can i be pregnant from pre-cum

Can I Be Pregnant From Pre-Cum?

Here’s a question from a reader who is worried she is pregnant from pre-cum, but I have other worries. This post contains references to sexual assault and non-consent, so be careful before you read any further. 

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I’m 16 years old but I left school already.. but my situation is that I was messing around with my boyfriend and he tried to push his penis inside me but it didn’t go and it hurt a lot and he was only there for a few seconds and I told him to stop. And I asked him what if I get pregnant he said I won’t so I asked him if he precumed he said if he did he would know.. I told him that guys can drop semen without knowing, he said yes he knows but he would’ve known if he dropped so much. And my period is supposed to come next week Friday. And I don’t know what to do.

 

Hi

Thanks for your question. I’ll answer your question first but there’s something else I’m much more worried about.

Pregnant From Pre-Cum?

So it’s incredibly unlikely that you will be pregnant from what you describe. The average chance of pregnancy for one time sex is 3.1% (and this is between 1% and 9% depending on whether you were about to ovulate or not). However that is with the penis fully ejaculating inside the vagina, which is not what happened with you. You can read more about how pregnancy starts and where I got those figures from about pregnancy chances here.

fertility explained

There is a possibility that there may have been enough sperm in your boyfriend’s pre-cum (if he did produce any pre-cum) but it would be rare for there to be enough mobile sperm for pregnancy to occur. And even then the pre-cum would have to have happened with his penis being fully inside the vagina. I wrote about pre-cum here and have just updated it.

So I’d be amazed if you are pregnant from this. You could go and chat to someone at a sexual health service if you think you are at risk or want to have a chat with someone about it. I think there’s some other stuff that you could be chatting to them about too though.

What I’m Worried About

Your description of your boyfriend trying to push his penis inside you made me feel sad and worried. You told me about it but you didn’t say you were concerned about it (at least not directly). He really should not have done that because it sounds to me like you didn’t want that to happen. This is serious business and, if the police got involved, he could be questioned about, or charged with, a sexual offence (like rape, attempted rape or sexual assault).

All I’m saying is that what he did was wrong and that you shouldn’t have to put up with him treating like that if you don’t want to. When it was happening, you told him to stop and he did. But he should have been aware that you were not into this before it got to the point of you saying stop. It’s not cool to put someone in the position of having to say stop, or no. This is on him, so maybe he should be reading this website about how to do consent better.

Sadly this is really common (with one in ten women reporting having had sex without wanting to). However I also don’t want to tell you how to feel about it, that’s not my job. Your body is your body and your feelings are your feelings and I’m not here to tell you what it is that you should be feeling, thinking and doing.

If you are chill about it and you have told him that wasn’t cool and are confident it won’t happen again, then good for you. If you wanted to dump him because of this, that would be totally legit. Also if you wanted to tell someone else about this and ask for their help that would also be good. You could report this to a Sexual Assault Referral Centre if you wanted to, they could give you some help and support. You didn’t leave an email address but if you want to get back in touch with me I could try and help you find a service near you where you could get help, if you wanted it.

It’s your call how you deal with it, I just want to get you to think about it.

Hope that helps

Justin

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Justin Hancock

Justin Hancock, writer/editor of BISH. I've been a sex and relationships educator since 1999. I'm a trained sexual health trainer and a qualified youth worker. I've worked with thousands of young people in person: in sexual health clinics, schools, and youth projects. My advice has also featured in leading newspapers in the UK and my work has been written about and referred to by several academics, journalists and writers.

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    My girlfriend has her menstruation, but we had sex, but i as the male, did not ejaculate, and we only did it for almost 50 seconds, more like a minute for a minute or two. Also she’s an irregular, a super irregular one. her periods usually comes after 3 – 4 months. Her previous period was on Feb 18 2019, We had sex on June 13 2019 and the start of her period was on June 10 2019, can she get pregnant,? If shes super irregular, and we had sex on her period, ? What are the chances? Please answer thanks

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      Justin Hancock

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      I think if you re-read the article, and all the links I’ve provided, you’ll find the answer. Can I also recommend using condoms next time you have sex, and perhaps discuss the risks of sex between you before hand.

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    Anonymous

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    I honestly wouldn’t post on this website if I wasn’t scared. Me and my girlfriend decided to have sex and a condom was absent from the equation. I want to know if I could’ve gotten her pregnant with precum. (I pulled out earlier as to not increase the chances). I didn’t masturbate earlier and went to the bathroom before in the day but I’m not sure if it’s still a high possibility. Thank you for your time.

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      Justin Hancock

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      Can you please just read the article and the links in the article again? I’ve already answered your question. The average chance of pregnancy from one time sex with full ejaculation in the vagina is 3.1%. The average chance of pregnancy from one time sex with no ejaculation in the vagina is much much lower than that. Somewhere between 0 and 1%. If you’re worried about unplanned pregnancy then your girlfriend could take some emergency contraception which you can get from a sexual health service.

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    WorriedSick

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    Please do answer my question! My girlfriend is super irregular, she goes for 4-6 weeks without menstruating, her last period was in the month of January, and me and my girlfriend never really did engage in penetrative sex “fully”, we usually dryhumped and there were two-three instances wherein we tried pnetrative sex but never really did do it fully, it’s like just the tip of the penis inside her entrance for a few seconds, no ejaculation. My question is, could she be pregnant? her last period was January, until now her period is still missing. The last time we had our little session was around May 4. Please help, we’re both scared, and she should’ve practiced proper birth control

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      Justin Hancock

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      As this article you are reading says, there is a very low chance of pregnancy from sex that does not involve sperm being fully ejaculated in the vagina. So it’s very very unlikely that the sex you are describing has started a pregnancy. As you know, periods can be super irregular and there are lots of reasons why that might be (stress is one of them). Finally, I don’t really see why you are putting the blame on her for not using birth control. You put your penis inside her, you could have put a condom on.

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    Sarah

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    Hi…so me and my boyfriend and sex….and the condom broke…but he didn’t cum…he said he did pre- cumed…I am stressing, I’m only 17…and is there any way I can fall pregnant or is there any way I can prevent it….I am on birth control been on it for 2 weeks…

    sincerely
    sarah

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      Justin Hancock

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      Hi Sarah. So, as I say in the article, there is a less than 1% chance of pregnancy starting from pre-cum being in the vagina. Also the condom may well have prevented much of the pre-cum getting in your vagina (depending on how badly the condom broke).

      Also you’ve already started using additional birth control, which means that you are at a much much much much much lower risk of pregnancy (think about it, most birth control methods are over 99% effective https://www.bishuk.com/safer-sex/whats-the-best-contraception-for-you/ ). If you’re still worried then I would go back to where you got your birth control from and ask them to re-assure you.

      For the future, if you are going to keep using condoms and birth control (like the pill, IUD, IUS, implant, etc) then it might be a good idea to make sure you’re using condoms properly. They are more likely to break if they aren’t put on properly, if they get too dry, if they come into contact with something oil based like lipstick or moisturiser, or if handled by sharp nails. https://www.bishuk.com/safer-sex/how-to-use-condoms/

      Hope that helps!

      Justin

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    Shawn R

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    I was inside my girlfriend unprotected for a few seconds before going back out.. I wiped off any precum on me before entering then was in for about 5 seconds . I’m worried she is pregnant as her period is 3 days late.. could she be? Isn’t there like a 2% chance of that ? I’m so worried..

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    Hbh

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    I’ve had my periods after dry humping but periods laster for 4 days and now there is spotting for almost 5 days. Total almost 10 days of periods. Could it be related to pregnancy?

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      Justin Hancock

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      Nope. If you are having a period then you are not pregnant

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