How you can feel more satisfied with your penis size, how you can make your penis feel a bit bigger and why having it’s not a biggie having a biggie.
Despite the fact the the vast majority of penises are around average size, many men worry about the length of their penis. This is usually because they learn a lot of bullshit from TV, magazines and porn that penis size makes someone a better lover and a ‘bigger man.’
However, this piece is about trying to make people with penises (mostly men) more confident about their penis size. I’ll do this by using some FACTS, some practical ideas about making you feel bigger and also a rant about why it all really really doesn’t matter (this comes at the end).
Don’t compare yourself
People often see other penises in real life in changing rooms. Remember that penises vary a lot in size when soft (more on this below). Also penis size varies a lot due to temperature.
People also compare themselves with fellas they see in porn. Please remember this: if you were to apply for a job as a male actor in a porn film, one of the first things they will ask to see is your penis size – not your GCSE in Drama Studies. Porn actors need to have an above average penis size – usually above 6 inches or more…. DON’T COMPARE
Actual average penis size
Yes that’s right: the average length of an adult erect penis is around 5 1/2 inches long. The majority of penises are under 6 inches long when erect. Anyone telling you any different is wrong or lying.
Soft vs hard penis size
Penis sizes vary a lot more when they are soft than when they are hard. Look at this picture above. Dicks that look small when soft get a lot bigger when hard than dicks that look bigger when soft. As in this picture. Remember also that penis size can vary a LOT. The temperature, how turned on someone is feeling and even what time of day it is can all have a big effect on the size of a penis (and ball sac) at any one time.
So, the facts: penises are probably smaller than most people think and if you are reading this and you have a penis the chances are your dick is less than 6 inches.
If you still feel like your penis is too small …
The sneaky pube trim
Some people find that if they trim their pubes a bit then this can make their dicks look longer. This is something that porn actors do. They’re your pubes so you can do what you like with them: maybe even make a mohican! If you’re going for a very close trim then try to go with the direction of the hair to avoid getting an ingrown hair. Read this about pubic hair.
The mirror trick
When you look down on your piece it makes your penis look smaller because of perspective and stuff. But if you look at the full length of your dick in a mirror you’ll see that it looks longer: try it! Why does this help? When other people look at your penis (for example in a changing room) this is what they see, not what you can see from up there.
Give it a shake
If you’ve got a flaccid (soft) penis and you are conscious about making it look bigger then you could give it a bit of a shake! This can help stimulate blood flow to the penis which can make it look a little bit bigger. For instance if I was an actor in a film where I was required to get my penis out on camera I would certainly be doing this (Fassbender and McGregor – did you do this?)
Your penis is not you
If you think that having a big dick is an important factor in being good at sex or being a bloke, think again dong brain. Firstly basic biology lesson. If you are having penis in vagina sex you should know that most women (or those with vaginas – not all women have vaginas) can not have an orgasm or enjoy sex as much without the clitoris being touched, licked or caressed from the outside. This is true even for guys with big big penises. Most nerve endings in the vagina and the anus are near the opening, no further than two or three inches inside. Here’s more about why penis in vagina sex can be meh #glanswatch
Secondly, being good at sex is a hell of a lot more than having a penis at all. Being good at sex involves your brain: knowing how your body works, knowing how your partner’s body works, your ability to communicate what feels good, wanting to make your partner feel great, listening to what your partner likes, seeing your fingers,hands,tongue, breath as being just as important as genitals, knowing that kneecaps, earlobes, necks, backs, ankles, wrists, chests, nipples, mouths can all be as sexy as genitals….. read how to have amazing sex without having ‘sex’
I hope this helps some guys to be less concerned and focussed on their penis size.
© Justin Hancock, 2018