Big up you. A fist bump emoji saying that it's okay to big yourself up

Big Up You

Think about your best bits and the bits you’d like to have. Allow it. It’s okay to big up you and to think positively about yourself sometimes.

When was the last time that someone encouraged you to big up you hmm? Well? I think we can get used to thinking about ourselves negatively, “I feel ugly”, “Blimey I’m thick”, “I can’t do this”, “Why do people spend time with me?” etc etc etc. This is about changing that a bit.

Look at this list below and pick out as many qualities which apply to you. Then think of a sentence for (eg) why you are bubbly, think of an example. Write this down somewhere or say it out loud.

Which of these apply to you?

Thinker. Adventurous. Assertive.

Head strong. Level headed. Dramatic.

Mediator. Warm. Wise.

Geeky. Curious. Flexible.

Good listener. Authentic. Good at chat.

Decisive. Reliable. Attentive.

Kind. Fair. Forgiving.

Emotional. Thoughtful. Happy.

Good planner. Party Animal. A dreamer.

Determined. Loud. High standards.

Ambitious. Optimistic. Generous.

Fit. Sceptical. Believer.

Well dressed. Hard worker. Good friend.

Easy going. Foodie. Loving.

Sensible. Smiley. Romantic.

Powerful. Sensitive. Gentle.

Honest. Humour. Ideas person.

Take charge. Informed. Modest.

On time. Bounces back. Responsible.

Bubbly. Lively. Organiser.

Creative. Musical. Neat.

Smart. Big heart. Leader.

Positive. Calm. Excitable.

Giver. Good judge. Passionate.

Mature. Cultured. Funny.

Artistic. Wise. Self belief.

Brave. Open minded. Relaxed.

Assertive. Sociable. Team worker.

Solo star. Good with £. Switched on.

Right on / Woke. Sensitive. Disciplined.

Tolerant. Ethical. Behaves!

Hopeful. Open. Cautious.

Independent. Sincere. Good at banter.

Into safety. In the now. Fun.

Serious. Political. Keep it real.

*Add yours too

This isn’t about replacing negative words for positive ones and it’s definitely not about ‘positive thinking’. Obviously none of us are perfect. There are always things that we could work on to do a bit better. So have a look at the list and pick a few words that you might like to be a bit more of. So for me, although I have good ideas I would like to be a bit more organised and to be better at planning things.

Thinking of yourself as being pretty okay but not perfect is a pretty good way of thinking of yourself, I reckon

Many of us have inner critics in our heads telling us that we can’t do things and we’ll never achieve anything – I know I do. Don’t fight the inner voice – just acknowledge it and allow for a more positive self assessment of who you are, what you can do and where you’d like to go.

Also check out the BISH guide to self esteem and feeling better about ourselves.

If you’re thinking about dating and who you’d like to date try this version.

Scroll down to leave a comment. I moderate all comments before they go live. Click here to ask me a question

Please give feedback and help me improve the website

© Justin Hancock, 2022

I hope you’ve found this website helpful. Now here are all the ways you can help us, if you can.

This is one of the leading sex and relationships education resources online. We need your funding, so can you become a member of our Patreon?

Or if Patreon isn’t your thing, you could make a one off or regular donation via Donorbox

Would you like a BISH podcast? Would you buy merch? If you like answering questions like this please take my survey. It will take you less than a minute.

If you a) are over 18 and b) have money, you might like my coaching service. So if you are struggling with sex, relationships, and you generally, you might find it really useful. It’s really effective and you may well only need one or two sessions. Find out more at my coaching page here.

Buy my book

You could also buy my Sex Ed Activity Book, a fun zine with over 50 worksheets to help you to work out how you can do sex, love, and you.

Stay in touch with Bish! Get an email every time I post an article. Or follow on Twitter (I post less on Instagram and TikTok because they take down sex education content!) The rest of the article continues below.

If you’re over 18 and really into sex ed I have a podcast you might like called Culture Sex Relationships.

If you are an educator please check out my very popular RSE resources at

Justin Hancock has been a trained sex and relationships educator since 1999. In that time he’s taught and given advice about sex and relationships with thousands of young people in person and millions online. He’s a member of the World Association for Sexual Health.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.