Can I be pregnant from pre-cum?

‘We Didn’t ‘Fully’ Do It, Am I Pregnant?’

Pregnancy worries from a couple who had penis in vagina sex without a condom but didn’t ejaculate

My boyfriend and I have been wanting to have sex for a while , but I haven’t been ready because I’ve been worried about possibly getting pregnant, etc. (I’m 16.) Yesterday we wanted to but he didn’t have a condom and we weren’t going to do it without one. Neither of us had done it before , and we just wanted to see what it felt like. We knew we couldn’t really “fully” do it, so we just put it in for a few seconds. I was on top of him (if that makes any difference at all) I only kind of went up and down two or three times gently, and he was only inside me 10-20 (?) seconds. He definitely didn’t come in me, but I’ve now learned that I could still become pregnant from it. We didn’t know that at the time, but he told his mom today and she said that there’s still a 50% chance, and I’ve been looking it up and everything does say it’s still possible. I feel really stupid , but he’s 15 and I’m 16 and we really didn’t know it was possible. It seemed completely safe. The other thing is that I was on my period. It started around Tuesday I think (this is Sunday), so yesterday (Saturday) was like the 5th day. It was the last day, I actually thought it would be over by then or at least not as heavy, but there was still a fair amount of blood. But today it’s pretty much completely over. I’m not sure if that is relevant at all, I just know there’s a slim chance of getting pregnant while on your period, but it was the last day, so that’s why I’m questioning it. I’m pretty freaked out, I didn’t anticipate any of this happening. I’m trying to stay calm and consider that 1. I was on my period so it might reduce the risk a little 2. if any semen did get in me, it’s still not a guarantee I’ll get pregnant and 3. it may not have even gotten in me at all. So I know (I think) the chances of me being pregnant are not very high, I’m still really worried. I know you can’t tell me if I am or not, I just thought I’d see what your thoughts were on this. Thanks.

Hi there

Thanks for your great question which you’ve kind of already answered. You clearly know your stuff about sex ed despite not knowing about the (very very) small risks of pregnancy from penis in vagina sex without ejaculation. We all have gaps in our knowledge about stuff, I learnt something new about tampons the other day and this is my job! (though to be fair, I don’t have a vagina)

I agree with your 1.2.3.

1. Sex during a period is one of the less likely times that someone can get pregnant, however this very much depends on how long your menstrual cycle is. If you have a very short cycle (usually) then sex towards the end of a period could be getting into the your fertile time. However if you are more like a ‘once every 28 days’ kinda person then it won’t be. Remember cycles can be totally random, especially for teens, so try not to get too worried if your period is late or early.

2. Even if semen did get inside you it’s still unlikely that you will be pregnant. If you were trying to get pregnant, the advice you would get is to have lots of penis in vagina sex (ejaculating fully inside the vagina) for a year or two. During that period it is likely that you will get pregnant. Some find they get pregnant really quickly, others not. Since you only did it once and he didn’t ejaculate it is very unlikely that you are pregnant. That’s not to say it’s impossible but his mum simply isn’t right to say it’s a 50% chance.

If he did come inside you then it would be around 3.1% chance (between 0% and 9%). As he didn’t come inside you then it would be closer to zero percent. I explain more about this and the risk of pregnancy from pre-cum (which is very very low) here.

3. Yup it’s probably that semen didn’t get inside you. Although you only need one sperm to fertilise an egg, when ejaculation happens between 50 and 300 million sperm are released. There *may* be a chance of a few hundred sperm being at the tip of his penis in pre ejaculatory fluid but maybe not. Also that sperm is probably not the best equipped to fertilise an egg because they aren’t fresh sperm and are in a fluid that isn’t semen (sperm needs semen to help swim and to feed on).

One thing you haven’t mentioned is the risk of STIs. If either of you have had unprotected sexual experiences with other people before (or you have an infection which you didn’t get sexually but can pass on sexually) then there is a risk of giving each other infections if you have penis in vagina sex without a condom. It’s much easier to get an STI from what you describe than get pregnant.

So I hope this gives you a bit of re-assurance. Think about what you are going to take away from this experience for the future. How can you have sexy times with the boyf and have a really low risk of pregnancy/STIs? If you don’t have condoms how can you have mutual lovely sex which is low risk?

Let me know how you get on! Post a comment below if you like.

Justin

PS Lots of people are reading this and then asking me if they are pregnant. Hopefully this graphic will help you (you’re probably not).

I had sex I'm worried I'm pregnant

Please don’t post a comment asking me to tell you how likely it is whether you are pregnant or not. I can’t give you any more re-assurance than I already have here. Sorry.

Here are a few more articles that might help

Am I Pregnant

How to deal with stress – in case you are stressed about pregnancy

Emergency contraception – in case you had unprotected sex in the last 5 days

A lot of people below are talking about painful first time sex. Sex should not hurt, first time or anytime. Plan for better sex by reading this post about first time sex and read this about painful sex and how to avoid it.

Also is your partner putting you at risk of pregnancy?

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228 thoughts on “‘We Didn’t ‘Fully’ Do It, Am I Pregnant?’

  1. Hi I was 15 when me and this boy did it and it was only round about 5 to 10 seconds it was in me bc we wanted to know what it was like
    And I haven’t had my period yet I’m 2 days late now 3 and i don’t know if I’m pregnant or not as he didn’t cum in me or precum in me as it takes him along time
    And I’ve been panicking for ages now and I rlly want to know if I am or not as I don’t rlly want to tell my parents

  2. Hi, idk if this is still active, but I had unprotected sex on my 6th day. Just after my period. He didnt have a condom. I didn’t want to, but he gave me reassurance that he is going to protect me and told me to trust him. He thrusted for short minutes but eventually pulled out because I’m not aroused (well i was worried lol). He didn’t cum tho. But I’m still worried and stressing out i might get preg after feeling him inside me. Is there a big chance that it’s possible?

    1. As I’ve said many times, there is a very low chance of pregnancy happening from that Pregnancy Likelihood Quiz! Try this quiz!

      I wonder whether you might be able to bring a bit more conversation and consensual practices into your sex life though? Consent is more than just allowing someone to do something to you (and stopping when it isn’t comfortable or just not working). Perhaps read up some more about this? Start with this page and click on the links to read the other articles How To Have Sex

      1. Hi Bish I would really like some help with my situation too if possible-
        My girlfriend and I wanted to try sex and I only stuck in in her for 10 seconds and there might’ve been pre-cum but I was no where close to cumming. My girlfriend has been really stressed lately because we did it a day before her period and she had a 2 day light period a day after we had sex and then it stopped (i believe it’s from her hymen breaking). But it’s been six days since her “period” has stopped. I don’t know if her period is completly gone because she had early period symptoms before we even had unprotected sex. I would like some advice or help PLEASE to know if she is pregnant or not.

  3. hi,
    so i read your post a few times and i feel more reassured, but i just have some questions regarding my specific situation bc there are a lot of factors.

    firstly, me and my bf both lost our virginities and i believe it was during ovulation but he had a condom on and did not ejaculate. this was like on june 18

    on june 27, he didn’t have a condom and we had sex for around 5-7 minutes without one but he didn’t ejaculate either, but i’m not sure about precum.

    the last time was on july 2 and in the first 2-5 minutes he went in raw, but after we used a condom for the rest but since we r still both inexperienced he thought that he was going to cum so he took the condom off, but he didn’t really so he put it back on. i know you aren’t supposed to do that but he said he used his opposite hand so no ejaculate was transferred. finally, he ejaculared around 2 minutes later and took the condom off but he didn’t ejaculate in the condom or in me. i got paranoid so i took a plan b pill the next day.

    i’m just worried that either from june 27 or july 2 that i might get pregnant because we went raw for more than expected but he didn’t ejaculate, but on july 2 he ejculated but not inside me but he took the condom off when he ejaculated.

    i guess the chances are low but we have both been stressing about it. my period is supposedly sometime this week and i still haven’t gotten it yet. however, i heard that taking plan b may disturb your hormones and delay your period? especially since i’m 15 (turning 16 in aug) it might have some effects.

    please let me know asap 🙂 thank you so much!

  4. I’ve 31 days of the menstrual cycle. The last date of menstruation was 2 June 20201, so my ovulation period must be over by 18-20 June. On 24th of June We were having outercourse until I felt it inside I said to him and he is denying the fact that he penetrated even though i said i can feel it and dont do it he still saying that no you’re feeling wrong i won’t penetrate. It was my first time. After that, he pulled out and ejaculated outside the vagina that is mons pubis. Later I found traces of blood, and 2 hours after i started spotting heavily. Spotting stopped the next morning that is today, 25th June, Should I take a plan b pill or wait for my periods which should come on 2-3 July. What to do? Should I be worried about precum or cum at the time of pulling out and ejaculation and that may cause sperms to enter? Should I take Plan B Pill?

    1. Hi, I’m sorry that I couldn’t offer advice soon after this happened. I’m afraid I don’t offer a 24/7 advice service. My advice would have been to take a Plan B just in case, even though the risk of pregnancy would have been very very low if he didn’t ejaculate inside you. My main concern here is that he did something which he didn’t want you to and you could (if you wanted) call what he did ‘rape’. It’s never okay to do things that the other person doesn’t want to do and it’s even worse to do something and then deny it happened. So you might want to consider what is going on in the relationship. Signs of an Abusive Relationship You could also report what happened too. Sexual Health Services

      1. yeah i agree, i did take the ecp and my periods were 4 days late. so i guess its no pregnancy though

  5. hi
    so ,came outside of vagina ,then put on a condom , and continued to have penetrative sex for a minute or two.

    there may have been some semen on my hands when applying the condom.

    she was on her ovulation days,

    whats the chance of pregnancy.

  6. Hi..she is a virgin..First time I had sex..my penis didn’t enter to her vagina…on nxt day..my tip of the penis entered her vagina..only the little bit tip..i swear I didn’t ejalucate..I don’t know there was any precum..this can cause a girl pregnant

  7. We had sex on my ovulation day but he didn’t cum inside he just placed the penis inside my Vagina I’m worried if I may get pregnant

      1. Hi, me and my partner had sex multiple times in one night, first 2 times he wore a condom and then removed it, we had it for a long time but he didn’t ejaculate (not even pre-cum) but I’m feeling a weird sensation in my stomach, the comments have comforted me but I’m still really scared

  8. Please had sex on my ovulation day but he didn’t cum inside me he just placed his penis inside I’m afraid okay he pregnant

  9. Hi Bish! I hope you’re keeping well.
    I have a question and would appreciate your response and see what your thoughts are. Me and my boyfriend were messing around one day. I was on the 24th day of my cycle (I usually have a 30-35 day cycle give or take) so it was around the end of my cycle. Recently I have taken up intermittent fasting, so this month I had been going without eating for a duration of time. We were planning to have sex and wanted to try it out so he put a condom on at first and tried to put it in but it wouldn’t fit, it didn’t go in all the way at all. I then just proceeded to give him oral and I’m (pretty?) sure he went to pee. We then decided to try to put it in without a condom but it still wouldn’t fit and this happened once more, I also gave him oral again which I’m (pretty?) sure he peed before he put it in me again. He came both times when I gave him oral.

    My period is due to come but my mind always likes to play tricks on me. I’m relying on the fact that I was at the end of my cycle and I’m aware of the fact that there’s a limited week in actually getting pregnant, 13-15 days before the next period. I feel like I have ovulated but haven’t been keeping track. I’ve also been overthinking the fact that what if my boyfriend didn’t pee both times after oral, could there be any risk of a pregnancy? I haven’t really been stressing much but as my period is due I’m really starting to overthink. I’d really appreciate your thoughts on this! Thanks 🙂

    1. If he didn’t ejaculate inside you then it’s very very unlikely that you got pregnant from this. As I also talk about in this article, Am I Pregnant? but even if there was pre-cum (whether it was washed away by pee or not) it’s pretty unlikely it can start a pregnancy. It sounds to me like he put the condom on the wrong way round How To Use Condoms if his penis is big then he could get a larger size condom Condom Types . If his penis is too big for you (which it sounds like it might be) you could have different kinds of sex that don’t involve penis in vagina sex (some penises don’t fit in some vaginas comfortably) So you could work out what kind of sex you like OMG Yes, No, Hmm: work out what kind of sex you like or try these kinds of sex that don’t involve entry sex Amazing Sex Without Having ‘Sex’ Lastly I’ve got a lot of information here about vaginas and how they get stretchy Clitoris and Vagina

  10. Hello. I have started casually sleeping with this guy and we first had sex on day 12 of my cycle. We did not use a condom but he didn’t finish inside of me. We then saw each other again a few days later (on day 16 of my cycle) and had unprotected sex again twice. During sex I bled so I was worried that I might have gotten myself an STI or maybe that something was wrong with my vagina so I went to the sexual health clinic to get checked out. They told me that STIs take 2 weeks to develop symptoms but the reason they brought me in was because I could be pregnant. They insisted that the chance is very high even though he didn’t ejaculate inside of me. They also stressed the fact that because it was during my fertile window it makes it even more likely. I didn’t want to take emergency contraception though as it was already 4/5 days after the fact and I really didn’t think there was a chance but now I’m kind of worried. For reference the sex lasted a few minutes each time.

    1. If he didn’t ejaculate inside you then I wouldn’t say that the chances are very high. I can’t tell you of you are pregnant but this page and this will give you more information on how likely it is Am I Pregnant?
      It’s likely that they were trying to get you to use a different form of contraception – which is a good idea. Sometimes people kind of over emphasise the likelihood of pregnancy to make you think about using protection. I wish that people didn’t do that because I think we should just be factual with people. However, I think it’s a good idea for you to think about it. It might be something you could chat to them about, or find a different clinic.

  11. so me and my boyfriend decided to have sex for the second time and we used a condom and i’ve been worried that the condom slipped a little and maybe pre cum or anything got inside me on accident. i’m really scared i’m waiting for my period to arrive and it’s been 4 days since it happened. when we were doing it i felt something wet on my vaginal area but he had a condom on i asked him was it pre cum he said no it was sweat. i’ve been pretty nauseous lately. i’m really scared and my leriod isn’t coming untill a couple weeks. i don’t know what to do. i keep scaring myself because i keep overthinking about if the condom was damaged or something.

    1. So condoms are very very effective at preventing pregnancy. If you had sex with them on a regular basis for a year there would be a 1.5% chance of pregnancy. So you can probably work out how low your risk is from one time sex, where there was no ejaculation inside you. Remember that when the vagina is aroused it gets wet, sometimes very wet. You might want to read this about stress How to Deal With Stress and this about having different kinds of sex that don’t involve penetration Amazing Sex Without Having ‘Sex’ It’s great for people who want to enjoy sex but don’t want any of the stress of pregnancy or STIs. You could chat about this with your boyfriend too maybe?

  12. I had sex with my boyfriend after the next 14days of my period without any protection.it wasn’t full time sex, but it takes up to 1-2minite.He didn’t ejaculate in me. Then he pulled his penis out of my vigina after he pull his penis out still he didn’t cum. He didn’t ejaculate but I am afraid because that was my first time. So I told him to get me some emergency pill on the 3day. Pls can I get pregnant? Will the EP work? There’s some stress on me right now .how can I stop stressing myself

  13. Hi! So my boyfriend and I had sex 2 days before my ovulation day. We always use condoms but that time he inserted it for a few seconds and thrusted a few times but it was just around 30 secs i can say and he didn’t ejaculate. After that he wore the condom and finished off. I am now 2 days late of my period, I am worried I might be pregnant I am a little nauseous and stressed out of the situation. I kept reading comments in this article and it quite helped me but I still need an answer just for reassurance thank you so much.

      1. just an update:
        Thank you for this! And finally I have my period now. I was a bit worried and stressed lately I think that’s why my period was late.

  14. So i found this because i have been freaking myself out.. so i had sex with my bf with condom on for a lil while and we both got curious what it felt like without it. So he took it off and we did it for like at least 2mins intell i said we should stop cuz i got scared to be pregnant.. i been sick because of heat exhaustion and I’ve been peeing a lot. I know he didn’t ejaculate. Im scared that precum maybe like he didn’t know. I get nauseous around food and it could be cuz of the heat exhaustion cuz of cramps and nausea its my time of month and im stressing if it doesn’t come. It happened 2 days ago and im still freaking out. Is there any idea that u can help me calm down or any idea it could be just the Heat Exhaustion. And i could be siking myself out thinking i am? And my mind will take it as a sickness?

    1. It’s very very unlikely that you are pregnant from this. If there’s time you could get an emergency contraception Emergency Contraception (also known as Plan B). Other than that you could wait for your period to come. The thing to take away from this is that if you are this stressed from having unprotected sex then perhaps your boyfriend and you could have more conversations about how to have safer sex in the future. How to Talk About Safer Sex Also read this about how to deal with stress How to Deal With Stress

      1. Hi me and my bf try to make sex but we didnt make fully and we use condom and i also used emergency pill but i have been afrieding i used to sense around my tummy cramp is there any posibility i can get pergenent

  15. So, my boyfriend came over like three or four weeks ago and while he was over he put the tip of his penis in and rubbed it against my vagina. I dunno if this is important, but I was 2-3 days aways from ovulation at the time. Ever since I’ve been super scared of being pregnant [I’ve edited this bit]That said, I’m still really worried and I was wondering if you could help me?

      1. If he didn’t ejaculate then it’s very very unlikely that you got pregnant from this. It’s also very very very likely that you are having a period, not implantation bleeding.

      2. So me and my girlfriend have been getting more experimental. And a couple days ago she gave me blowjob and I came and everything then I went to go to the wash room and I always pee right after and clean my stuff. But 30 mins later we decided just to put it in half way for about 40 seconds she is not ovulating and passed it a week ago and she is supposed to get her period next week or so. She took a Plan B pill and she is on no birth control and is getting an IUD next month how likely is she going to get pregnant

  16. Hey,
    I know no one will probably respond and that a lot of girls have already asked the same question as me, but I just need to get this off of my chest and see if I can get a direct answer for my exact situation since it has been worrying me for a while. February 23, my boyfriend came over to my place. Both of us had been wanting to do more than just blowjobs or handjobs, so he asked if we could do anal since I absolutely refuse to have vaginal sex. I agreed because I knew there was no way for me to become pregnant from anal. While we were trying to get him inside, however, his tip ended up rubbing against my vagina and his tip even went in accidently. Not his entire length, mind you, just the tip. Ever since then, I have been freaking out. I’ve looked up every possible piece of information in my panic and found that it is possible for me to get pregnant if he ejaculated, which he didn’t, or if there was pre-cum on his tip, especially since I was only 3 days from my ovulation date at the time this happened. For the first week or so, I was feeling abdominal and pelvic pain. When I found this article the first time, I felt a huge relief and, if I remember right, the pain seemed to go away. I got a few days to a week of peace and I am freaking out yet again because my period should be coming soon and I have no idea whether it’s coming or not. There’s bubbling and a weird feeling in my abdomen and pelvic area, but hardly any pain. I think I’ve been having mood swings. I can’t keep myself from feeling my belly either and checking for a hard ball like feeling, which I was informed is what the uterus feels like from the outside when it expands for a child. I feel like I’m seeing pregnant women, small children, and other pregnancy related things everywhere. I don’t know if any of these things are symptoms of pregnancy, but they’ve been stressing me out almost more than the thought of being pregnant at 15 and having to tell everyone my, so far, well guarded secret. Like I said, I don’t expect anyone to respond, but I’ll admit I was looking for some comfort from this article once again after it helped me so much before. If anyone has any idea whether or not I’m pregnant, a few words would be greatly appreciated.
    Bless and thank you all.

    1. Hey there. I’m so sorry you’re stressed about this. You probably know what I’m going to say …. If he didn’t ejaculate inside your vagina then the chances of pregnancy are near zero. You might want to read this about how to deal with stress How to Deal With Stress and have your boyfriend read this Stress and the People Around Us about how to help you deal with stress. Also next time you have sex, maybe think about some of the different kinds of sex that you might enjoy OMG Yes, No, Hmm: work out what kind of sex you like and how you might plan for a more enjoyable time Have the Best First Time Sex If you are stressed about sex (for any reason) then it’s very unlikely that you are going to enjoy it, so here’s some more advice about that How to Enjoy Sex More

      1. You’re obviously very good at your job because you were right. I’m not pregnant! I got my period just today and I couldn’t be happier with it. Thank you so much for responding and for making this lovely page. You and this page are one of the big things that helped comfort me and console me over the past few stressful weeks. In fact, I think writing my comment and reading your responses was what kept me sane through all of my stress. (Speaking of stress, I’ll make sure to read those articles you sent me the next time I start worrying). Thank you so much!

          1. I absolutely will pass this article on if I ever find a person who needs this information. Especially since I know how helpful it was to me.

  17. Hi, So me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex and we were curious what it’s like so why not try it. He put it inside me for a couple of seconds or a minute. And I’m worried that I might be pregnant after we did. And he didn’t cum either. Is it there a chance of me getting pregnant?

  18. Hi,
    I dont know what to do or think. i was with my boyfriend over the weekend and we decided we wanted to have sex. he put the condom on and we tried it but it barley went inside me. several times it kept slipping out and at one point i got the tip in but the mood was just killed at the point so we stopped. i dont know why i am scared about being pregnant.

      1. My boyfriend fingered me on 6th march. I did his handjob but there wasnt any sperm or precum.
        After like half an hour I went back home and washed my genitals! I totally forgot to wash my hands before!
        I was really scared about being pregnant.
        My period was 2 days late
        It would have came on 19th March but it came on 22nd march.
        The first day the bleeding was in a lesser amount and brown in colour.
        The second and third day it was red and heavy with lot of cramp.
        The 4-5 the day it was again less in amount and brown. Today’s my 6th day of period.
        (A little bit of spotting was also there I guess)

        I don’t know what to do . I’m really so depressed please reply me .
        I don’t wanna be pregnant!

        Hoping for your reply! Thank you 🙂

  19. Hi! so about 6 days ago me and my boyfriend wanted to try so he stuck the tip in for 30 seconds unprotected. He didn’t ejaculate but he was a little wet. My period has been irregular since i started it. I’ve been highly paranoid and stressed because of the chances of being pregnant due to precum and me being unsure when my next period comes.

  20. Hi Justin, I have read this article about 15 times. Read your illustration about 15 times but still feel anxious. About 2 weeks during my ovulation time my guy who I’ve not been seeing too long ago did not have sexual intercourse but underwent heavy touching. We both were fully clothed. He fingered me through my clothing and did not ejaculate into his hand. However, there was one point he did touch his penis and tried to finger me but I can’t remember if he had pre-cum. I am now 5 days late in my period.sI am so depressed and feel alone. I’m scared to tell him my worries and his worried that I’m so distant. I have no one to talk too. I want to tell him but im scared Of his reaction. I’m even scared to take a pregnancy test on my own. Ive tried to reassure myself with your stats but when days go by and no blood is showing I get anxious. I’m sorry!
    **this month my mum gave me evening primrose to take to help me with my bad pms I’m not sure that could effect the delay.

    1. As you probably know, it’s incredibly unlikely that you are pregnant from this. Stress is one of the things that can delay periods, but also periods are just random. You might find this article interesting, which is lots of people talking about their periods Period Stories

  21. Hello,
    I just wanted to thank everyone that is a part of this post for helping me. I’m 15. About 2-4 days before my ovulation, my boyfriend accidentally put his tip in me for about 10-20 seconds and rubbed against me a couple times while we tried to do anal (since I refuse to have vaginal sex). I have been feeling abdominal pain, pelvic pain, and nausea since then. I have also been freaking out, frantically looking up statistics, crying, praying, and begging for some sort of definite answers or a second chance. When I read this post and some of the comments, I got the comfort I’ve been looking for this past week or so. Because of this, I just wanted to thank everyone associated with this post; especially Mr. Hancock and the first anonymous comment beneath his, whose situation was the most like my own.
    Bless you all.

  22. hi! i’ve read about the risks and everything but i just really can’t seem to calm myself down and i keep stressing about it, so i really need some reassurance if it won’t take much of your time. 🙂 so my partner and i had penetration on the day before the day of my ovulation (as per my period tracking app, though it says that there was still a good chance of being pregnant). i was giving him a handjob when i felt something wet rubbing against my forearm from the tip, so we stopped for a bit and i asked him if he finished already and he said no, because he didn’t feel it. i rubbed the tip with my thumb and it felt dry so i continued the handjob for a few more minutes then he asked me if i wanted to put it in. before the penetration, he pulled up his shorts first when we switched positions and it was only like 3-5 strokes then we stopped because we had no protection. i finished him off with a handjob instead. i know that there’s a very low chance of pregnancy from precum, but i’m still very nervous about it because lately i’ve been feeling nauseous and cramps in my abdominal area, but i think it might be because of the stress and anxiety. there’s a few things that i’d like to point out though, (1) when he had precum, we talked for a bit and it took a few more minutes before he penetrated me, so i was thinking that the precum on the tip (if there was) was already dry when he put it in, and (2) he pulled up his shorts right before the penetration so i was also thinking that the cloth of his shorts might have wiped away the precum from the tip (if there was). i can’t stop thinking about it because it was done on my fertile window, and even though there’s a small chance of getting pregnant considering these points, there is still a chance. might i be pregnant? hoping that you would reply. thank you!

      1. So me and my boyfriend just wanted to try and see how it felt like for his penis to be inside of me. Before he did that I checked around his penis to make sure there’s wasn’t any pre cum or sperm around his penis. His penis was dry and he put it inside of me for like 10 seconds and took it out. We done it between my fertile window but he didn’t ejaculate and was no where near climax. I am worried if I can still get pregnant.

    1. Hi ,lately im pretty much paranoid and worried about my gf. Just yesterday me and gf was just wanting to feel what its like to have sex,but we didn’t have any comdoms and i just inserted the tip only,not very inside of her,can say at the outside wall of her vagina.after that we were abit paranoid after knowing the risk of precum pregnancy ,even though i didnt ejaculate inside her. To make feel more easy ,she had taken an morning after pill within 24hrs after that incident
      I was hoping to know does it reduces the chances of pregnancy?or am i just stressing out … please answer me and thanks for your patient in reading all comments

      1. If you didn’t ejaculate inside her then it’s nearly impossible to get her pregnant. If she took the morning after pill then that would have prevented conception Emergency Contraception You might want to get some condoms for if you want to try again. Even though it’s difficult to pop into clinics to get some at the moment, they might be able to send some out to you. If you’re in the UK try your local sexual health service here Sexual Health Services

  23. Okay so me and my boyfriend decided to do it unprotected. Both our first time he put the tip in then took it out then he put it in again but a bit more than the tip it then hurt me so he took it out because I made a bit of a loud noise my legs started to shake he said he didn’t ejaculate and I trust him I was scared for pregnancy as I found out you still could get pregnant from like pre cum I did pee after and then my period came 3 days after and it was the same like my other periods although I did have heavy bleeding at first but I don’t keep track of my period could I be pregnant? I’m waiting for my period again in March the 5th as I had done it 2 weeks ago

  24. I’m goin to do it for the first time this weekend and I’m scared I will get pregnant, if he pulls out I shouldn’t get pregnant should I? If he cums inside of me I will right ?

  25. I lost my virginity a week ago. We used a condom and he did not cum in me. But it was during my ovulation days and I did not take any pill. I have a weird sensation in my vagina since then and light cramps. I am afraid i might be pregnant. Is it normal to feel this way after having sex for the first time?

    1. Well it’s very unlikely that you are pregnant, because you used a condom and he didn’t cum in you. I think that for first time intercourse you are using lots of different muscles for the first time and there are strong muscles surrounding the vagina that have to relax a lot for sex to be comfortable. So there are lots of reasons to feel cramped in your lower abdomen and for your vagina to feel different. Maybe have a read of the information about this here Clitoris and Vagina and here Painful sex – how to have penis in vagina sex without pain

  26. hey srry im jo from earlier. I forgot to mention that for the both unprotected sex there was no ejaculation inside the vagina. Sorry for that but please answer I’m really scared.

  27. im stressing out rn and it would mean a lot if you answer this. So me and my partner had sex three times within this month; one was protected and two wasn’t.The protected one was the first day of the month, then the unprotected were the 4th and 8th. No pills were taken and rn the period is late. Took a pregnancy test in the 14th and it turned out negative. But the period is still missing and I’m still very worried if it’s pregnancy. please Help

  28. Hello,
    My boyfriend and I had sex many times during 2 days. Somes with condom, other without condom.
    I had an ear infection and was taking a lot of medication. And in that month I didn’t have my menstrual period. It’s been a month and my period has come to me. Could I be pregnant?

    1. If you got your period (and it was definitely your period) then you’re not pregnant. A period is the sign that you are not pregnant (though not getting a period doesn’t always mean that you are pregnant). It is the body shedding the womb lining (the sticky substance coating the womb which helps fertilised eggs to attach), any unfertilised eggs, and blood.

  29. Hey, I just read all of the comments, pretty the same. I have a new story unfortunately. I took combined bc pills the first day of my period. I forgot to take it on day 4 and took 2 pills on the next day. Then on the 6th day of this cycle my bf and i had penetration, 2 times about 1min but he was not even near ejaculating, and yup my biggest concerns are 1. That late dose of pill in the first week of taking pills ( i stopped taking pills for a month before this month that’s why i took it the first day my period started) 2. Precum! Then i took the pills on time until the 21st day. Now im on pill free days and it has been 3 days and i have not got the period. These fears and stresses might seem a little too much, but for people living in strict countries where you can’t even decide what to do with your own body as a woman, and so religious beliefs and laws, are killers. I’ll be so delighted if u answer my question and whatever happens I’ll let u know here, ( i am certainly gonna take a baby check tomorrow)

    1. There’s some good advice about missed pills from the NHS website here https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/miss-combined-pill/ so you did the right thing taking two pills in a day. You would have been protected from pregnancy. Also if he didn’t ejaculate inside you then (even if the pill didn’t protect you) it is very very unlikely that would have caused a pregnancy. If you’re stressed about this then the best person to speak to is the person who prescribed you the pill. I totally get why people are stressed and that in different countries the consequences for getting pregnant are different, but the facts are that each act of intercourse with ejaculation happening inside the vagina has around 3.1% risk of pregnancy. If you had regular unprotected sex over the course of a year there is an 85% chance that you will get pregnant.

    2. Hi! So yesterday I tried having sex with my partner for the first time. He tried penetrating in me but since it was paining way too much he took it out. I’m sure penis went just half way through and then he pulled it out. It happened 4-5 times. Also, we didn’t use condom. He didn’t cum at all let alone ejaculating in me but he did precum on the clit and slightly inside. Am I likely to get pregnant? I’ve been stressing over this since then.

  30. Hello my BF and I have been together two years both virgins and we kinda almost had sex. We were prepared condoms lube and all however I am not on bc. Here’s what happens so he started fingering kissing eating me out to get me aroused, had his underwear on the whole time, I was nervous so this took a bit. Finally he went to put a condom but wasn’t erect enough, we then cuddled naked (talking mostly) and then when he was distracted he got hard and we decided to try again. So again weird it was like ever time he need to be he wasn’t hard at all or not enough so I tried to get him there oral, me on top making sure to never touch genitals (although still risky) as we were both naked. Anyway we finally got a condom on (I think he was still less then 100% erect) and he tried to put it in, in missionary position he went in with the condom probably 3 or 4 times but never all the way because he kept pulling out feeling like he was going to cum? Eventually we stopped I think he cummed very little in the condom after the last time he pulled out. Anyway there is a severely low chance I could be at risk of being pregnant right? I can’t wait till my period because I just started BC🤦🏼‍♀️ specifically the implant basically money went through and I went in and they let’s just donut today I like an idiot said yes before thinking about this. So any advice other than just waiting? 😅

    1. There’s an extremely low chance of pregnancy from this. You could speak to the service giving you BC (contraception) about this too and they can reassure you. I think you and your BF could also maybe learn a little bit about how to have sex. There are many different kinds of sex that you can do without a hard penis that might be more enjoyable for both of you (and also have very very low risk of pregnancy. How To Have Sex

  31. Hi hello so I was wondering What if you only had sex for 2 minutes without a condom and you weren’t even close to ejaculating on your girlfriend will she be pregnant

  32. Hi there. I saw your graphic with some of the estimated percentages of getting pregnant, and I thought it was very helpful! however I do still have some questions. So firstly, my boyfriend and I did it a bit for the first time. He put it in and we went for just a little bit, but stopped because we did not have a condom. This was less than a week after my period. We did something like that again about 3 days before my period app predicted that I had a high chance of getting pregnant. He did not ejaculate in me either time. I know that precut pregnancy is uncommon, however I still am worried. The big thing is that we have had full sex 2 times, once last week, and once yesterday. Both times my boyfriend was wearing a condom, and in addition, he pulled out. The main reason I am worried is because I have had some slight abdominal pain, however I am not sure if that is because I have been constipated for the past few weeks (sorry TMI :/). With that, it could also be me stressing, but im not sure. help!

  33. Hi, I know you have answered many of these questions—however, I am feeling anxious and just need some advice if that’s okay! My boyfriend and I were about to have sex about 2 weeks ago. We are both inexperienced and I ended up being too tight, he was able to push in all of his tip but it hurt and he said that he doesn’t think he had any pre-cum because he was too nervous. You mentioned that the chance of becoming pregnant is 0-1% with pre-cum. However, my period is late by 2 days and I have been going to the bathroom frequently and having stomach cramps (I realize it could also be stress). I took a pregnancy test in case and it came out negative. Should I wait until a few more days and take another test?

    1. It’s very very unlikely that you’re pregnant from what you describe. If your pregnancy test says negative then you are almost definitely not pregnant. Please do me a favour? Come back here when your period arrives and let everyone know, it might help others to feel less anxious.

      I’m more concerned about the sex you describe. Please ask your boyfriend not to push his penis in you like that. If you’re aroused enough (which means relaxed enough) then the penis slides in pretty comfortably. If you’re not aroused or relaxed enough do different kinds of sex (which also have lower risk of pregnancy). I wish that I had more comments about how to have enjoyable sex rather than whether people are pregnant or not. Read these links and share them folks!
      Amazing Sex Without Having ‘Sex’ OMG Yes, No, Hmm: work out what kind of sex you like Have the Best First Time Sex How To Have Sex Painful sex – how to have penis in vagina sex without pain

    2. Hi, I did get my period today. I think the similarities between PMS symptoms and pregnancy can be really anxiety-inducing. Thanks Justin for responding and listening. And to anyone reading this, I hope it eases your anxiety (if you take a pregnancy test, it is pretty accurate if you follow what it says on the box) and don’t rush into anything if you’re not ready. I don’t think I was and it made the experience not as enjoyable as it should be (aka I was just stressed afterwards about getting pregnant). But if you are ready, try and do it safely so that you can have a good time!

  34. My bf and I had sex for a very short amount of time. It was my first time so i was very nervous. We did not use a condom and I am not on any kind of birth control, so I know the risk. He didn’t come inside me, but he said he felt something so we stopped. Im not sure what he felt, but it is making me nervous. It happen about 5-6 days after my period ended so im not sure how likely pregnancy is. I can’t tell if it is because im stressing myself out, but I have has a stomach ache and constipation for the past two days. I am very scared. I have to wait about 2 more weeks for my next predicted period, but I want to know the likelihood of pregnancy.

    1. The average risk of one time penis in vagina sex, with internal ejaculation, is 3.1%. So it’s very unlikely that you got pregnant from this one time sex if he didn’t ejaculate. I don’t know what he felt when inside you, but it is likely to be the cervix maybe? For penis in vagina sex, the penis slides up in front of the cervix or behind it (the fornix). This happens if the vagina is really aroused and stretchy. It it isn’t then the penis bumps into the cervix, which can feel uncomfortable. Read more about that here Clitoris and Vagina You might also want to think about chatting to someone at a sexual health service (during Covid they are doing virtual or phone consultations) Sexual Health Services

  35. Hi! yesterday my bf put his penis inside my vagina and we also use a condom. we didnt really had sex but he just put it in for just 3 seconds or 4 seconds..we did it a couple of times and he didnt cum or anything.. what is the possibility that id get pregnant?? im really stressed right now…

    1. I would say zero chance. Condoms are thought to be 98.5% effective, which means that if you have regular penis in vagina sex over the course of a year with condoms there is only a 1.5% chance of pregnancy. You did it once, for 3 or 4 seconds, without ejaculation. So work out your own odds.

      1. Hey Me and my boyfriend didn’t have full sex, he just rubbed the tip up and it down the inside, when he was about to finish he took me off and finished himself, he then wiped it off and I got back on. Is there a chance I’m pregnant

        1. Hi so it was my first time my no protection 2 day of my fertile days but he there were no movement of the penis he just went in once the heymen broke he came out he didn’t ejaculate but I was aroused and wet so feel like I’m pregnant been anxious what are chances of pregnancy

  36. Excuse me, i would to ask you if i may. Me and my gf had sex just little while (about ±10 secs) 3 days ago, and when i put my penis inside her wet vagina, i felt my penis still dry and i’m not so aroused yet, so i pretty convinced that my precum haven’t got out yet that time. I only thrust her 3 times and i directly finished it and its over. But i’m totally freak out till today because the day i had sex (Jan 11th) until yesterday (Jan 14th) are the days where she in fertile window and she showed many signs of ovulation (egg-whites vaginal discharge, breast tenderness, little cramping one side at her lower abdomen, and higher libido). I have very high anxiety thinking about the high chances of my gf can get pregnant because what i did that time was her in fertile window. My last hope is to buy an EC pill (Levenorgestrel) but i thought it’ll useless anyway because my gf had passed the ovulation day, but the other side i still need an EC pill because its still better to take it than not at all. What is your best suggestion? I really freak out till now.

    This is not my first time though, i passed this anxiety more than 5 times and i always given a chance to know my gf don’t get pregnant. At this past 5 times i ever felt the same feeling and same deeds (risky sex without protection but not ejaculating at all, i always freaking out about the chances of precum) i always faced it with consuming my gf with EC pills. I survived, but i can’t told my gf to take EC pills too often. What can you suggest if the situation like this? Do my precum can that easily fertilize her egg cell while her in fertile window? What are the really chances? I really don’t wanna her to get pregnant. Should she take an EC pill than not have a protection at all although it’s not that effective if taken within 3 days after intercourse? Because its already day 4 from my last intercourse. please i need reassurance. Thank you very much

    1. If you don’t ejaculate inside your girlfriend there is an almost zero chance of her getting pregnant. Read this Am I Pregnant? Also, if you want to put your penis inside her vagina, and you are able to get EC, you should put a condom on your penis. Condoms are excellent at preventing pregnancy and STIs.

  37. My girlfriend and I had sex but it was not full sex because we’re scared by the taught of her being pregnant, I’m 19 and she’s 19 btw. It’s 2-3 mins stroking I think and we stop then I didn’t cum inside her we just feel the moment, then I’m worried if she will get pregnant by the precum. We’re not ready yet fear and anxiety hit us.

  38. Hi there , I just wanted to ask
    This question , so a while back me and my girlfreind had sex, but I just put the tip of my penis is so I didn’t fully have sex , but I think I might have came a bit inside her only using the tip tho , which means I didn’t come fully In , and 2 weeks later she had her period . Should I be worried about pregnancy or that she might miss her next period ? Thank you

    1. If she definitely had her period then she isn’t pregnant. Periods are where the lining of the womb and any unfertilised eggs are released from the vagina. If fertilisation happens then the lining of the womb remains in place so that a pregnancy can start – thus, no periods.

  39. Hey! Me and my boyfriend were really scared about having sex so he rubbed his dick on my vigina and I got on top of him and rubbed against it he didn’t go inside of me or anything I don’t think I’m pregnant but can you help me out do you think I could be please please answer I’ve been stressing and I need help!

  40. Hello, my boyfriend fingered me after he precummed but he swears there was nothing on his hand. He did move his penis down so his bulge wouldn’t be big so is there a chance for precum to still be there? And is there a chance I can get pregnant? Asking cause I’m worried and google swears you can get pregnant if this happens

  41. Hey! I need your help so so much and I hope you’ll answer my question. Okay.. it was like this.. My boyfriend and I were having sex without any protection and he just put it inside of me for about not longer than 1 min and he didn’t ejaculate. And at the same time I am on my last period this first week of Jan. After then i peed. Will i get pregnant?
    p/s we’re both 17

    pls answer my question.
    I’m trying to calm my own nerves rn

    1. It’s unlikely that you are pregnant from this. There is a 3.1% chance of pregnancy from one time penis in vagina sex with ejaculation inside the vagina. So as your bf didn’t ejaculate the risk is much much lower than that. The peeing afterwards doesn’t make a difference because the pee won’t wash away any sperm inside the vagina (pee comes through a separate tube just above the vagina called the urethra Clitoris and Vagina ). It is a good idea to pee after penis in vagina sex, but that’s to wash away any germs that might have been pushed inside the urethra, it has nothing to do with pregnancy

    2. Same happened, we had sex but for just like 4 mins because we knew we had no protection so we stopped. He didn’t finish in me but I’m worried because i’m on my fertile week

  42. I was not on my period,it was five days after seeing my period my bf wanted to have sex with me badly so he tried inserting slowly I didn’t let his whole dick come in me,I stopped him when I realised we weren’t using condoms.is there any possibility that I’m pregnant

    1. It’s unlikely that you are pregnant from this. Check out my post Am I Pregnant https://www.bishuk.com/your-questions/am-i-pregnant/

      I’m not happy with your BF though. Just because he wants to have sex with you doesn’t mean he can do it without it being okay with you first. If you only agreed to have sex with him using condoms, and he didn’t use condoms, then legally that can be called rape. So if your boyfriend continues to do this or has done this for a while you maybe should read this Partner Putting You at Risk

    2. Hi, I only had sex with my boyfriend once at the end of ovulation day at luteal phase. He didn’t ejaculated inside me. He only rub against my vagina. And it’s broke. Giving alot of blood. And we only did about 2 mins. Am I pregnant?

  43. Pretty much like everyone else’s story. I put it in for less than 30 seconds and stroked a few times but i withdrew and and later finished on her stomach, i left around 20 minutes later, i was informed she masturbated when i left and i remember her touching my sperm with her hands, but she licked it off and i made sure to clean the Speem off of her body. I’m in a paranoia stage because her period should be within the next 1-2 days and the symptoms of early pregnancy and the symptoms of your period coming in are the same things basically. She has Tender breasts, and the other day she said her left side of the bottom of her stomach hurt badly in the morning, but that’s all i’ve been told. This happened on the 25th and i’m pretty sure it was on the day of ovulation or the day before. I’m a little freaked but i’d just like some statistics if you can give me any considering i haven’t gotten any off of the internet pertaining to Ovulation and Pre Cum

  44. Hi,
    I have never been this stressed in my life, I had a small droplet like amount of precum on the tip of my penis and i inserted in her once only half way for about 5 seconds then took it out, That was all that happened yet i am very very stressed it has been 3 weeks since and i an hoping for her period this week, should i be stressed and what are the odds of pregnancy, Also should i mention the last time I ejaculated was about 1 week ago from a wet dream will this mean there is no sperm in the precum then, PLSSSSS HELP ME !!!, WOULD HIGHLY APPRECIATE

  45. Right, I’m 17 years old so is my boyfriend. We had sex 5 weeks ago and i’m now 2 weeks late of my period. The sex wasn’t like proper, he put it in and out for literally like 5 seconds and took it out as we are both terrified of me getting pregnant. I do have irregular periods but this cycle has lasted 46 days (and counting). I’m genuinely terrified. He never came inside me and only did when we were finished off (handjob sorry tmi!) but it wasn’t anywhere near down there, you know what I mean? My boobs only started hurting a couple days ago which is normal before my period happens and idk if it’s my period coming or not. I haven’t been having any unusual discharge or anything, a couple days it can be white and not sticky and then the next couple is either clear and very slightly stretchy or else nothing. I have been having cramps and lower back pain (however my lower back tends to always be sore and gets worse around the time of my period and only really got worse a weeks ago) and the cramps like to move each side every time. Please I need help asap

  46. Hi I had a quick question me and my boyfriend were having sex and he put it in me for a good 1-3 minutes and took it out I was t worried at first but should I take the morning after pill he didn’t cum inside me or anything but now that I have been reading some articles about pre cum it has me thinking should I take the pill . I took it earlier this month bc if a incident which messed up my period . I don’t want to take it again since I know it’s dangerous to take to morning after pill . Do you think I’ll get pregnant if I don’t .

  47. About two weeks ago, I sat on my boyfriends penis for not even 10 seconds and all up 1 pump without protection. this seems so dumb because all the questions are very similar but im 2 days late for my period and he didnt cum inside me at the time. im guessing its just the waiting game at the moment but i came off the pill at the start if this year and im thinking that might have something to do with my cycle and might cause it to be irregular. stressing a lot at the moment!

  48. Hi there, I don’t expect you to reply because of all the other comments and because you can’t truly predict my situation’s possible outcome, but for peace of mind I need to get this off my chest. Two weeks ago, I allowed the guy I have been fooling around with lately put the tip of his penis inside me for a few minutes (I’m still a virgin, so he didn’t fully put it in due to it hurting) and I wasn’t on birth control or anything at that point. He didn’t cum in me, but I’m concerned about the pre-cum. I did freak out after I realized that I was possibly going through the ovulation phase of my cycle. I took a morning after pill and started birth control two days afterwards. And since I started birth control mid-cycle, a possible side effect of it could be it delaying or missing my next expected period. My period has always been irregular and the day it arrives each month varies, but it’s been late for two-three days now and I can’t stop stressing out over it, which is probably making it worse because stress can delay periods. 🙁 and no matter how bad I try to calm my mind over it, I’ve never been able to handle stress quiet well. The graph you posted has given me a bit of clarification, but I’m still hella worried for my own sake.

  49. Hi. I have got a concern that bothers me a lot. Me and my bf tried to have sex with no protection. I am a virgin, so I was a bit scared of a process, so he penetrated his dick just a little bit, like about few cm for about few minutes. He did not cum inside me surely, but I am very afraid to be pregnant from the pre-ejaculate fluid, (although I don’t remember feeling it). This is my 19th day of a period cycle counting from the first day of last month’s started menstruation. Please help.

  50. Hey, so I had sex with my bf three days in a row and he ejaculated inside of me. We kinda went through a rough patch and I ended up having sex once with a guy during that same time period but he did not finish. I’m now pregnant…. is my bf the father?

  51. Hi I would just like to ask, is it possible if you have just inserted the tip of the penis and removed it after 5 seconds. No cum at all, i didnt have any precum from what i can recall. Her period is in 11 days. Is it possible for a preganancy?

  52. I played sex on Tuesday 4, February 2020 and I lost my virginity after penetration he entered into me about two minutes but he told me that he didn’t pass out semen or sperms into my vigina and i need not to be worried about pregnancy,now am worried or am pregnant help me

  53. Hello I played sex on Tuesday 4th February and I lost my virginity,he penetrated his penis into my vigina and after 2minutes he removed it and put on acondom,but the guy told me that he didn’t pass the semen into my Virgina, now am I pregnant?cos am worried

  54. Hi there ,
    I’ve had extreme anxiety recently related to the possible chance of me being pregnant . I (17) am now on the pill , but just before I came onto it me and my boyfriend had sex , initially with a condom on , and then took it off for 4 minutes ( he didn’t ejaculate ) , and then put a new one on again . What are the chances of me possibly being pregnant ? My stomachs being particularly bubbly recently , trapped wind sensations , but then again that could be related to many things at the moment . Please please reply

    1. As I explained in the post, and also here, it’s extremely unlikely that you will be pregnant from sex that does not involve ejaculation inside the vagina. What concerns me here is that your boyfriend has made you this anxious because he took the condom off during sex. He should not do that if you don’t want him to. Taking a condom off during sex is illegal if you didn’t want him to. You might want to think about whether this boyfriend is treating you well and respecting your body and your health.

  55. Hello. So, I haven’t had my period for 100+ days now. I feel really anxious. I am a breastfeeding mom and my baby was 6-7 weeks when I had bleeding (not sure if it’s my period or not but my OB says it is possible that it’s my period). A couple of weeks after, my husband and I tried to finally do it but since it was so painful we figured maybe my body wasn’t ready yet and stopped. A week after we tried again and he got in and tried to gently move but it was still painful so we stopped again. He did not ejaculate but I read that pre-cum can get me pregnant and that if I had my period after giving birth earlier, I have higher chance of getting pregnant. I know of the LAM method and I am exclusively breastfeeding but it has been 100+ days since the last time I bled (if that’s my period). Could I be pregnant again or am I worrying too much? I hope it’s because I am breastfeeding that my period stopped. Thank you in advance!

  56. I dunno if this things still active? But ill give it a shot! I know im stressing over nothing but need reassuring seeing as my boyfriend wont! Im on the pill but still stress over getting pregnant me and my boyfriend had sex for like 5 mins just worried because my mums put it into my head that im pregnant now i cant stop stressing till i get my period

    1. Yes very much active here. If you take the pill correctly then it is 99.7% effective. That means that your risk of pregnancy is 0.3% if you have regular penis in vagina sex (with ejaculation inside the vagina) over the course of a year. So the chance of pregnancy from one time sex with you being on the pill is more like 0.01%. If you want to find out more about how the pill works you could read this Hormonal Contraception

      Let me know if you have any other questions.

      Justin

      1. Hi, I’m seeing you answer questions very kind and patiently . That helps alot thankyou.
        Here’s mine: last night me and my boyfriend were having oral sex… and I sat on his cum for like 2,3 seconds (i sat on his tummy and his dick rubbed just a liiiitle on my vagina, I don’t know if the position of my vagina makes any difference…). I washed my vagina after like 5 minutes and i peed.
        But I’m still worrying if anything got inside because the inviroment was moist…and what makes me worry even more is that it was on day 14 after my period.
        I had emergency pills 16hours later but I’m still really worried because what if i was ovulating and…

        1. So it’s very very unlikely you are pregnant from this. Remember that the average risk of pregnancy from sperm being ejaculated deep inside the vagina is 3.1%. So maybe getting a little bit of cum on the outside of your vagina is very very unlikely to cause pregnancy. Also you took the emergency contraception which would also have reduced your risks even further.

        2. Hi hello so I’m wondering if my girlfriend is pregnant I’m really hoping you will answer but anyways me and my girlfriend had sex for only 2 minutes without a condom but I didn’t ejaculate or I wasn’t even close to ejaculating do you think my girlfriend will be pregnant?

  57. My boyfriend were having oral sex and he had precum on his penis but im pretty sure i sucked it all off before he put it in me without a condom, it was only for two pumps and according to my period calendar, it was two days after my ‘day’ of ovulation but he didn’t feel when he pre-came, so it’s possible he could’ve precame in me, i have to wait a week to find out if im pregnant, what do you think?

    1. It’s very unlikely that you are pregnant from this if he did not fully ejaculate inside you. Perhaps your boyfriend should learn not to just put his penis inside you without protection. It’s not your job to make him, it’s his job to be responsible. Maybe also think about your relationship as well as the sex Guide to Relationships

  58. Please do answer my question! My girlfriend is super irregular, she goes for 4-6 weeks without menstruating, her last period was in the month of January, and me and my girlfriend never really did engage in penetrative sex “fully”, we usually dryhumped and there were two-three instances wherein we tried pnetrative sex but never really did do it fully, it’s like just the tip of the penis inside her entrance for a few seconds, no ejaculation. My question is, could she be pregnant? her last period was January, until now her period is still missing. The last time we had our little session was around May 4. Please help, we’re both scared, and she should’ve practiced proper birth control

    1. As this article you are reading says, there is a very low chance of pregnancy from sex that does not involve sperm being fully ejaculated in the vagina. So it’s very very unlikely that the sex you are describing has started a pregnancy. As you know, periods can be super irregular and there are lots of reasons why that might be (stress is one of them). Finally, I don’t really see why you are putting the blame on her for not using birth control. You put your penis inside her, you could have put a condom on.

  59. So me and my boyfriend knew that we shouldn’t have sex without a condom. Earlier her jerked off and came and about 15 minutes later, after everything was dry and cleaned up, he put it in for 5 seconds and pulled out, is it possible to get pregnant

  60. I’m 16, my boyfriend (17) and I are together 5 months. Last week (August 24th) he came to my house and we had planned to have sex. He wore a condom and was only inside me for about 3-4 seconds before we stopped because it was a little uncomfortable for me. I was meant to get my period on friday (the 31st of August) but it’s the 2nd of September and there’s no sign of it. As far as I know he didn’t cum so that really lowers the risk of me being pregnant but is there still a chance I might be? Or am I stressing out and making myself believe I am? I’m feeling a bit sick and tried a home pregnancy test where I put 1tbsp of my urine with 1tbsp of sugar and only some of the sugar dissolved but I drank alot of energy drinks earlier on so could that be affecting it?

    1. Have a scroll up and have a look at the graphic at the end, which tells you about the risks of pregnancy. Then try and work out the chances of you being pregnant. Then have a think about how much you should worry about this (compared to how much you worry about everything else).

  61. Hi there! I’ve been to your site reading all the commebts about your blog. But still, I want to ask my personal situation to you. Yesterday, where its 22nd day of my cycle. My cycle is irregular, which it takes 35-40 days. So it happened yesterday we had sex with my bf. We took 4 rounds. 1st to 3rd round, we used condoms. Then for the last round, he inserted his dck w/o protection. But, before he inserted that, it feels his dick is very dry. Its secretes nothing like pre.cu. for we think he’s already havent enough of semen. So inserted his for 3 min, and Im still worried if I could get pregnant? Thanks!

    1. Hi Jade

      Have a scroll back up and look at the new infographic about pregnancy risks. Research shows that the risks of pregnancy from one time sex are much lower than many people think.

      The thing I’m worried about here is that he was putting his dick inside you without protection. Was that something you wanted? I think perhaps he could read a bit more on here about consent and why that is important (just search for consent in the search bar).

      Justin

  62. Sorry gotta repeat my questiom or reply sir i kinda messed up the order and i wouldnt want you to get confused.I tried to find some emergency contraceptives .but i found nothing. We’re in the Philippines. The pharmacist told me that their database of the contraceptives section is deleted. The other pharmacist from the other pharmacy told me that they require prescription.
    Extremely unlikely then that means that chances are slim? Super slim? We did the whole insertion thingy friday april 13
    Oh god.
    Friday the 13th haha
    Anyways um sir am i worrying too much? Should i look again tomorrow?
    Can precum get her pregnant? I mean i did masturbate last night but yeah i peed lots. Before the whole insertion thingy i didnt masturbate. I only fingered her. I did found some pre cum on my underwear. But yeah like i said i inserted my penis only the head but it’s all dry but sticky. Only for a few seconds. I hope she’s not pregnant

    Clarification. It’s really not that sticky. I mean i think it’s normal for the head of the penis to be a little bit sticky sometimes right? Because of the texture or somethin?

    1. You are worrying too much. It’s extremely unlikely that this will start a pregnancy. Please have a look at all the other posts about this on this website.

  63. I’m 12 and my boyfreind is 18 we had sex and I have been late with my period.We didn’t use a condom and he didn’t cum inside of me

    1. I don’t know whether this is a question for me or not. If he didn’t cum inside of you then it’s unlikely that you are pregnant. However you would need to be pretty sure that he didn’t in order to be sure you’re not pregnant. What worries me about this whole situation is the age gap. 6 years at your age is a very big gap and him being 18 potentially gives him a lot of power over you. You might want to talk to some people about your relationship because there is a possibility that he is using this power against you (for example, how much choice did you get in whether you use a condom or not?). He is also very clearly breaking the law (you are not though). Could you please have a look at this post from me and think about how the age gap might be affecting your relationship?

  64. Hi, please I’m dying of suspense. I had a near sex experience on the 8th/9th of this month. That is, few days ago. He tried to penetrate me bt I was too tight and it hurt so I stopped. We tried again and this time, I’m nt sure bt it ws slightly in. Nw my fear is, when I held his penis, I felt wetness and there was a little fluid at the tip, I’m worried that maybe at those times we tried, sperm may have gotten into me. Then since last night up until nw, I’ve been having slight cramps tho nt as painful as my period cramps. Tho, that is the only sign. Plus, I usually get my period late every month, like frm d 20th day. For instance, last month’s period came on the 27th. Considering all this, could I be pregnant or maybe it’s the ovulation thing(I really dnt calculate my menstrual cycle or ovulation). Please help! I’m nt ready for a baby! I’m so scared

    1. Hi. I’m sorry I missed this comment (FYI to everyone, I can’t get to all comments very quickly because it’s just me here). I’m guessing that this will have been resolved by now and I am guessing that you got your period. However what do you do from here? I think that it might be a good idea to think about what kinds of sex you may actually want to do and how you can make them safer. Also, sex shouldn’t hurt so well done to both of you for stopping when you did. You should also know that it’s totally okay not to have penetrative sex and you might even have a better time not doing that. Check out this post from me which may help you about this.

  65. If I wore condom and I just rubbed my penis around her vagina but didn’t enter is there any possibility of pregnancy???ans must

  66. hello everyone, i wanna say something & its really important so i need you to focus on it please.
    lets start, i’ve dry humped my boyfriend few time, and my period was late for 9 days. i kept freaking out and i’ve been stressed out for real. i got tired from stressing myself so i was like screw it ! whatever happens happens..
    i got my period after 9 days late, lemme say the truth its actually happened after i stopped stressing myself about it..
    girls, stress can delay your periods for real, you can’t get pregnant from dry humping, relax & chill, try to stop thinking please & you’ll get your period, trust me i’ve been in the same situation.
    good luck girls <3 !

  67. I recently messed around with a guy I’m a virgin tried to have sex a couple of times but I was too tight and we stopped , he never entered me.i’m expecting my period a week from now but I’m already freaking out that I’m pregnant cuz I’m cramping badly,my boobs are getting bigger, and I sleep a lot now, just very hungry.could I be pregnant help

    1. If he didn’t ejaculate with you then it’s very unlikely you are pregnant. More about this here. You might also want to think about how you guys might think about different kinds of sex that you might enjoy. More on this here.

  68. Me and my boyfriend was fooling around. He pulled out his penis and entered my vagina for like 3 seconds. We never did that again and we did that on the start. There were no pre cum on the tip of his penis and it was so clean. We stopped very quickly. I had an irregular menstrual cycle, I had my last mens last March 4 and we did this on April 5. Could i be pregnant? Please reply. I am so much worried

    1. It’s extremely unlikely that you are pregnant if your boyfriend did not ejaculate inside you. Also it was a long time after your last period which means that when you did this it is very unlikely that you were in your fertile time. This post explains everything clearly.

  69. Hi, my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex five days ago, and I was not ovulating. However, he didn’t ejaculate and he only got in 3 strokes. I’m now scared that I’m pregnant because I was supposed to get my period today but I didn’t and my cervical mucus is clear and thin, also I felt sick yesterday morning like cramps, I’m just really scared please reply.

    1. If he didn’t ejaculate inside you then it is very unlikely that you are pregnant. More about this here It sounds like it was after your ovulation time, which means it’s not possible for you to be pregnant. More about ovulation and fertility times here.

    2. Hello,
      I know you must be really tired of people asking you questions and commenting by now, but I really need to at least be able to say this just to get it off my chest. You don’t have to read through my comment and you definetly don’t have to respond. I just need to be able to say something so that I can breathe for a minute.
      So, a few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were hanging out and he said he wanted to try anal since I always refuse to let him in my vagina or even rub against it. I agreed because I didn’t wanna feel like I disappointed him even though he’s never been the type to make me feel bad for not wanting to do something in regards to sex. We tried for a bit to get his penis in with no success. Then he grabbed some lotion for lubricant and asked if we could try again. I wanted to say yes, but I got spooked and said no, so we finished with hand stuff and sucking and that was that. If it matters, this was right after my period. I mean, it was so close to the end of my period I was still having brown discharge.
      Anyways, ever since that day I have been terrified that I may be pregnant. I know for a fact that he didn’t cum while we were trying to get his penis in me, but I’m not sure about precum. Basically, I’ve been stressing myself out because I’m worried his penis may have rubbed against my vagina with precum on it while we were trying to get it in my ass.
      I’ve been stressing for weeks and now I’m even more upset because my older sibling just got their period today and I have still yet to have mine even though my period usually comes before theirs.
      Something I think I should mention is that this is the fourth month in a row I’m having a pregnancy scare. I wouldn’t say it’s because I keep doing things that could get me pregnant rather it’s because I freak out over every little thing. For example, last month I was scared I was pregnant because my boyfriend and I tried to do anal and I thought he accidentally rubbed against my vagina even though I was on my period and I had a tampon in. Something else I feel like I have to say is that ever since my first pregnancy scare, I have prayed in hopes of getting my period. I’ll be honest and say I don’t really know what I pray to, I just do. Whenever I would pray in hopes of getting my period, I would promise whatever I was praying to a variety of things like ‘I’ll be better’ and ‘I’ll be grateful’. During the pregnancy scare before the one I’m having now that I told you about, I promised that I wouldn’t let my boyfriend get anywhere near my vagina.
      What I’m trying to say is that part of my fear is coming from the possiblity in my head that whatever I’ve been praying to has lost it’s patience with me and is punishing me with pregnancy for breaking promises, being so reckless, being ungrateful, etc.
      I’m really scared because I’m only fifteen. I know that if I got pregnant now, not only would it be a problem for me, but it would be a problem for my entire family and my boyfriend who is only sixteen. I also know that I definetly couldn’t take care of a kid. I don’t want to disappoint anybody. That’s the whole reason I’m in this mess. Because I didn’t want to disappoint anybody and I acted like a w***e.
      I don’t really know how to end this, to be honest.
      If you read all the way through this, thank you so much. Like I said before, you don’t have to respond.
      Thank you,
      Stupid

      1. Hi. There’s a lot going on here but the most important thing to say here is that I don’t think you are stupid and I don’t think that you are pregnant from this. As I’ve explained here Am I Pregnant? it’s very unlikely that you are pregnant. The most likely way for a pregnancy to happen is for full ejaculation to happen deep inside the vagina. Even then the risk of pregnancy from this one act is on average 3.1% (between 0 and 9% depending on when the ovulation happened). IF pre-cum was deep inside the vagina from entry sex (which it wasn’t) the risk of pregnancy is much much much lower than that.

        Periods are random and stress can change when periods arrive. It sounds to me like you are super stressed – here’s some advice on how to deal with that How to Deal With Stress

        If you want to have sex with your boyfriend that involves his penis getting near your vagina (but not in) he could still use condoms. Even though the risk is really low from pregnancy if you don’t have vaginal sex, it’s clearly freaking you out. He could just put a condom on his dick and that might be helpful, especially if you are thinking about trying anal again What Is Sex?

        But it also sounds like your boyfriend is really not pressuring you into stuff. He is just asking for something but that doesn’t mean that you have to say yes. If he is asking in a really good way then he might be able to give you an idea of the kinds of things that you might actually enjoy. How To Ask I know that women are often brought up (and are told in culture) that it’s their job to say yes or no to things and that it’s the man’s job to do the asking, but you can both change that. What kinds of conversations can you have about safer sex How to Talk About Safer Sex and what sex you might want OMG Yes, No, Hmm: work out what kind of sex you like and how you want to do it Have the Best First Time Sex and what you need in order to enjoy it How to Meet Our Needs? If he says he doesn’t want to pressure you, believe him.

        The other thing that I think is happening here is that your sex education has told you that the worst thing that can possibly happen is that you will get pregnant (as well as teaching you that enjoying sex is really not allowed). So maybe you could teach yourself some better sex ed, starting here Teach Yourself Sex Ed – What You’ve Learnt So far It might be that you start to get stressed about something else instead, in which case it would be a good idea to talk to someone about how you can manage your stress (a school counsellor, a doctor etc).

        Let me know how you’re getting on.

        Justin

        1. Thank you so much for this!
          I think you are completely right by saying my period just moved around a little because of stress. A couple days ago, after talking to my boyfriend who calmed me down a lot, I got my period.
          If I feel stressed about pregnancy again, I’ll make sure to give your Am I Pregnant and How to Deal With Stress article a read BEFORE freaking out.
          I also think you’re right about my boyfriend. Part of the talk I had with him that helped me so much was him saying that he really doesn’t mind if we don’t do anything that includes his penis being near my vagina, especially if it freaks me out. He really doesn’t force me into anything. My brain just likes to play tricks on me to get me to think he’s disappointed when I don’t want to do something he asks for.
          That said, I think this experience has taught me that I have found a person that genuinely does not get upset when being told ‘no’ and that it is perfectly fine for me to do so.
          I’ll make sure to have those conversations that you suggested with him like how to have safe sex, finding different kinds of sex we can both enjoy, figuring out how we want to do it, and making sure we’re both satisfied.
          I’ll also read your other article on sex education sometime as well. I think it would help a lot with the stress I feel about sex.
          Something I’d like to mention is that I am normally a very happy and relaxed person. I just don’t do well with stress, especially when what I’m stressed about could possible include disappointing the people around me.
          Now that I realize this, I’m going to try to work on doing a better job of handling my stress and keeping myself from becoming stressed in the first place.
          Thank you so much for responding to my comment and for making the articles you do. Your commentary really did help me and I’m sure your articles will as well.
          Thank you so much!

          1. I’m so pleased to hear all of this! Perhaps you might be able to do a bit of peer education with your friends when they have a panic about this kind of stuff too. As you can see on here, it’s pretty common!

            Big up, Justin

  70. So im 14 and he is 17. This morning he fingered me and i guess we had sex just it was only about a minute because i pulled away and said that it wasnt safe he had it halfway in i think and there was a little awkward movement between us. This was both of our first time and i dont think he cummed, if he did i didnt notice. I dont know im just really worried about getting pregnant. What are my odds? If it makes any diffrence healthwise im a vegetarian; strictly no meat but i wouldnt say im over healthy im just average and tiny compared to him and he is healthy and not a vegetarian

    1. If he didn’t ejaculate inside you then it’s very unlikely that you are pregnant. More on this here. (It doesn’t make any difference at all if you are a vegetarian)

      Leaving the pregnancy question aside – is he really paying attention to whether you do or don’t want to do some sexual things? He really should be checking in with you about whether it’s okay to do a thing, particularly if you have any concerns about how safe it is. You might both want to have a look at this post about sex talk and communication.

  71. So yesterday me and my girlfriend were having sex. She was on day 3 of her period. I didn’t put my penis inside of her because she had a tampon inside, but my penis had contact with her vagina as I was just moving my penis around her vaginal area(my penis did not go inside her and I didn’t ejaculate anytime) What worries me is that she usually has 28-30 day period but for some reason her period came back after 22 days. And I’ve researched a lot and some sources say that if you have those 22 day cycle you will ovulate within a few days after the end of her period. So my question is will she get pregnant if she was on a 22 day cycle period(still on her period), my penis making contact with her vagina( did not insert my penis inside her nor did I ejaculate anytime)? I was just moving my penis up and down on her vagina and the tampon was inside her. Also she gave me a blowjob before we did this

    1. If she regularly gets a 22 day menstrual cycle then her ovulation time will be around day 11 after her period starts. Sperm can survive inside someone for up to 5 days, so if you ejaculated inside her vagina from day 6 after her period started then she could have a chance of getting pregnant. More on this here. As you didn’t ejaculate inside her, it’s extremely unlikely you she is pregnant. More on this here.

  72. Could i get pregnant if he inserted his penis inside my butt hole…but as he said his penis was dry and i too cheked it to confirm…can i get pregnant from dry penis inside my butt hole for sme 4-5 secs…plz do help me….am really very freaked….plz…and am very sure he did not cum inside me…his penis was really dry…can i get pregnant??

    1. You can’t get pregnant from anal sex.

      Remember for anal sex it’s a good idea to use some kind of lubricant so that it can feel pleasurable and not cause damage (or pain). If his penis was dry it’s a good idea to put some lubricant on the anus.

  73. Hi Me and my boyfriend in the last month had sex unprotected a few times but they all only lasted 30 seconds at most and he never came. My period is 8 days late today and I didn’t get the usual boob soreness until three days ago and cramps have been unusually coming and going because I usually have them a little more before my period. I am extremely stressed out and I hope I am ok. I have a test but I am way too scared to take it. (I am 17). And I also spotted during ovulation which has never previously happened to me. Please please help I am so scared do you think I am ok? My boobs are now extremely sore but I don’t know if it is because of stress that my period is late or what but I want it to start I am scared

    1. I can’t tell you if you are pregnant. If he didn’t ejaculate inside you then it’s very unlikely that you are pregnant. However if you have a test you may as well use it to give you some peace of mind. Look on the instructions to see if your period is late enough for you to take it.

  74. (im rewriting this incase you ddnt get it srry)
    Well anyway me and my boyfriend are 17 and recently like a day or two days ago we didn’t fully have sex there was no pre cum or ejackulation at all we wanted to know what it felt like (even though we knew we shouldn’t and we ddnt have a condom either )but anyway he stuck his penis inside me and it hurted but not alot so we were like that for no more than 10-35 secs or 1-2 mins and went up and down 1-2 (i was on top if it matters) but we decided to stop very earlt in the process cause we both didnt want me to get pregant so now im a little worried even though i did some research and i know there a very slim chance that i could be but anyway you could never be to sure (and if it makes a difference my period is irregular ) but anyway i was wondering can you help me

    1. Hi Lexie

      It’s very unlikely that you are pregnant from this. Even though your boyfriend’s penis was inside your vagina, if he didn’t ejaculate then there is a very very low risk of pregnancy.

      If, after hearing that, you are still really really worried you could get some emergency contraception (in the UK this is free). For more on emergency contraception go here, and for more about sexual health services go here.

      Hope this helps

      Justin

  75. I’m three days late for my period I dry humped in my knickers on my ovolyatipn day on 20th last moth I was really wet but my boyfriend was dry. What do I do my period isn’t here

  76. I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend yesterday but he didnt have a condom so, he brought out is penis and i sat on top but he didnt put his penis in me n we went up n down for some mints… After that i saw alot of whitish n creamy subs i dont know if its from me or him am so scared and i need ur help… Will that get me pragnant?

    1. If you were on top of him but his penis wasn’t inside you then it’s very very unlikely that you are pregnant. The white substance you are talking about could well be your own vaginal discharge – which is totally totally normal.

  77. Hello, I was wondering me and this guy had sex the Ither night we messed around for a bit then he put his or is inside me. It’s was only 3 thrusts and he took it out cause I told him we needed a condom. I’m pretty concerned I need help asap!

  78. I have a similar situation to this but I was wearing a condom. My girlfriend to was moving up and down a few times. But before that, she gave me a blowjob so my penis was wet when I put on the condom. After the moving we stopped and she bleed down there so we decided to take a bath together. She gave me a blowjob until I came on her body like her neck, chest and thighs. I tried to wash the sperm off her with water but I was scared it will flow down into her vagina because she was sitting down. So I stopped and went to grab tissues for her and let her wipe everything off her body. Oh and when we doing sorta doing it, when I pulled out, the condom kinda slipped a bit. I’m really nervous and kinda freaking out right now. Please help.

  79. Hi my name is T
    I am 17 years old. My boyfriend and I didn’t fully have sex. He just put his penis in me for a coupe seconds. 10-15 seconds max. With no protection.
    He told me he did NOT ejaculate and I believe him.
    After, he masturbated and we rinsed off into the water.
    Could I get pregnant Fromt they 15 seconds or from rinsing in the same water?
    I’ve been stressing out lately and I’m really scared.
    I don’t really keep track of my period but I am pretty sure I’m supposed to get it on October 12. Because the last time I had my period was on September 12.
    Please help

  80. Hello. I really need your help. My boyfriend and I tried to have sex for the first time. He fingered me first with one finger then he used two. It felt painful when he inserted the 2nd finger but then it felt better after a while. So it was great. Then we decided to try penis in vagina sex. But he had no condom, so he just made sure that there were no pre-cum on the tip of his penis. He even “squeezed” the head a little to make sure there would be no precum coming out of him. I went on top then we tried to insert his penis but it was HELLA painful. So I stood up. Then after a few seconds we tried it again, this time he tried to really stick it in. He pushed it in hard. I felt like inside of my vagina was being ripped apart. So this time our genital-to-genital contact was about 15-25seconds. But then I gave up because it was too painful. After that, we continued mutual masturbation instead. He came on my tummy. After maybe 10 minutes, I had vaginal bleeding. I was really scared. The blood was bright red and it was kind of spoonful? Later that same day, my vaginal discharge was sticky and clear. A sign of ovulation. I was also notified by my Menstruation App that I’m ovulating.

    I’m really fucked up. I promised myself not to have sex. But I really missed him & we just went through a fight. It was sort of a “makeup ‘sex'”.

    Can I get pregnant from this? Especially hours after trying to have sex, I found out I was ovulating. Is the vaginal bleeding a sign of implatation? Or is it because it’s our first time penis-in-vagina sex? Please reply 🙁

    Needing your help all the way from the Philippines. Thank you 🙁

    1. Hi Maria

      *waves to the Philippines*

      What really really worries me about your comment is how much pain you were in during sex. Sex should not hurt: first time or any time. You are absolutely allowed to say no and he should be better at stopping when he sees that you are in pain. Perhaps think about whether this is a person who cares about your health but also whether you are enjoying sex.

      If he didn’t come inside your vagina you are very unlikely to be pregnant. The bleeding was because the sex was so rough and you weren’t enjoying it. This meant that your vagina wasn’t relaxed or wet enough and so there was bleeding.

      Can you check out these posts from me? I think they might help you.

      http://bishuk.com/2015/03/08/omg-yes-not-for-me-hmmm-working-out-what-sex-you-want-to-have/
      http://bishuk.com/2015/05/28/why-penis-in-vagina-sex-can-be-meh/
      http://bishuk.com/2015/03/08/how-to-sex-talk/
      http://bishuk.com/2010/09/14/female-fertility-explained/

      Justin (BISH)

    2. Hi. Me and my boyfriend fooling round last october 31, nov 2 and 3 and we dis same scenarios. He didnt put “it” in. I am just on top of him and grinding above his penis. The “head of his penis is neAr in my clit and grinding on top of him i am scared because of the precum on his penis’ even though we didint put it in. I am scared if the precum could swim. Because we did this grinding thing for the 4th time this november 3. Can I get pregnant? i am so scared and worried

  81. A couple weeks ago my boy friend wanted to have sex i said no but he insisted i kinda got overwhelmed with feelings but we still didnt actually do it he tried to go in me but it was too painful so i pushed him of a bit he was still humping but he wasnt in me he came on my underwear since that i had my period but i feel that i am pregnant my tummy is swollen at bottom right side and my navel is kinda swollen too am just really worried(I am 17)

    1. Hi Tashi

      Sorry to hear about this. I don’t think you can get pregnant from this, but I’m much more worried about you and your boyfriend.

      It sounds like your boyfriend wasn’t really listening to your “no.” It’s really important that if we say no to someone that they listen otherwise it’s not consensual. What you described was not consensual and he has broken the law – if you wanted you could report this to the Police. Even if you are in a relationship with someone they should stop when you say no. Do you feel safe with him? Does he make you do other things? Can you talk to anyone about him? Have you thought about whether you can be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t respect what you do or don’t want?

      If you want you can ask me more about this and I’ll write you a full response on here. In the meantime maybe you could read the following posts?

      A guide to no
      How’s your relationship?
      Abusive relationships

      Justin

  82. Hey so a few days ago I think maybe two days ago he only stuck it in for like 30 seconds but we didn’t have a condom and I sort of lost track of my period and now I’m scared, there’s a possibility of pre but we don’t know for sure . I’m only 14 and there’s no one in my family I can talk to for a pregnancy test he didn’t cum in me so I don’t think I am but how can I be sure?

  83. Hi,

    so basically my bf and i were curious and he barely went in (like not even to my hymen) unprotected. there was a little bit of precum on his dick but he had peed before i came over and i heard pee kills sperm? im really worried about getting pregnant, i had no idea precum could get you pregnant and now im freaking out! please help 🙁

  84. Me and my boyfriend had sex and it was only in like 2-3 times and it lasted for a minute with no cum and he said he doesn’t have pre cum but even if he did the last time he masterbated was a little more than 24 hours when we had sex and he peed a lot and took showers. Can I be pregnant ?

  85. hi im 18.. i had an unprotected sex on my 13th day.. i have irregular by the range 28-35.. now im on my 36th day and no period and negative.. i knew and believe he didnt ejacuate in me cause he ejacuate soo many outside .. i believe that my late or miss period is because of the stress and fear of preg.. cause ive been searching and worrying about it untill i search on web 24/7 since i had sex

  86. hi im 18.. i had an unprotected sex on my 13th day.. i have irregular by the range 28-35.. now im on my 36th day and no period.. and yesterday i got negative preg .. we both believe he didnt ejacuate inside i trust him cause after he pulled out hw cum soo many inside .. can i still be preg? cause ive been thinking that stress or fear of preg is the actual reason why im late late cause i keep worrying and searching web more or like 24/7 since we had sex

  87. I am having the same issue. His penis was
    Inside for maybe 30 secs cuz it hurt to bad
    He also had a condom on . I’m sure there
    Is no way I could be pregnant rite?

    1. It’s extremely extremely unlikely that you’re pregnant from this (given that he was wearing a condom).

      However, what I’m concerned about is that sex is hurting you. Sex should not hurt. Have a look at some of the articles I have on here about how to make sex feel really pleasurable for both of you (click on the ‘Sex’ category on the toolbar to see these posts).

  88. I did the same thing with one of my really close friends… We just wanted to try it since we were both virgins. I have been freaked about it and I have been stressing myself out so much. So I think this helps! Thank you

  89. Hi

    It’s very unlikely that you are pregnant because he didn’t ejaculate inside your vagina – but there is a small possibility.

    However I have a couple of concerns about this so I think it might be a good idea for you to talk to people like your mum and your doctor. If you can be open with your mum about your period being late is it not possible for you to be open about the sex you’ve been having? It may also be worth talking to the doctor about using some contraception (this is especially recommended with the drug you mention being prescribed to you).

    If you’re having sex where the penis gets near the vagina you are at risk of STI transmission so I would also recommend that you use condoms (even if the penis isn’t going all the way inside you).

    Also is this kind of sex something you really want? If it is great, but there’s something about your comment which makes me wonder whether he is doing this to you with your knowledge and consent – is he? Is he as worried about the risks of this as you. The age gap could be fine, but sometimes a younger partner might not feel as able to say what they want as the older partner is. Just putting that out there for you to think about.

    Here are some links from my site that might help.

    http://bishuk.com/2013/11/30/who-to-talk-to-about-sex-and-how/
    http://bishuk.com/2013/11/21/ask-bish-who-can-i-talk-to-about-anxiety-about-stis-and-pregnancy/
    http://bishuk.com/2013/05/04/ask-bish-really-stressed-about-dry-humping-and-pregnancy/
    http://bishuk.com/2010/09/14/female-fertility-explained/

    Hope that helps

    Justin

    1. The same thing happened me and I went to my doctor and took an emergency contraception pill within 24 hours and he said I am in very low risk in my cycle do you think I could be safe?

  90. Uhmm well this îš new to me.. I’m going to go into a bit of detail now if thats okay.. Im just really stressed out that i might be pregnant.. Im 14 years old and he îš 18.. And i havent really properly have sex yet but my period îš late by 5-7 days-not too sure cause it tends te be either late by a day or two or early in the past, it has been 2 weeks since we have done it and it was about a 1 or 2 weeks after my period finished ..we didnt have sex because of my age and the risk of getting pregnant. He only rubbed his part onto mine for a few seconds and stuck it in at the entrance for less than 1 min ,no movement of up and down.(i found out today that u still can get pregnant even if he just rubs his part against the vagina). He didnt cum or anything since we didnt do it but this late period thing îš really freaking me out.. I’ve been reading and taking online quizzes about the symptoms etc. Besides my period being late i have had none of the rest.Last night in the early morning hours it felt like someone was stabbing me in my appendix? So im not sure if it îš it or cramping from being pregnant. I havent had any cramps since then. My doctor has prescribed a dosage of 40g Roaccutan which this will be my second semester taking. Just thought maybe the increase of dosage might also have an effect on the period thing.. I asked my mom why my period could be late and she just said it could be a normal thing cuz of the hormones etc. i have not taken a pregnancy test yet… Please seeking for some advice and some sort of clearance weither or not this could be a pregnancy?

    1. I am too . Its scary . But its like i have days where i dont stress it at all . Then i have days were i feel as if i am . Its all new to me . I’m scared . Because i know im not ready for a child ..

  91. My question is my boyfriend didn’t ejaculate (we had our clothes on and we touch each other and grinding like dry humped and fingering but he didn’t put his penis inside me) but I did. Is that a chance of getting pregnant?

  92. Okay so I am 15 & I am literally going through the exact same thing . I know nothing happened because he didn’t come in me . He didn’t come at all until later that night when he masturbated . I still am stressing about the fact that I might be pregnant because I got my period a week later , then I haven’t got it since & that was about 3 or 4 months ago . I honestly haven’t gained much weight but I don’t do much working out and there was a routine change because it’s summer vacation . I’m really worried because I still haven’t got it I just don’t see any reason how I could be pregnant . I told my mom (registered nurse) about how I haven’t gotten my period & she said that because of my age , that I could still just be having an irregular period because of it & that stressing out is definitely not a way to get your period back because of the fact that it will delay your period even more so honestly i don’t know . I’m just as lost as you are but I just have my fingers crossed that I’m not .

    1. Irregular periods are common at your age. Stress can make it take even longer to come back. Trust your mom. I have a B.S. in biology.

  93. Its a most common question for the teens who don’t know and aware about the safe sex perfectly, to get rid of the myths and using a precaution is the best idea,

      1. Whoops! Thanks for spotting that. I’ve changed it now, just click on the ‘your questions’ category in the menu.

    1. Hi!! I just want to ask for a friend of mine because she’s so worried if there’s a chance for her to be pregnant.

      She told me that she almost had sex with her boyfriend. There’s no penetration and ejaculation happened, they just rubbed their genitals(penis and vagina) to each other for a couple of minutes. But she’s worried about the ‘pre cum’, if it can make her pregnant? Tho’ she wasn’t surenif there’s pre cum that time.

      I don’t know how to answer her. Could please help me out to help here?

        1. Hi! So last week on Monday, March 23 I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time. At first he used a condom but it broke so he used another one but that one broke also. So we just continued without a condom. We had sex for about 30 minutes I believe, but he didn’t ejaculate. And of course he had pre-cum but he hadn’t masturbated or did anything sexual in over a month for there to be any sperm in the pre cum. I’m on birth control but the day before we had sex which was Sunday, March 22 I missed a pill due to some pharmacy issues but I doubled up on the pill the next day. Could I be pregnant?

          1. If he didn’t ejaculate inside your vagina then it’s very very unlikely that you are pregnant. As I’ve explained in the post above. One thing that concerns me is the condom breaking twice. Maybe if you could read a bit more about How to Use Condoms that would be good. Often for first time sex people don’t realise how wet and relaxed the vagina needs to be. If it isn’t then it can be painful (sex shouldn’t be painful) but also it is more likely to break condoms. Your boyfriend should be more gentle and should not be pushing his penis inside you roughly. Have a read of my stuff about how to have sex, how to make first time sex good, and how vaginas work.

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