Reassuring and useful audio advice for a reader who can’t get hard (it’s not because of porn).
So I and my girlfriend have been together for about a year now, after we met last year in sixth form. We initially held off having sex, but we tried to do it yesterday. I thought it would be great, but last night I just couldn’t get a full erection. I told her I was just tired, maybe nervous, but she didn’t like it and thought I didn’t find her attractive. I don’t know why that happened, I do find her attractive, and I don’t know what to do about it. I usually can get an erection when masturbating or to porn, could that be causing a problem, coz I read on this website called yourbrainonporn about porn-induced ed?? Please tell me what I can do Bish, cheers, I just don’t want this to happen again next time u know?
I answered this as a kind of podcast!
The key is to remember that #hardonsarerandom. I gave much longer advice about why that is here. There are lots of different kinds of sex that don’t require an erection (and can be just as enjoyable or even more enjoyable). Putting less pressure on a penis to get hard means that it’s actually more likely that penises will get hard.
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