Advice (and links) about what we do and don’t know about ‘female’ ejaculation (ie from the vulva)
I have been sexually active for 5 years now. I have always been very intimate and close with my sexual partner and I feel I have kept it pretty interesting in bed by always trying new positions, outfits, toys, etc…. but the one thing that can’t seem to wrap my head around is trying to get myself to cum. About three years ago I was alone and toying around and it happened. (I was in so much shock I thought maybe I’d busted a pipe or something or seriously lost control of my bladder and felt ashamed. It was about thirty minutes until it finally hit me that females were actually CAPABLE of such things.) Since then I always knew that I was capable of squirting, but I have only ever squirted a handful of times since that event. I have become somewhat infatuated with the idea of trying to figure out how and I have read many internet pages, seen many tutorial videos, and asked many questions but I still feel as though they are always very vague. Men take 2-4 minutes to get off, but for a female ejaculation how long do you think that might take? If I orgasm, I know women can go again for round 2, 3 ect…. but does that mean that women can orgasm before an orgasm with a squirt? Can women ejaculate without an orgasm? Does the amount of female ejaculation depend on the size of your prostate? I believe it normally said that it is a build up of fluid that comes from normally messing with the female prostate… but where is this fluid held before it is ejaculated? and where does this fluid come from?(I read that part of what makes it up is the same solutions found in urine and to a certain extent it more or less is a urine… but is there a tube from the urinary tract to the urethra?) What is the point of this fluid at all? Is it a genetic human error?
A very interesting question. Unfortunately I won’t be able to give you very many answers simply because we don’t know very much about it as there haven’t been many studies in this area.
What we do know is that some people with vulvas squirt (or ejaculate) fluid from their urethra when they are sexually excited (often when they are having an orgasm). It’s thought to be prostatic fluid (similar in some ways to semen). Many people have confused ejaculation with peeing because it comes from the urethra. We don’t know for sure why this happens or if there is a biological purpose for it. Many people report that they ejaculate after lots of G-spot stimulation (which is inside the vagina on the front wall, around where the prostate is). Not all people can do this but some do a lot. Squirting doesn’t necessarily mean a better orgasm.