Think you know your stuff about sex? Try this deceptively difficult quiz about first time sex (ever or with someone else). Don’t worry your results aren’t recorded or anything – it’s just for fun innit.
Here’s a link to my First Time Sex quiz (opens in a new window, come back here for the useful links below).
There are a lot of useful links here for you to make sure that first time sex is really good. For a start, here’s how to make first time sex better by planning and talking to each other about what might happen and why you want to do it. Here’s how to make sure that you are able to do sex talk and communication during sex, with some helpful tips on how to make that easier. Here are some more tips on how to enjoy sex more.
As the quiz says, first time sex should never be painful, here are the ways to avoid painful sex. Or you could just choose different kinds of sex that you might both find really enjoyable and not at all painful (which I think is the best way to do it to be honest). There’s a huge post if you’re new to all this and you’re like what is sex and want to learn about different kinds of sex. It can be really difficult to slow down and think about what you want and what you need: here’s an article about choosing a chocolate bar, which can help you choose what you want from sex!
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I’ve been a trained sex and relationships educator since 1999. I’m a member of the World Association for Sexual Health. As well as BISH I also have resources, a podcast, and a coaching service for over 18s, as well as some of the best RSE teaching resources around. Find out out about my other work at justinhancock.co.uk. My work has featured (positively) in the media, like the BBC, Financial Times, The Economist, The Guardian, Sky One, and Novara Media.
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