Talking about talking - a worksheet to help you to communicate in relationships

Talking About Talking

One of the most basic bits of relationships advice that literally everyone will give you is that communication is vital.

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Yes thanks, but how? Well everyone prefers to communicate in different ways at different times, so this is something that you can work out between you. To help you here’s a worksheet that you can either both fill out or just think about.

Talking About Talking - a worksheet to help you work out how to communicate

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There are lots of kinds of things that we will need to communicate in a relationship, from the beginning and the middle bits and the end bits (cos, they often do end). Obviously it’s going to be more difficult saying how you’d like to be flirted with or asked out before it happens. You might also think it’s a bit radical/strange to talk about how you might want to end your relationship if you have no intention of ending your relationship, but I think that’s important too.

The different ways of communicating all have different aspects to them which might work for some things and really not for others. For example: making your relationship official on social media might be really great for you because you will get a load of people sending you “awwwwws” and hearts. However, for the other person, that might be awful — like if they aren’t out, or they have an ex who doesn’t know, or they are just a private person.

Same for arguments or other big conversations. Some people prefer emails or texts so that they can have a bit of time to think about how to respond, other people prefer face to face so that they can see each other’s facial expressions and really try to connect with each other.

When it comes to chatting about sex, some people enjoy doing this in person (e.g. before or as part of sex) others would die of embarrassment. Some people like texting each other sexy things but other people really worry about privacy. Some people might prefer a WhatsApp saying ‘check your email for a picture of my cock’ rather than to be bombarded with pictures of your cock. Others like the exact opposite.

As you can probably already tell a lot of this comes down to consent and consent isn’t just important for sex. Giving each other options like this is really important because then you can know what to expect, you can feel safe and comfortable with each other, and that helps you to make your communications mutual and nice.

I hope you find this useful. This page comes from my Bish Activity Book which you can get for just £3 or (if you’re skint/can’t pay for things online) nowt. Head to this page to find out more or just buy now here.

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© Justin Hancock, 2018


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