Advice on why masturbation with an orange marker pen is perhaps not a great idea
Hi, so I’m only 13, and I wanted to explore masturbation. But I couldn’t find anything to use. I did something very silly and used an orange marker ( with the cap on of course) to masturbate. The marker is about 5 inches long but not very thick, and inserted almost the entire thing into my vagina, once I removed the marker, I noticed blood. I then used an old towel and wiped, just to check, and there was blood. I haven’t gotten my first period yet, but I’ve had discharge. I know ur not a medic, but I just wanted ur opinion. Please reply 🙂 thanks.
Hi there
Thanks for your question.
It’s totally fine for you to explore masturbation at 13 if , however you’ve probably already guessed that it’s not a great idea using a marker pen to do it. You probably haven’t damaged your vagina in a serious way but you really should probably use the pen for, you know, writing?
I’ve also answered this question more recently, with advice from a Doctor and in more detail here.
Masturbation is fine
Masturbation is totally fine and normal. I don’t know for sure when most people start masturbating but many young people do masturbate around your age. It’s exciting to explore how things feel, to find out more about your body and to learn what being turned on (or sexually aroused) feels like.
It doesn’t mean you’re ready to have sex *with* someone but as you say it was something you wanted to explore. This is fine to do even if you haven’t had your first period, but not everyone will feel the same. That’s cool. It’s not compulsory and everyone will have their own idea about when the right time to start masturbating is.
But only if you do it safely
Although masturbation is fine, it’s really important that you do it safely. Particularly when you are exploring masturbation inside the vagina. The walls of the vagina are very strong and stretchy (err childbirth) but they can be damaged by sharp things. Penises and sex toys which are designed to go inside the vagina are very very smooth. Orange marker pens are not. You could have very slightly cut yourself inside the vagina.
The vagina can get damaged
When the vagina is really turned on it gets wet, this is something you may well have felt. The wetness prevents friction by lubricating the walls of the vagina against anything that enters it during sex. When people insert things inside their vagina (things which are meant to go inside the vagina) they often add a bit more wetness such as water based lubricant (something we can buy from shops) or saliva. This can prevent damage or soreness.
Also at the opening to the vagina is the vaginal corona (this used to be called the hymen) which is thin folds of mucous membrane surrounding the opening. When someone puts something inside the vagina for the first time, if the vagina isn’t properly aroused (turned on) it can be less relaxed and a bit less wet which means that the corona can get damaged. This might cause a bit of blood.
So, what do I think?
As you say, I’m not a medic so what I’m about to say is a total guess. If it only bled after that one time then it may well have healed up and I think you’ll probably be fine.
However I do think it’s a good idea to talk to someone you know and trust in real life about this. Is there a parent or carer or wise looking relative/adult in your life you could talk to? It’s not easy talking to adults about masturbation when you’re 13 and whether you think you can depends on your parents. You could also see your school nurse, or even head to your local young people’s clinic if you wanted more re-assurance.
If you decide to masturbate again soon
If you feel like you want to give it another go please put the pen away. Maybe try not masturbating inside the vagina but on the outside. Touching the skin around the clitoris or the vaginal lips can feel really nice. If then you wanted to explore inside the vagina you could just use your fingers, but maybe trim your finger nails first.
If something feels painful or sore please stop. It may mean that you aren’t quite ready for inserting your fingers in your vagina yet.
Hope this helps!
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I did the same thing one time out of curiosity to feel what the penetration feels like , and I overshared to a guy I liked , and I’m cringing so hard on that and I get anxious about it too , what to do 🙁
Well oversharing happens. Whether it’s too ‘over’ depends on the other person really. Everyone has their own preferences about how much they want to know about other people’s sex lives. Also we might want to ‘lead up to’ sexual conversations, where we share things which are in a conversation where we might be sharing other things. Here are some resources for you that might help. How to make sex and relationships chats easier here’s one about how to worry and here’s one about how to get over the shame of sharing a nude which is a different situation to yours but has some advice that you might find helpful
I used a pen like that and it hurts on the insides…
Am I ready to take a penis? I can take 5 sharpies total (the skinny, regular ones, not the extra thick ones). 2 are normal sharpies, and the other three are sharpie highlighters (also the skinny ones). I always keep the caps on, and I usually just circle my clit and keep them still. I do sometimes thrust them in gently, but not very often.
Hi. (I’m assuming that you are talking about your vagina.) The vagina is ‘self-stretchy’, you don’t have to stretch it out yourself with pens or fingers or sex toys designed to be put in the vagina. It gets stretchy when you are aroused (sexually turned on) and also comfortable and relaxed. The muscles surrounding the vagina relaxes, the vagina gets wet, the fornix starts to stretch deep inside the vagina. So masturbation is a way to learn how being aroused feels, how you get aroused, and what happens when you are aroused. You could read this about how the clitoris and vagina work and if you are thinking about having sex with a penis you could read my guide on how to have sex, which explains everything. Everything here is free and ad free and written by me. Let me know if you have any other questions. Justin
Hi, I just wanted to know if it’s safe to put a pen or pencil Inside of your pussy and then hump a pillow while it’s still inside?
It’s better to masturbate with either fingers, or a sex toy which is specifically designed for internal masturbation. I wouldn’t recommend masturbating with a marker pen, a pencil, or a toothbrush as the vaginal lining can tear. Anything you use must have smooth edges. Humping a pillow is totally fine and safe though, as I’ve written about here.
so i am in a long distance relationship…cant meet or anything and i just have constant urges to do something physical. I cant buy sex toys or something so one day i just used a white board marker to do it and i started bleeding…some sort of skin kind of thing also came out with blood….im just so scared.. what will happen now…..
There’s more advice, including advice from a Doctor, here https://www.bishuk.com/your-questions/ask-bish-ive-hurt-myself-masturbating/ If the bleeding stopped, and it has been at least 2 weeks since it’s happened, then the little cut in the vagina has probably healed. If you are still concerned then you must try to speak with a doctor or a nurse in person
I have used my ball pen pencil to fuck myself. I put it in and out like a really penis. Have I hurted my pussy?
Hi. I don’t know if you’ve hurt yourself. If there’s no blood or pain then probably not, but it might cause harm. Fingers (particularly if you smooth your fingernail) will be safer.
I started fingering myself with 3 pens but nothing happen , should I stop or continue
If you’re not feeling any nice sensations in your body then it’s probably not worth it. As I say above, there is the possibility of harming yourself a little if you use a pen
Hii so basically I have to use a whiteboard pen cause my parents are so strict they won’t let me buy sex toys so any recommendations
Hiya. Look, you don’t have to masturbate with a whiteboard pen, you could use your fingers (which ideally you wash first) or just masturbate the clitoris. Anything you put inside the vagina needs to be smooth and hard enough not to break, but soft enough to feel nice. Some people use vegetables to do this, but even then I would recommend putting a condom on the outside because you might mess with the natural pH of the vagina.
There are lots of alternative ways to masturbate. If you look at all the BISH articles about masturbation you’ll find some ideas (you’ll also see the other ways in which people hurt themselves through masturbating and then freak out).
What if I use a drawing stylus with a condom on it to masturbate? (I can’t really afford sex toys and share a room so I can’t get a vibrator either) (I’m 18 and a virgin)
I’m not sure I can give any more advice than I have already. Sorry about that
I used pen to masturbate I m scared I missed my period
Well masturbation can’t cause pregnancy, if that’s what you’re worried about. Remember that periods can be late for all sorts of reasons, particularly if you are young
So…if im 13 and haven’t really inserted a finger and im a little scared…how do I get myself to cum?
This website is for over 14s, so it might not be suitable for you. But if you might find this article more useful than the one you’ve just read. You don’t need to insert anything to experience an orgasm or have nice feelings How to Masturbate
It’s going to be fine the first time I did it just insert one finger and use something to make it slide in well (not water!!)
simmilar to this ‘story’ i stuck an orange marker pen up there and when i pulled it out i had orange on my hands and im worried it leaked im only 14 what should i do
I’m afraid I can’t give any more advice on this than I have above
Got ink on clitoris by mistake.
Is it harmful?/
I don’t think so? But I’m not a medic. If you get any irritation or pain which doesn’t go away you could speak to a doctor?
I masturbated with a pen (I know stupid) and I’m kind of scared because all my friends got their period except for me?
It’s not going to affect your periods. Try not to worry (but also take the advice I give in the article too!)
I have litterly nothing but a sharpie and shower idk what to do
Try the table in the bathroom or try a pillow!! ^–^
Definitely a pillow (not sure about a table) Humping a Pillow, Is It Normal?
Hi am 15 would a toothbrush handle be idle?
Try this
Hey so I’m 13 I use a highlighter to masturbate I haven’t bled or anything just wonder is that still ok to use? I can’t buy sex toys or anything. I know you’ll say that I shouldn’t do that like I said in the article. The highlight is not sharp and I use the opposite side of the cap so it won’t leak or anything. Please respond
I can’t give you anymore advice than I have already I’m afraid. You might be able to talk to someone in person who can give you a bit more advice Who To Talk To About Sex and How
Hello, I am a young person and wondered what would happen if you got a pen lid stuck in your vagina and you couldn’t seek help? I have explored masturbation before, and understand what to and not to put in my vagina. So, what would help get a pen lid out of your vagina?
If it’s stuck in there, you should seek help. Sexual Health Services
Okay so I’ve been using a pen to do this and I’ve been doing it for quite a while, a long-ish period of time and now I’m scared. Is there now permanent damage down there? Will this effect the eggs and had this effected future pregnancy? I’m concerned now and don’t know what to do please help
It won’t affect your chances of pregnancy.
I used a pen with cap to rub against my vagina wall it didnt have aby sharp ebge and no blood is it still safe? Am i still a virgin? i am 14
As I’ve explained a lot here, it’s not a good idea to use pens to masturbate. However, even if you put a pen inside a vagina you are still a virgin. Virginity is a story that humans have made up to shame and control women. You might want to read this Am I Still a Virgin?
I have used a marker in my thing and I saw some redish brownish thing what is that?
Yes so as I say in the article, it’s not a good idea to put a pen (or anything with sharp edges) in your thing (vagina). So please can you stop doing that. The reddish brown thing might be a little bit of blood from a period, or from a small cut. You can read a bit more about vaginas here Clitoris and Vagina
Hey, I’m 15 and my parents are really strict and I can’t actually buy toys and stuff, I finger myself, but I want it to be even more fun… I want to feel good… What are some things I can use to pleasure myself?
Have a read of all the masturbation and solo sex articles and see if you can find anything that might help you In my expert opinion, people focus too much on what they are doing to their body (eg techniques). You could try just doing what you do but allowing yourself to focus on how your body feels, where you feel tingles in your body, what happens to your breathing, what sounds you make, what you think about, how you feel after. Doing that is the key to learning how to enjoy sex more, not technique. I wrote this about it Solo Sex
Is it safe to put the handle of a hairbrush up ya bum?
Not really I’m afraid.
Hi i put my 2 fingers in my vigina and then i took them out and now my vagina hurts
From 1-10 a 3
No form of sex should hurt. So if it hurts stop doing it. If you read more about the vagina you might understand more about how to prevent pain Clitoris and Vagina see also this about painful sex Trust in Relationships
Hey! I’m 15 and I by default put the sharp object inside my vagina and I have done it before but back then there was only little blood.but now when I did second time It was like one spoon blood and now I’m really afraid. Please tell me is it OK or it will affect me in future 😭
I can’t give you any more advice than I have above I’m afraid
If I put a mark tip in my vagina is it safe
I think I’ve answered that above (it has some risks). You could also read this article about trying it with a toothbrush (also has risks).
I decided to stick 3 markers in my vagina, after masturbating I pulled them out and saw blood and I am only 12… does this mean I am not a virgin anymore?
I’ve written about that here Am I Still a Virgin?
So, my ‘story’ is similar to hers. I’m currently 13, and I personally wanted to experience masturbation. Since I obviously don’t have proper masturbation “toys” or “products” I used the end of a pen, or thought did. This may or may not be too much information, but later on when I pulled it out I realized I did NOT use the right end, I used the end which ink comes out of. Earlier I lost the cap of the pen, so the pen didn’t have a cap. I’m personally concerned if that was or was not a good or bright idea. Is it unhealthy? Did I do something wrong? Please reach out to me and let me know. 🙂
So as I said in this article it’s not a good idea to insert anything in your vagina that isn’t intended to be inserted in your vagina. It’s safe to use fingers (ideally you might want to trim your nails and make sure your hands are clean).
I used a marker too and i saw blood.does it mean i’m disvirgin cause the main reason i used it instead of a penis is to not get disvirgined because that’s unreversible
You are still a virgin.. a virgin is not having sexual intercourse with another person. You might of broken your hymen… doesn’t mean your not a virgin. Hope I was helpful. Good luck.?
What if I want to masturbate but my parents are strict and will not approve even thought it makes me feel better
Do they have to know?
i had a question my friend told me that she has inserted pen inside her vagina but she inserted it fully now it is not removing and it is lost somewhere inside her vagina can u help her telling some advice or trick or the methods to remove it plz help her .
I think she should see a doctor.. that can cause serious damage. Maybe have someone to help her. I think you should really see the parent about this. Even I she might feel embarrassed. Good luck.
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Hey my name is Sam Herbert and I’m 13 years old and I am wondering how you have a swank with a pen, it must feel so good 😉 I tried before with a rubber but it didn’t feel right pleaseeee reply so can do it straight away xxxxxxxxxxx
I wouldn’t suggest a rubber bc it can seriously damage the vagina and things could also get stuck in their maybe try using a electronic toothbrush
Hi, Do not use a rubber. It can seriously damage your vagina. I am 14 and understand where you would want to experiment. I used to use a large Sharpie (omg it felt SO good I orgasmed SO much) but I later found out it wasn’t healthy. I suggest using your fingers, Toothbrush, Hairbrush handle, Sex toy, Etc; hope this helps!