex addiction (read more about about that) and No-Fap and No Nut November (so read more about that too).

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16 thoughts on “Is Prone Masturbation Bad?

  1. Well this is certainly life changing information. I have ‘proned’ since a teen and it was never a problem until I found a partner I liked and wanted to please her. Couldn’t maintain an erection or even enter, and I’m now guessing these are non-prone-related issues such as possible performance anxiety/pressure to perform/life stress.

    Literally everywhere else on the internet including Medical News Today and Healthline talk about nerve damage and effects on sex life. But now reading those back, in the context of your article, it’s all obviously anecdotal, which is shocking. Now I need to work on those issues, but I’m sure it’s going to be a lot easier than fixing ‘nerve damage’ lol.

    So this whole thing, which has caused hundreds of thousands of people anxiety, was created by some anonymous person in a bedroom with an internet connection 20 years ago?! Strange world.

    So what do qualified doctors say then when someone comes into the practice with this problem? I’m generally curious. What a sham.

    1. Well I’m glad you were able to find this article helpful! I think that sex is not really taken seriously enough as a subject but also the underlying assumptions that a lot of sex research is built on is to do with culture and history. To explore this further why not do my Teach Yourself Sex Ed course (it’s free) Teach Yourself Sex Ed – What You’ve Learnt So far As for what Doctors would say. Well, good ones would refer people to a psychosexual counsellor, or prescribe some resources to deal with stress, or the kinds of messages that people receive about sex. A lot of sex counsellors tell people about a book I co-wrote about this called A Practical Guide to Sex, which goes into a lot of this. Often (as you’ve pointed out) just refer people to educational resources about how dicks and hard ons actually work (and how sex is not just about our genitals or even just about our bodies).

  2. I am 26 years old. I have been masturbating prone since I was 17. So after 8 -9 years of prone masturbation I now feel that my erections are not strong enough, or while my penis can get only 75% hard of it’s full capacity, it starts to soften after 10-15 seconds without any major physical stimulus. In short I can see I have trouble maintaining erections and also getting very hard. I have recently started masturbating with my hand, but I have to jerk my penis insanely hard to climax. And as soon as I stop holding my penis it begins to go soft again. I feel I am in trouble here. Please advice what should be the course of action. I am feeling very dejected and stressed due to this. Appreciate your help on this.

    1. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I don’t want to tell you what to think, but I don’t think this is really down to prone masturbation (and there’s nothing wrong with prone masturbation, as I explain in the article). You’re describing masturbation, or solo sex, as something which is entirely happening in your penis. That’s not how sex, or bodies, work. Being turned on and feeling sexy, is about the whole body and mind and fantasies. It’s also about how comfortable we feel about our bodies and what we have learnt about ourselves. So I think that you’d start to feel better about it if you stepped away from the penis for a bit and instead try to connect with the rest of your body. I’ve got a lot more about this in this article about how to enjoy solo sex

  3. i had prone masturbation . few days ago i feel the curved downward and side penis..is that cause by prone masturbation(i have no bumb or plague in penis).

  4. Is it possible that if I have been climaxing to prone masturbation with a soft erection that I have trained my penis to not get when I want it to? In other words, can masturbating with soft erections give you Erectole Dysfunction?

  5. Sir does prone masturbation cause damage in prostate or seminal vessels though I am not having any problem and I am also not having ed and I am doing the hand practice but still sir can u plzz tell that this type of masturbation damages the seminal vessels or not but I am going to have sex with my partner and i am little nervous

    1. As I’ve said in the article, “So you can chill. If prone masturbation is actually causing physical damage to your penis (damaging the skin, or hurting yuor penis) then stop. Give it a rest for a bit and try a different way. You can also just give your penis a rest too and touch different parts of your body to see how that feels. “

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