Think about your best bits and the bits you’d like to have. Allow it. It’s okay to big up you and to think positively about yourself sometimes.
When was the last time that someone encouraged you to big up you hmm? Well? I think we can get used to thinking about ourselves negatively, “I feel ugly”, “Blimey I’m thick”, “I can’t do this”, “Why do people spend time with me?” etc etc etc. This is about changing that a bit.
Look at this list below and pick out as many qualities which apply to you. Then think of a sentence for (eg) why you are bubbly, think of an example. Write this down somewhere or say it out loud.
Which of these apply to you?
Thinker
Adventurous
Assertive
Head strong
Level headed
Dramatic
Mediator
Warm
Wise
Geeky
Curious
Flexible
Good listener
Authentic
Good at chat
Decisive
Reliable
Attentive
Kind
Fair
Forgiving
Emotional
Thoughtful
Happy
Good planner
Party Animal
A dreamer
Determined
Loud
High standards
Ambitious
Optimistic
Generous
Fit
Sceptical
Believer
Well dressed
Hard worker
Good friend
Easy going
Foodie
Loving
Sensible
Smiley
Romantic
Powerful
Sensitive
Gentle
Honest
Humour
Ideas person
Take charge
Informed
Modest
On time
Bounces back
Responsible
Bubbly
Lively
Organiser
Creative
Musical
Neat
Smart
Big heart
Leader
Positive
Calm
Excitable
Giver
Good judge
Passionate
Mature
Cultured
Funny
Artistic
Wise
Self belief
Brave
Open minded
Relaxed
Assertive
Sociable
Team worker
Solo star
Good with £
Switched on
Right on / Woke
Sensitive
Disciplined
Tolerant
Ethical
Behaves!
Hopeful
Open
Cautious
Independent
Sincere
Top bantz!
Into safety
In the now
Fun
Serious
Political
Keep it real
*Add yours too
This isn’t about replacing negative words for positive ones and it’s definitely not about ‘positive thinking’. Obviously none of us are perfect. There are always things that we could work on to do a bit better. So have a look at the list and pick a few words that you might like to be a bit more of. So for me, although I have good ideas I would like to be a bit more organised and to be better at planning things.
Thinking of yourself as being pretty okay but not perfect is a pretty good way of thinking of yourself, I reckon
Many of us have inner critics in our heads telling us that we can’t do things and we’ll never achieve anything – I know I do. Don’t fight the inner voice – just acknowledge it and allow for a more positive self assessment of who you are, what you can do and where you’d like to go.
Also check out the BISH guide to self esteem and feeling better about ourselves.
If you’re thinking about dating and who you’d like to date try this version.