Here I explain in a video why this is very very low risk sex – and why feelings are like farts!
More Bish that might help
Am I Pregnant? A simple guide about pregnancy risks
How Fertility Works – why it’s harder than you might think (but also should use contraception if you don’t wanna get preggo)
Sexual Health Services – where to go in the UK if you are worried and need some real life reassurance
OMG YES! – ideas for other stuff you can do which might be even lower risk
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hi bish
ive been reading your page like crazy in the last few days, and ive read through quite a lot of questions and answers, but still can’t put my mind at ease (i very much tend to overthink everything and feel anxious about them all day), and i have a very specific scenario that i would very much appreciate if you could help me with.
i was over at my girlfriends house on the very last day of her period (only spotting), this was on the 11th of July, and we decided to fool around a bit – we did some dry humping (we were both wearing underwear), then proceeded to do some mutual masturbation – i started rubbing her through her panties, but she had a pantyliner (because of her period), so i went under, and started rubbing the outside of her vagina, but i only did this for about 10 seconds because i realised i might have some precum (probably dried off) on my finger. We had a similar scare last month, so i instantly stopped and went out into the bathroom to wash my hands twice with soap. After that I returned to the room and she finished me off with no possible contact of my semen to her vagina.
as ive read through your page i realize that a chance of pregnancy from this is highly unlikely, and my girlfriend is also telling me that i have nothing to worry about, and that there is no reason for me to be anxious (she doesnt say it in a bad way, she just doesnt want me to worry every day for nothing), but i cant seem to put my mind at ease.
her next period is supposed to come on the 3rd of August, which just so happens to be the first day of a hiking camp we are attending together for a week, so that doesnt really help with my worries.
if you could tell me the realistic chances of pregnancy from this exact situation, that would surely help my worries.
also many thanks for your page, it is a great help for young people like me that we have access to free sex education online from such a friendly source:)) have a great day
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I would say the risk is highly highly highly unlikely. In fact, I’d say it was impossible for her to get pregnant from this. The advice given to couples trying to get pregnant is, have sex on a regular basis, 2 or 3 times a week, with full ejaculation inside the vagina everytime. If you did this there would be an 85% chance of pregnancy happening within a year. So even if you got precum on the outside of her vagina the risks of pregnancy are pretty much zero.
And thanks 🙂 I’ve got lots of other sex ed pages on here too! Even one on how to deal with stress and how to worry