How have we learnt to do sex and relationships under capitalism? What could we do differently? What would anti-capitalist relationships and sex look like?
Most of us in the world live under some kind of capitalism system. That is, “a means of organising society around private ownership of the means of production (eg factories) and built on the exploitation of workers for profit.” (from this Capitalism 101 video).
This article isn’t necessarily about trying to make you anti-capitalist but to get you to think about relationships and sex more politically.
- Does capitalism make us do relationships and sex in a particular way?
- Are we motivated by profit and competition in our personal lives?
- If the main themes of RSE are about consent, kindness, and cooperation, is that useful in other aspects of our lives?
- In what way are our desires determined by politics?
- Who gets lots of choice and freedoms, who gets less?
- Is there an abundance of love to go around, or only so much that we have to fight over?
Hopefully this is a gentle way of thinking a bit more about politics when you think about relationships and sex education. As you can see, it’s another one of my ‘Talk For A Minute‘ resources.
How to do this
So I use this kind of activity in my RSE classes and it goes down really well. It’s a way of getting everyone talking about some pretty big topics with a slightly competitive element. Though of course if you were an anti-capitalist you might want to get rid of the competitive bit.
In a small group (where you have all agreed to be respectful of each other, listen to each other, not use discriminatory or oppressive language) you each pick up a card. Someone else will get their watch or their phone out and time you for a minute. In that minute you talk about what you think about the card. It could be your thoughts, your feelings, or you could talk about what other people think (coward).
Everyone else just has to sit and listen. Sometimes they will be nodding along, sometimes they might throw their hands up in the air in disgust, sometimes they might nod off. Once you’ve had your go (and are being competitive) you will be awarded marks. I think this marking system works well:
- A point per second you speak (up to a max of 60 points).
- Double points for every second where you were saying something interesting.
- Points deduction for every second where you are taking the piss or not being sincere.
If you are playing in two teams you could all support each other and you could also choose to do a card between you. You could negotiate with the other team how many points you get. Of course if the other team are generous with you, you might want to be generous with them. Or not, depending on how important winning is to you.
It’s probably easier for you to just use your phones to read the cards. I’m not giving you the answers (there aren’t any right or wrong answers), but I will link to other articles on the website that you might want to read afterwards.
If you have any interesting points that you’d like to make you could leave them in the comments below. I moderate all comments, so there’s zero beef. Or you could make a video, or write a blog if you wanted. Tell me about it.
Side note: I’m very very pleased with my banknote drawing.
This post I wrote about how to feel better about your body is killer and it’s pretty political, as well as having lots of practical tips that actually work.
Capitalism needs people, and people need to be raised and looked after. A lot of people say this is free labour. This is called social reproduction.
We’re all talking about it nowadays, but why? I’ve written about how to do self-care and also how to deal with stress. If you want to read more about this also check out stress and the people around us, and how the world stresses us out. I’ve got a lot to say about this but I’ll keep my finger on my lips for now.
I’ve written about solidarity and how to understand and use your power and privilege.
You could try my solidarity article for more about this.
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Also I wrote a blog about anti-capitalist RSE for practitioners.
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